My first real job was being a Strip Dancer; I was staying with relatives down in Mexico and my Spanish was deplorable, but there were a number of Americans who came to be entertained so speaking English was a plus.
I had moved in with a cousin of mine who taught me how to do everything in dancing; it kind a helped that she got me halfway drunk the first few lessons on what to do, but I needed money and it was the only place that would hire me.

After too many guys like you; I'd dump you for asking for it as you value the act more than the person.

Lots of businesses are leaving California, as are those who are willing to relocate to find jobs; most of the people who are moving to my former home state are looking for the easy life off the generous Welfare=Slavery, just stand in line and vote Democratic, payouts as those who remain are paying ever higher taxes as the Slaves keeps voting for more and more Welfare as the State grows even more powerful.
A Government large enough to provide everything, is powerful enough to take everything; glad that I'm living elsewhere.

Life is precious; you only get one.
If you're thinking of killing yourself, get help.

What, me worry?
I would tell him; er, um, oh, "Look at this posting here" or "How that person replied" as we both laugh at it.
I don't hide my account here from him; just as I don't play with people here. I'm merely passing the time.

Money will always fly out of the hands of those who are careless with it, and into the bank accounts of those who value it; here's a real simple plan to get out of that cycle you spoke of.

First, Make a Budget for Every Dollar that You Spend for that Paycheck, Give Every Dollar a Name and once you have made your Budget, Follow it to the Letter.
Step 1: Save up $1,000 Dollar Emergency Fund.
Step 2: From Smallest to Largest, pay off all your debts but the Mortgage; Credit Cards, Car Loans, anything and everything as you sell everything that you don't need and eat beans & rice meals until everything is paid off.
Step 3: Build Up Your Emergency Fund to 3 - 6 Months of expenses.
Step 3B if you don't have a Mortgage, save up a Min of 20% of the Value of a House; far better to save 100% if you can.
Steps 4, 5, & 6: Put 15% of everything you make towards retirement, fund your children education, and pay off your mortgage.
Step 7: Make a Bunch of Money, and Give Some to Charity.
People who follow such a plan are completely Debt Free on an average 7yrs.

It's the Plan that My Husband and I followed from the time we were together; now he has a Property Management Company, Some Off-Shoot Businesses, (Tree Removal and the like) some Rental Properties, and half owner of a Class 3 FFL; as I own a Gas Station, some Rental Properties (Separate from my Husband's; which he manages for me) and Half of a Class 3 FFL, (My Husband is my Partner) as I'm looking to open another Gas Station in the next year or two. And we both started off dirt poor; I from a Family that lived to milk Welfare by any means possible, and he recovering from having the IRS take everything away from him "On a Technicality" which in '98 during Congressional Hearings we learned that IRS Agents, as a matter of SOP, lies, cheats, steels, and defrauds Tax Payers just to get larger bonuses and faster promotions. And for the record, all that Congress did about it was make speeches as they left the IRS to police itself; all the crooks were promoted, and the Whistle Blowers were fired as Malcontent Trouble Makers (PBS Frontline '99)

I'm honest and upfront that I'm married, and I'm only on this site to pass the time when I'm working nights when my mean old boss makes me work nights.

The meanest boss you'll ever have is when you're self employed as your boss is the biggest *** of a boss you'll ever have; but I least she can't fire me no matter how I bad mouth her. Lol.

Anywho, I'm not looking for a boyfriend/lover, I'm just passing time as my paperwork is over, the floor is swept and mopped, the bathrooms are clean and I'm waiting on the early morning rush.

You're looking at a "Dating site" for a "Serious Relationship?"
Not saying that it wouldn't happen, but I'd bet that off the top of your head, you can think of two, maybe three places in the real world where you can find Mr. Right. You know the places that I mean. I'm merely on here to chat with people to pass the time away while I'm working.

And I heard that Agnostics were Honest Atheists; as Atheists, when backed into a corner will admit that they don't know if there's a god or no. And it's I before E except after C, or sounds like A; you mis-spelled Atheist.

I freely admit that I'm a Bi-Sexual Agnostic who is married to the best man that I've ever met.

My Husband didn't marry his first wife until after he served 3 tours as a Marine; things happened, they got divorced, and then he met me; now his first wife wishes she had stuck with him after they hit rock bottom because after a few years he came back stronger than before.

If you don't like what you're paid, up the value of your labor by learning something; the Average Self-Made Millionaire reads one Non-Fiction Book a Month. Maybe a book on Workplace Leadership one month, a book on how to handle money another, something that deals organizing, or a book on science, math, interpersonal relationships, how to fix a sink, build a deck, other.
You will be the same person 5yrs from now as you are today but for the books you read and the people you meet; so what books are you reading, and what people are you getting to know?

For $500 one can find a Doctor to write out that you're 100% Disable, without an exam even; or that was the price my parents each paid when they bought their Disability from a crooked Doctor. What did my Parents get for "Working the System?" A lifetime of Poverty, children attending failing schools that taught sex more than anything else, living in high crime neighborhoods where people (Even children) are assaulted in broad daylight, one of their sons driving into a tree after doing coke to "Sober Up" after partying all night, as their other son went to prison for raping the witness of a crime; really worked out very well for them, but it's all the fault of those Racist Whites who run the Government.

Yes, I did make chooses; some good, others bad, but I will not take Welfare=Slavery.
I will not become a Slave to the Government as I own my own person, my own labor, and the property that I had earned through my labor. I'm not willing to surrender any of it by taking Welfare.

There are Male Strip Bars, both Gay & Straight; so I would guess a number of Fine Looking Guys could find such a job.

I'm going on Principle as all that I have is a GED as my parents (Who hadn't work an honest day that I ever knew about) soaked Welfare for all that they could get, and sent me off to Mexico to stay with relatives with I was 15. They thought that they were being "Smart," now on Social Security (Which doesn't pay nearly enough) they look to me to make up for what they don't get; they could spend me back into poverty three times over if I'd let them.

I currently live in a rather rural area; but here, or in the city, with, or without a car, I can find work because I will not take Welfare=Slavery. I taught that work ethic to my children as my Daughter (Who is single) works two jobs (An Office Job, and working in a Bakery part-time) as my youngest, who is 15yrs Old, works for his father when he's out of School; no Snow Days for him from work as he rides around with his Father checking properties for repairs in the bitter cold.

Both of you are ignoring my point; the work is out there if one would only look; but then, even Frederick Douglass, Booker Washington, and Carter Woodson had their detractors who would rather remain ignorant than face the real world; even among the Slaves, Uneducated (Mis-Educated) Blacks, and the Poor; so it's nothing new.

Yes it is; if I lost everything that I now have today, I could find work tomorrow; maybe not a job, or even work that I'd enjoy, but work that someone would pay me money to do.

Finding work is easy if you're willing to work; I could go back to cleaning houses, strip dancing, landscaping, whatever; I will not take Welfare=Slavery.

If you go to amazon.com, you can find Life & Times of Frederick Douglass by Frederick Douglass, Up From Slavery by Booker T. Washington, and the Mis-Education of the Negro by Carter G. Woodson for a grand total of $1.98 in e-Book format; and you will read why Dependency (Welfare) is Slavery; and Carter Woodson saw the early form of Welfare to enslave Blacks and other Poor where as Douglass and Washington how Dependency not only enslaved the Black Slaves, but also the "White Trash" of their day.

I never had trouble finding work; I've cleaned houses, done landscaping, strip danced, installed cable tv, worked a Help Desk, waited tables and other kinds of work as I work for myself and merely see my employer as my client.

Never took Welfare=Slavery (Not even Unemployment) as I always considered earning my own money as being better. And please, don't talk about how one pays into Unemployment; it's still depending on Government for ones own needs.

My Eldest Son use to detail cars to pay his way through trade school, now he's earning over $11hr from a Maintenance Company who is paying for his schooling as he signed a contract to remain with them for three years after graduation as his pay would go to a min of $17hr; it's not a job that he got by waiting on Government to provide for him.

The work is out there, and with a little bit of thinking, planning, and looking; one can find it anywhere, even if it is mowing grass in the hot sun.

Thing is, you know where to find all the good men; it's just that for some reason you want the bad flakes who plays games rather than then the stand up men.

I would bet that before every man you had been with, you knew that he wasn't the kind to make a life with you.

I had done that as well for a time, then I decided to go with the kind of man that would always be there for me; and I knew where to find one.

Why should I?
How do I know that you're not a loser?