Jessie's Crutch!! ..I don't know how I missed that Richard!

Another average night at the club for me
lol



{If i drank that is}

Hummmmm......Cynical, sarcastic, snide, acrimonious...We have a winner!! Bravo!

OMG

one of which was he ??? that doesn't sound good

she saunered on over
said how are ya soldier
the kiss was the last thng he saw

To me a rival is someone who does not like me, and takes their dislike even further by causing me injury in some way, such as abusing me emotionally… or who will conduct themselves in such a manner as to intentionally cause me stress…

With this said… if I had a partner who was friends with a rival of mine, and even though he knew that her actions were harming me, he chooses to keep her friendship for himself, then what should I do about my relationship with him? When he is obviously more loyal to her than he would be to me in this type of scenario. I don’t fight over men who aren’t loyal to me, I leave them so they can find somebody else that they can respect honorably… After all, why would he choose another woman’s friendship over his own woman? You don’t have to answer this, this is just a question about this type of scenario that I'm curious to know the why's about.

And I’ve put this type of scenario on the table for discussion, because I’m not a relationship expert. And I haven’t had enough experience to know how to handle every different thing that comes up. I also do make rash decisions at times because I’m an over emotional female that is extremely spontaneous, especially if I’m under stress. So, I’d like to know how other people with more rational minds would handle these types of things if it happens to them…

I want to learn… and I’m the first one to admit that I don’t know everything… but I do know how I feel in my heart… and if it tells me my man isn’t being loyal to me, than I follow my instincts… right or wrong…

Hey Richard...What do you mean by "desperately seeking various forms of escape"?...Are you saying some people feign interest as a way to ingratiate themselves to a man or woman they are trying to control, are

are you saying some people constantly babble as a way to keep the spotlight directed on them, or are you saying

some people use constant babble as a manipulation tactic?

what are we supposed to think, say, and/or do if our partners/significant others makes it clear to us that they respect and will remain friends with the men and/or women that we both know are our rivals,

I think it's about communication but maybe it's also tied to being well-rounded and having interests in many different areas...My husband took pride in having broad interests. So he could engage in interesting conversations with men as well as women...He actually felt that some men could be too "limited." (Limited to conversations about sports or cars or maybe their stock holdings or jobs etc.)...And some women "limit" their conversations to their kids and grandkids or maybe clothes or styles or "house stuff."...Men and women who have broad and varied interests seem to do better when it comes to conversing with the opposite sex. Don't you think?

A lot of men seem to process internally and then only say something once they have reached a conclusion....OK.....then they tell us....and we try to discuss...and they're caught off guard because they are assuming we know that is the CONCLUSION he has stated NOT a jumping off point for further discussion

in my opinion this can be huge cuz it's either ; (her) "OK you are presenting me with a conclusion so WHY was I not part of the discussion?" or " You are telling me this idea and then NOT hearing anything I say about it!!! grrrrr...." because we are not seeing it as the conclusion ....but he is

then (he) "I'm telling you this, Why are you questioning me?" not considering that even tho he has thought it all out we don't know that and/or expect to be part of the thinking process

I lived for years in a household that was mostly male - that's kinda how things seemed looking back on it