I have to confess that I am sensitive to other people’s reactions and feelings… and it pains me to bring pain to others, because I can actually feel what they feel… my mom said it’s because I’m a triple Cancer… both my parents were born in July and so was I… and I know my moods and feelings can change drastically when the moon does her thing… regardless to whether there is any true zodiac influence involved or not, because I could be just a freak of nature, I easily pick up vibes and nuances, and can cry at the drop of a hat… but, despite my emotional proclivities, I also try to incorporate logic into my reasoning when dealing with everyday life issues… sometimes I do well, and maintain my balance… and sometimes my feelings overwhelm me to the point where they can control me, until I regain my grip…

What about you Minglers…

Can you handle life’s issues with a lesser degree of emotion, having more of a take charge, do as I say, not as I do attitude… I'm not inferring that you’re mean or negative about anything, just that you are tough (strong) and decisive, and can easily control your environment…

Or, are you more on the sensitive and/or amenable side… though not being a push over, you prefer a softer approach to controlling your environment...

I try to be soft for humanity's sake, but I'm really an ornery ol cuss.

Steel magnolia :-)

oooh c'mon, hippie, that's hard to believe about you... I think I would have picked up that kind of vibe if that were really true...

hi soufie, I swear, I love this profile picture of you... it is so mesmerizing and stands out more than any other I've seen... it tells it's own story... and it's so soft and delicate it hardly reflects steel... but if you say so... than I have to accept it...

It's a quiet strength :-)
And thank you, first pic I took when I started out here,
I liked that is was all grainy and out of focus, like me hahaha

I thought this thread was about toilet paper. I sometimes cry when I get the tough as nails kind.

The grainy focus adds to its charm... to me it has a spiritual quality to it...

and I laugh just as easily as I can cry... you're a funny one... TBRich...

Sure, I do handle issues with lesser emotion. Emotions makes one break down. Whenever I go into something I prepare myself for the worst than for the best. That makes it easy to control my emotions. With respect to other people, I feel emotional when I look into someones eyes and see their pain and not their tears; not every tear is caused by pain.

I know huh, makes yu want to take some soft Charmin to his azz :-)

I'm a softy that's had to learn to be hard. I too am sensitive to the feelings of others and really dislike saying no. But, if you don't draw lines and bounders people will take advantage of you. I'm still more than willing to pitch in and help, but I stop before I begin hurting myself. It doesn't make saying no any easier though.

Normally I can handle most things that come my way... Have learned to deal with life as it comes and make the best of it... Sure I'm soft hearted to a point... Now if one takes advantage of my kindness I can be the worst nightmare they have dealt with..... Very seldom has it ever come to that point.... And yeah I still cry when watching a sad movie. Have been known to cry when someone I know is hurting...But have also been known to take charge of things and try to see the best of the situation and help them through what life has dealt them....and try to help them see the brighter side of life....

I am so sensitive, insecure of all the things and i also learn to be tough. Put a mask on and have a poker face. Anger helps me to it. Sometimes im tough when someone is on a state of emotional pity. I experienced it, its hard when no one is around to comfort you in times of difficulty. I dont want them to feel alone. Evrn though sometimes i think its unfair on my side.

Muaness, good to see you again... i agree about preparing for the worst while hoping for the best... sometimes I wish I could return to the naivete of beginnings though, before I learned my first life lesson, that things aren't always what they appear to be... and that love and respect doesn't mean the same to everyone...

How I've had to learn that lesson the hard way so many times... until now I can read the signs pretty quickly and change course before it's too late... but you're right... sometimes saying no makes me feel so bad sometimes... but when I see they want to persist, like I'm just a push over, then I get quietly angry, and that helps me to shut the door even faster...

I can definitely relate, txsgal, to your compassion and strength... life teaches us when to give, and what not to take...

you're learning life's lessons well, winlei... never give away any more than you can comfortably live without...

I am tough as nails but I attribute that to my military career. I find it hard to be a softy as I have always been the one that people lean on and count on to be strong. I couldn't even cry at either one of my parent's funerals. That last time I cried was 2003 and that was because I was in a very bad car accident that caused me a lot of pain and even then I tried to hide the tears from anyone in public.