Always a bad idea period. My ex-wife ended our marriage with an affair with a married coworker old enough to be her father. She was played like a violin. As soon as I was out of the picture they broke up. People are so selfish and dumb.

True and funny.There are allot of divorced people here I am one. I find it comical that people insist on asking me what happened and when I get into tactfully telling the story they suddenly have to Go do something and won't speak to me again
after all they asked.Everyone has baggage whether they have been married or not everyone has an ex in their subconscious mind just lurking there. I really do find it amusing.

I think woman are cautious because there are so many players out there that Manipulate woman with emotion to get what they want from them which is to get horizontal.It really is sick some guys and I know a few make a hobby of manipulating woman
just to get what they want >sex< and then dump them cold. This is why they may seem overly cautious and cold.

Everyone wants to be loved truly and unconditionally. Unfortunately there are allot of BROKEN people out there who don't know what love is or have their own concept of what it is.Some people live in a fantasy world though. They meet someone and they build this elaborate fantasy around that person then when the person and relationship does not live up to or match that fantasy they get all freaked out and destroy the relationship because they are upset that the fantasy was not fulfilled.I believe that there is someone for everyone I think the key is DO NOT settle or accept anyone's bad behavior hoping it will get better.

The problem is allot of people here have been hurt before and are leery of someone who comes off as nice and decent they don't believe it's true and he must be a bull sh***ing player.
If you are a nice decent guy some people mistake your good nature for weakness and try to take advantage and test you by pushing you and your buttons to see how you really are.Personally I am tired of the games people play.People come on here say they want a relationship and maybe take a message out of context and ignore the person.It's just like making a 1st impression. What if you meet someone who is having a really bad day and it effects your impression of them our society is so closed minded that they don't give people a second chance they go by that 1st meeting>such a shame that people can't get beyond the the facade our society puts up.

There are decent guys in New Jersey. I am one of them :). What I have noticed about online dating sites is that allot of the people on here have been beat up,cheated on,betrayed or just hurt by an ex or past relationships.With that said I also noticed that people have some really high expectations and others are going purely by the pics they see Ughhhh!! It's a catch 22 if I post I am single and my kids are grown up I get what happened to the wife/marriage so I start talking about that in a tactful way and get blown off/ignored cause people don't want to hear what they just asked about>go figure. If I post that I am divorced I get the same thing.

I have had several dells (laptops) haven't had one problem. I have also repaired numerous dell desktops for coworkers. Mostly spyware and virus infected pcs from guys who do things they shouldn't and have no clue to the malicious stuff that's out there.Why do they insist on using Internet explorer?