very sweet. I liked it

Ah, well, then my answer would have to be that it depends on the type of relationship

I think romantic relationships are unsustainable even where there is little trust.

Actually, this is a good point. But what I'm trying to say is that I have known people to use the word "promise" in their sentence without intending to make a promise and without the intent to deceive. That's all I mean.

By that argument you may be calling most people frauds. I think it's really a question of intent. People, especially in familiar relationships, rarely mean literally what they say.

I'm not making an argument for how people should speak. As much as possible I try to say what I mean and mean what I say. But I recognize that language and communication is imperfect.



I admit that I am not well educated in this area.

Depends on the amount and type of trust that is lost.

Are you really saying that it depends on the girl you are involved with? This is really rather interesting. Aren't you afraid of making the wrong decision caused by a period of infatuation?

Wow that's interesting.

the thought had crossed my mind in recent history.

My immediate thoughts are to live together or date for at least a year before even considering marriage. Sometimes I wonder if there is something wrong with my attitude when I consider the number of women (in my area) with marriage as an imperative. This article that made me feel better...

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-joint-adventures-well-educated-couples/201206/key-factors-impact-your-odds-marital-success

I was shocked to learn that maybe I'm not as careful as I should be! Although I do think that living together for some amount of time is important. It's the only way to really know what you are getting into.

I welcome arguments supporting an opposite view to long term dating.

Some couples live toether for many years before finally getting married. Others marry after just a few dates.

How long do take to get to know someone before thinking about marriage? Is living together a must?

Lower your standards. Works for the short term.

I loved it!! Nice descriptinve writing too.

Hey, that's me you are talking about!

I hope you will at be back from time to time.

The name Cortés comes to mind.

Take care Colin.

Thrilling, foreboding. When I think of the reality of it, amusement fades.

Thank you both for reading & caring.
This morning you remind me of the importance of paying attention in life.

enjoyed this write. nice work.

Thanks, I needed these words. I wish I just had some of your talent.

nice

wow that's a difficult piece of reality.

Saint George!

hidden behind veils of experience
EVERYONE keeps up appearances
this is how the world is lonely

but once in a while
you'll find someone worthwhile
and then your are off!
to the human races
like a woman on a mission

I know you live for the fight
but who do you cry to when things aren't right?

the ones that love you
make them pay full price
they'll suffer for you
they'll suffer with you
some of them in silence

can you see past your own pain?
or was I blind?
will you always see
what you want to see?
or will you ever change?

I just can't carry this burden.