no way do I think a man should 'always' pay for a date....that is so wrong I think...

think of it this way (ladies)...

Let's say you meet someone and hit it off and there is a date planned...when there you discover this person (who is still basically a stranger to your life) insists on you paying for everything you do...How would that make you feel ?

It's disrespectful, period, in my opinion, to expect another person to "ALWAYS" pay for everything, either way. If two people start a relationship and truly respect one another it's really no problem at all to take turns paying for things done together. That shows mutual respect, and that's needed to have a great relationship.

Maybe I am too independent-minded, but I do not think I am -- ...opening doors, being gentlemen is a great thing -- just do not understand the role that's been placed on men to take care of paying for everything too.

removed it...was just me holding a sign that said "Vote" next to my cleavage...but Lord help me...only had it up 10 minutes and was getting perverted messages, so I decided to remove it...and no...it wasn't 'that bad' either....

definitely do...

ha...well at least he got a ring with the cowboys, although he didn't really do too much, right?

the dog pound is fun, I was there years ago for a game....my brother still swears Bernie Kosar was the best QB ever! ha

oh this is not right, ha ha

only 2 replies so far and BOTH are Cowboy fans...

booooooooooooooooooo!

jk - that's funny...

and if so who is your favorite team?

Mine is the Minnesota Vikings, have seasons tickets to the Houston Texans -- and even have a fantasy team, which I've done for years.

I think I get into it more than most men...

((one team I do not like at all is the Cowboys!))

creative way to, sure.

honestly I'm to new on here, and haven't looked at many profiles at all...

just changed my main picture though to help remind people to get out and vote...

democrat/republican - however you believe, let it be known.

it's really a decision that each person should make for themselves and have it in writing so no loved one would have to decide what to do...

I lost the man I was to marry 16 months ago to brain cancer...throughout his battle with cancer there were many hard things that had to be discussed....He had made it clear to myself and his best friend what his wishes were, to not be hooked up to 'life support'...he once asked me that should it come to that for me to tell them to pull the plug - he said out of respect for him....I asked him out of respect for me, to please not put all that on me.

So we talked with someone at the hospital about it, and they gave us papers to fill out that would be kept on his file.

You can research online to find what they are, and do all to make them 'legal' (which is really just having them notarized), and make sure different people have copies.

It is not a 'fun' subject to discuss at all.... -- and many think it's easy to want to honor someone's wishes, because that's the right thing to do.

I can tell you, when you're actually put in that moment, and you know by words from your mouth, and signing your name to a piece of paper, the person you love will be forever gone, it's a verrrrrrrrry difficult thing to do.

NO person should have to make that decision alone....

so yes...please take the time to make it yourself.

I think many are too 'afraid' of the solitary moments instead of embracing them and learning from them.

In my experience, love is never something that can really be 'found', it's felt, and usually when you least expect it to happen.

I do like how you think.

isn't the truth that a lot of men just do not 'think' with the right 'head'...that sums it all up in a nutshell (ha, couldn't resist saying that)

ok seriously....no man (or women for men out there) is worth feeling dragged down or sad over...and if anyone ever treats you in ways that are not good for you, don't wait to give them the satisfaction of letting you down -- stop the communication yourself.

I know it's said often - and many do not take it to heart as they should -- love yourself first, then honestly all the 'game playing' can not hurt you.

Life is too short and beautiful to waste it asking the question "Why?" about to much of anything....

you're welcome...

very nicely put...

thanks for sharing with us.

wow...just checking back on here after last night and there are so many interesting conversations happening...

so basically the best idea is to read kinky books by soft light together, with music on maybe in the background...and some want their feet massaged...OH...almost forgot...some movie with brain splatting gets others going too... ha

I was thinking the replies would be all "Hallmarked" out, sappy stuff..., but hey, everyone has different ideas of what romance is.

for me, being all cuddled up watching a football game then Rocky II would be good ;)

just proving the point...we're all different...and that's a good thing.

thanks everyone for replying -- some neat thoughts...

must say - right now the thought of just falling asleep in someone's arms sounds very nice.

I have a bad cold/cough, so I need to get my buttocks to bed.

Sweet dreams everyone.
Dawn

30 minute foot massage...that would be the end of me... -- my feet are very sensitive and ticklish... ha

cuddled up on a couch with someone you care a lot about...

What would make you feel the best at that moment?


To watch tv/movie -- and what tv show or movie would you like to watch?


to read together ? newspaper/magazine/book


to just talk ? (I know...scary...ha)


(((the obvious is making out, etc...trying to steer away from that -- this is about what happens 'before' all that...)))


Curious to see how everyone will answer...

Daisy Rogers

I went through cancer with the man I loved and he passed away almost 16 months ago...

Obviously due to being terminally ill we had spoke of death a great deal... He had no fear of it at all - his only fear was how his death would be for those left behind...the most important thing I guess is living your life in a way where those you care for know that you do, and truly enjoying every day you have...because you never know when it's your time.

I was with him the morning he died - there was a hospice nurse at the house and she told me it was happening. So I went in to hold him and make sure he felt loved and like it was "Okay" to let go... There was no fear, no pain, no tears at the moment it happened... we smiled at each other, said a few things, I kissed him and then there was just peace....it was the most heartbreaking beautiful moment of my life... and in that moment I learned, death really is nothing to fear at all...

Not living life where you're loved and smiling at the end of it is what there is to fear.