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Topic: divorce
troubleangel25 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 102	Wed 10/15/08 11:47 AM
i got married when i was 18. and he asked for a divorce well i found out he cheated on me as long as at least 2 yrs from what i know. i was trying to be civil with him but it is near impossible.has anyone had a separation or divorce civil in a situation like that? anyone have any tips for someone going through separation and divorce?

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 10/15/08 11:48 AM
Anger is as strong as love. It's not over unless you are apathetic.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Wed 10/15/08 11:48 AM
if there are kids and property involved,the attorneys win

heartSoul Joined Sun 08/26/07 Posts: 6038	Wed 10/15/08 11:50 AM
if there are kids and property involved,the attorneys win ain't that the truth

troubleangel25 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 102	Wed 10/15/08 11:51 AM
i was very angry when i found out still am a lil but now its now that he doesnt want to file. and i just want to move on and find a decent guy again. luckily no children or property.

SuzinVA Joined Wed 04/25/07 Posts: 28730	Wed 10/15/08 11:53 AM
So, he doesn't want to file. Big deal, doesn't mean you can't, if that's what you want.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 10/15/08 11:53 AM
My ex moved upstairs into the woman's apartment. My friend. Convenient, huh? Three weeks later she got pregnant. They are married with 2 kids. Better her than me. I got out. He is her problem now, with his video gaming, masturbating ten times a day, lying, lazy, fired from ever job he's ever had, good for nothing stupid azz. See, once I saw him clearly, I say this not with rancor, just with fact. It is a fact. You need to get over yourself. Get over being embarrassed you married a loser. It's not your fault, you didn't deserve it, and you are better off. You are NOT a failure. Now hold your head up high and go find a good therapist. You need a venting place.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Wed 10/15/08 11:53 AM
i was very angry when i found out still am a lil but now its now that he doesnt want to file. and i just want to move on and find a decent guy again. luckily no children or property. get the papers.....you can even get a do it yourself divorce online cheap. If you want it done.......get it done yourself!!!

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Wed 10/15/08 11:57 AM
i was very angry when i found out still am a lil but now its now that he doesnt want to file. and i just want to move on and find a decent guy again. luckily no children or property. you can be the petitioner,hell if there is no kids or property ,its uncontested and if he refuses to sign papers,you tell the judge and you can still get the divorce,even without him there,plus you can get your maiden name back.

troubleangel25 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 102	Wed 10/15/08 11:57 AM
im planning on getting the papers soon and get away from him.the bad thing is he tried to kiss my 1 friend on our wedding day and didnt find out til a month ago. i found a real loser. i wasnt happy anyway he just married me for what money i had anyway.

sandykcan Joined Tue 12/19/06 Posts: 1	Wed 10/15/08 12:12 PM
I am not sure if you have children. But it is best if you do if you can get over it and be somewhat friendly. My husband cheated on me and walked out too..I was mad for a awhile and then realized it was not all him. I took responsibility for some of it. I let go of the anger and we became great friends and were there for each other and our kids to try and move on in life and wished each other to be happy , because that made all of us happy..of course he still irked me sometimes..lol..but It is best to move forward and understand you are better off. Be happy , hope he is and it will all work. honestly...It doesnt hurt to have him as a friend.

TwoTallOne Joined Thu 01/04/07 Posts: 16854	Wed 10/15/08 12:17 PM
My ex moved upstairs into the woman's apartment. My friend. Convenient, huh? Three weeks later she got pregnant. They are married with 2 kids. Better her than me. I got out. He is her problem now, with his video gaming, masturbating ten times a day, lying, lazy, fired from ever job he's ever had, good for nothing stupid azz. See, once I saw him clearly, I say this not with rancor, just with fact. It is a fact. You need to get over yourself. Get over being embarrassed you married a loser. It's not your fault, you didn't deserve it, and you are better off. You are NOT a failure. Now hold your head up high and go find a good therapist. You need a venting place. I agree , AS ALWAYS with Lilith, mine walked across the street , to MY married with children buddy as well. and I said the same thing .. seeya .. watch that door doesn't CRACK your fat azz more then it is ... BUT I digress, VENT with someone who knows how to handle it OR a professional.. trust me it will make you feel WAY better about yourself GOOD LUCK

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76412	Wed 10/15/08 12:20 PM
It is easy as can be get a lawyer and get the divorce or file your self he don't have to file you can if he refuses to sign so what take it to a judge he will end it anyway. Be glad you found out before any kids were involved. Turn your back shut the door and walk away.

Mentork Joined Sun 10/05/08 Posts: 779	Wed 10/15/08 12:20 PM Edited by Mentork on Wed 10/15/08 12:22 PM
A girl!!! and she's soon to be single!! and she's (about) my age! Pulls out flowers, chocolates, and a lottery ticket

ADiamond Joined Sat 12/08/07 Posts: 2375	Wed 10/15/08 12:21 PM
if there are kids and property involved,the attorneys win ain't that the truth Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!

SuzinVA Joined Wed 04/25/07 Posts: 28730	Wed 10/15/08 12:22 PM
A girl!!! and she's soon to be single!! and she's (about) my age! Pulls out flowers, chocolates, and a lottery ticket Good luck to ya (P.S., if she doesn't like chocolate, I do )

ADiamond Joined Sat 12/08/07 Posts: 2375	Wed 10/15/08 12:23 PM
My ex moved upstairs into the woman's apartment. My friend. Convenient, huh? Three weeks later she got pregnant. They are married with 2 kids. Better her than me. I got out. He is her problem now, with his video gaming, masturbating ten times a day, lying, lazy, fired from ever job he's ever had, good for nothing stupid azz. See, once I saw him clearly, I say this not with rancor, just with fact. It is a fact. You need to get over yourself. Get over being embarrassed you married a loser. It's not your fault, you didn't deserve it, and you are better off. You are NOT a failure. Now hold your head up high and go find a good therapist. You need a venting place. Wonderfully Put!!!!!!!!!!

NURSE2000 Joined Wed 04/02/08 Posts: 606	Thu 10/16/08 09:18 PM
i was very angry when i found out still am a lil but now its now that he doesnt want to file. and i just want to move on and find a decent guy again. luckily no children or property. good girl i was officially divorced as of 9-24-08. but separated for over a year and we still love each other as friends, not lovers. I have moved on and am looking to see what is out there. He has not. But he had his chance, He blew it time to move on I say.. Only you can make tht decision

NURSE2000 Joined Wed 04/02/08 Posts: 606	Thu 10/16/08 09:22 PM
i was very angry when i found out still am a lil but now its now that he doesnt want to file. and i just want to move on and find a decent guy again. luckily no children or property. good girl i was officially divorced as of 9-24-08. but separated for over a year and we still love each other as friends, not lovers. I have moved on and am looking to see what is out there. He has not. But he had his chance, He blew it time to move on I say.. Only you can make tht decision and you are ready you then divorce him.

catwoman96 Joined Thu 08/14/08 Posts: 5848	Thu 10/16/08 09:23 PM
its tough........I wish you luck