please any thoughts are wecome

is this a question?

This is a post from my blog that addresses the first part of the topic.

Attributes of a Modern Gentleman

*He's well mannered and polite, but that doesn't mean he suffers fools easily.
*He says what he means, but he may not tell you everything and you may not like what you hear.
*He doesn't play head games and he doesn't put up with them.
*He strives for a stress free life and works to eliminate any chaotic influences.
*He can be ruthless when it's called for.
*He maintains a cool head and seldom gets in a rush.
*He never complains. If something troubles him he gets rid of it or gets used to it.
*He puts his income above everything else. Because without it, he cannot meet the needs of anything else.
*He doesn't give his word lightly and when he does it's not easily broken.
*He knows himself and what he needs to be happy.
*He knows his strengths and weaknesses.
*He's open minded, but doesn't change his views easily.
*He doesn't argue, but may enjoy a passionate exchange of ideas.
*He doesn't force, he persuades and influences.
*As for sex, he'll let his desires be known. But, if the attraction isn't mutual, he'll move on quickly. He knows there are plenty of fish in the sea.

http://borninabailofbutcherknives.blogspot.com/2012/07/attributes-of-modern-gentleman.html

Fatherhood is providing a child with a healthy male role model.

Romance is nonsense. It's nothing but a feeble attempt to buy a woman's affections through gifts or deeds. I'd rather just be myself.

Real men really are real fathers and have real romance!

I think the greatest "gift" a man can give to his children is "healing" his past relationships with the opposite sex...This might involve "old issues" with his mother or sisters...And other relationships in the past that "went sour" and ended badly...Kids need good role models and "tips" about how to resolve problems in relationships in healthy and constructive ways...This is how I feel anyway. Parents are "teachers." Our kids learn about all aspects of life from us.

Thank you for this succinct definition of a man. You can also add:
"If love, family or real woman is not found, he lives without.

Real man takes responsibility for what he does.
Real father is there for his children and works for them to have a better future.
Real romance requires caring, love and devotion.

ive been a single parent for 12 years 24hrs 7 days a week no help from friends or family no holidays ect i push my self every day i leeft my job too take up the rains after finding too many bruises on my new born from his mum ,she is out the picture but had visitation rights granted but 6 weeks later washed her hands now and every so many years my son.get either a xmass card or b/day card . but no real momma in his life im old fashioned in my grandpapa bringing me up on how to treat a lady or politness ,and he is a gentleman as me .advice i tried to get but alass nowere to find any as most groups i find are fem orientated and some new one`s im made to feel uncomfortable in by many and i only went some these places to give my kid a start in shareing and playing with other kids .yes swallowed my pride . i know far too much about wpomen than i should from these groups ,but hey i didnt know not too learn some things i was too desparate too learn *** 999 was getting annoyed at how panicy i got at the least lil sweat rash or so lol. but i learned a lot and continuid but . any tears i ever had were not for my ex and relationship but what kind of relationship can i give my kid on my own ..if i showed my pic i understand folk would wonder why im still single ... but why should i allow my book too bee judged b4 me .that way i might meet a real girl and one who dosent like a cheat ,but have a real man struggling but never lying or hidding the truth

ps: i was a battered ex though i was a doorman who loved his kid and took it stupidly at the start .

ive been a single parent for 12 years 24hrs 7 days a week no help from friends or family no holidays ect i push my self every day i leeft my job too take up the rains after finding too many bruises on my new born from his mum ,she is out the picture but had visitation rights granted but 6 weeks later washed her hands now and every so many years my son.get either a xmass card or b/day card . but no real momma in his life im old fashioned in my grandpapa bringing me up on how to treat a lady or politness ,and he is a gentleman as me .advice i tried to get but alass nowere to find any as most groups i find are fem orientated and some new one`s im made to feel uncomfortable in by many and i only went some these places to give my kid a start in shareing and playing with other kids .yes swallowed my pride . i know far too much about wpomen than i should from these groups ,but hey i didnt know not too learn some things i was too desparate too learn *** 999 was getting annoyed at how panicy i got at the least lil sweat rash or so lol. but i learned a lot and continuid but . any tears i ever had were not for my ex and relationship but what kind of relationship can i give my kid on my own ..if i showed my pic i understand folk would wonder why im still single ... but why should i allow my book too bee judged b4 me .that way i might meet a real girl and one who dosent like a cheat ,but have a real man struggling but never lying or hidding the truth

well said

A Real Man ... How do you even put that in a box, I have met real men who are as rough as guts, but they are great blokes and definately real men. Then you meet men who are softer and show their feelings easily, others who have been hurt and struggle with adiction or anger problems, I cant really see how any are less of a man, they all feel love and try, just each has differnt ways of showing things and coping with the world.

Real Father, a real father is the man who loves his children, whether they are his or not.

Real Romance.. Anything that is done just because you love someone.

Real men have nothing to prove to anyone but themselves...real men make great fathers and lovers. You practice being a real man and it shows in everything you do....ima keep practicing...lol