I may not be a woman and I've never been physically abused by one but I know what it's like to be asaulted by a psycho with severe anger problems.

In a lot of these abuse cases what happens is that they have issues that they haven't really dealt with and they get angry and abuse their partner. Then they say that they are sorry and that they will never do it again and so it goes on. Many abusers will actually try to get help because they do hate themselves because of what they are doing and perhaps they also hate themselves for some other reason that is the underlying problem.

So yeah, I'm a man but I do think that I understand why someone would stay in an abusive relationship with someone that they loved that was saying that they were going to change or wanted to. These people need professional help though and are unlikely to change their behaviour otherwise, so if they aren't prepared to get help with anger management and therepy you should just get the hell out of there I would say, even if it means staying in a refuge or homeless hostel for a while.

Hello Athena……just a thought here but I couldn’t help but notice that 75 percent of your question is dedicated to the presumed demise of the hypothetical relationship. Perhaps if 75 percent was reserved for the success of this hypothetical romance then there may be no question to ask.
Just an observation.

if he doesn't trust me at my word why are we making future plans at all that involve each other on a personal level...?

When someone is being abused, it's their fault, rather than the fault of the one doing the abusing?

My mum has been on my neck since the turn of the year about marriage,Im confused because I don't think Im ready for that...What exact age can a lady be said,marriageable?

Relationships shouldn't be taken as Contracts. Issues like dis should be of Little importance. I think People Should be Concerned about Pleasing each other, ratha than Worry about what Belongs 2 who.

#My Opinion#

No... I hadn't thought about it to that extent.. but thanks for opening my eyes...

Many often we confuse the difference between sex and making love. Some often compare the two as being the same thing. Most people do not realize that there is a difference between these two. Let's start with sex. To me sex is something that doesn't often involve real feelings or even a committed, real relationship. Many people have a "friend with benefits," which is what I would put under the category of sex. Often times there are others who seek pleasure from one-nights stand .Love making When two people who are in love with each other, and who share that emotional bond with one another, they care very much about making their partner feel cherished. When someone who is in love makes love to their partner, they take care of all their needs, not just sexually. They will take time by doing foreplay and making their lover feel loved. They are attentive to their partners every needs and desires. They get more joy out of satisfying them then they do themselves. Often times, they do not always need to be satisfied while making love. Making love between two people who are in love is often slow and intimate. After lovemaking many couples that love one another will hold and cuddle their lover as a deeper form of intimacy afterwards. This also brings the lovers together and they connect deeper on that emotional bond. At least for me that is how I am what about you .

Yes, but a single man is capable of at least the basic "female roles", or his house would be a pigsty, his clothes would reek, and he'd probably be starving. Unless he hires those chores out.

Subject # 1… Do you return to an ex?

You start dating someone new, and your ex, who you’ve broken up with finds out, and now they want you back, and do everything within their power to remind you of why you are so good together, and they’re really sorry things didn’t work out before, but the two of you know in your hearts you should be together. Do you leave your new lover and return to the other one, or put the last lover on hold while you see if this new relationship turns serious, only going back to the other one if this new one doesn’t work out?

Subject # 2… Do you do as you’re told?

Let’s say you are still abiding by old school convention in your intimate relationships, in which the man continues to hold the majority of sway over his woman/wife, to the point where he advises her on how to dress, the amount of makeup she can wear, her friends she can/can’t hang out with, he requires her to tell him where she’s going and with whom, and that she stays in contact with him via cell/text while she’s away from the house… simultaneously, both partners work and bring home the bacon, and they split their living expenses equally, like roommates do... yet the man spends the rest of his income on himself, and requires the woman to spend the rest of her income on herself… so, in this type of scenario, is the woman obligated to follow/obey the man’s advice about how he wants her to conduct herself as his other half… or can she just do as she likes, ignoring what he wants, because he’s not providing for her financially?

Subject # 3… What would you say if?

We’re here Mingling with people we’d like to befriend, and possibly even become romantically involved with. Some of us, who are single and actively participating on the forums, disclose things about ourselves that we don’t mind letting everyone know because it’s not sensitive information. Plus, by opening up like this we make it easier to become acquainted with each other. And, if in the process of becoming cyber-friends we happen to meet the next love of our lives, we’ll share even more personal things about ourselves with each other. So, what is something about your expectations of a new partner that you two would discuss on your first date? Such as: you do/don’t want someone with pets, do/don’t want someone with tattoos, do/don’t want someone who smokes/drinks, do/don’t want someone with college degrees, etc… this is your chance to put it all on the table so as not to waste either of your time with more dates that end up going nowhere… so what did you need to air to shorten this process?