We meet online, live 50 or more miles apart, and have been seeing each other for some months, traveling back and forth between residents mainly on weekends spending quality time together while also satisfying our sexual connection… all things are going good between us and we decide to become more serious about our commitment, eventually agreeing on monogamy… as time goes on, gas prices start to rise, and it becomes more costly to continue round trip sexcapades… so we decide to take one more serious step to keep our relationship together, by one of us giving up our residence to move in with the other… in order to retain our individual property that we bring into the now combined relationship, should we draw up and sign a binding document that details what belongs to whom, and that we will take our things with us should the relationship dissolve? Because possession is 9/10th the law, when a break up occurs and tempers might be flaring, the one who remains in the residence is able to legally retain possession of all material assets until the one moving out can prove what property is theirs… so advance preparation to cover both our buttz with a binding agreement will make the breaking up process easier and quicker… but… how do you personally feel about taking these kinds of advance safety precautions when just starting out in a relatively new relationship?

I rent my home and don't need any agreement or contract about that stuff.

cool...

Yes, draw up the document! If I had a livin Man he would be my Fiance and we would have a wedding date set. I would not move in without any paper work signed.

Issues are proned to occuring in a relationship that might even result in the end of such a relationship....but that does'nt mean i should be expecting a breakup by entering into any sort of aggreement or whatever.....

toody, I truly like your style...

Although it is not a marriage at the moment, I would definitely have what is known as a "prenuptial agreement" drawn up, detailing all the ownership information you have described, in the event of the relationship/marriage ending. Effective immediately, to cover your new proposed joint living arrangements and possible future marriage. If you are both of the same good intentions it should not matter to have one, because it will never be needed, but better for both of you in my opinion, for peace of mind. Personally, I would not enter in to this arrangement, or marriage, without one.

Hi Solace, it's good to see you... and I do appreciate your honest response... it is unnerving to anticipate an ending before the beginning is ours to move forward...

hello Duttoneer, we are easily in agreement...

It is nice to travel light. The commitment makes the difference in the seriousness of the relationship. Which begs the question sometimes of which is more important the friendship or the relationship? I like to fallback on "To thine own self be true". Because one should have a relationship with one's self before getting into a relationship with another. Which I think looks at the relationship business like. One can understand this as you keep what is yours and they only keep what is theirs. It makes sense to me anyways.

I think you should go ahead and draw up and sign a binding document that details what belongs to whom the relationship can still last forever but do the right ok.To me is better to move in after marriage

It's a fair question to raise, especially when you consider that contacts are common in our every day lives. When you buy a car, you enter into a contract; when you purchase a home, you enter into a contract; when you take a job offer, you sign a contract. It's almost as if it is taboo to even consider a relationship contract.

"Hi sweetie. I know we have been talking about moving in together, and I think that is great. It is truly what I want. However, I was talking to my lawyer and we wrote up a relationship contract that states what is mine is mine, and what is yours is yours. Now, this contract is to only be there as a precaution should we decide to end our relationship. I do not, in any way shape or form, believe we will have to use this. However, just in case, and to help us both avoid a huge legal battle should a break up happen, this document will be enforced to help us through that tough time. Trust me honey; this is for the best. You will thank me should we ever decide to end things".

I would suggest having a mediator present.

Prenuptial agreements are common sense nowadays.

Yep :)

Ideally, I would not want to move in with someone I would not be willing to give everything I have.

At least I don’t have to wonder why I’m still single.

you'd be surprised how many people get together just to have what belongs to others, then try to keep it during the break up... burn me once shame on you........

hi minemine, nice to meet you... and a prenuptial agreement prior to marriage is very helpful too...

so long as the mediator isn't hand picked either... been there, done that, won't do it again...

especially with the fast turn arounds of some relationships..

that is funny...