Is the same true of love? I'm starting to question if it's not possible that some relationships just last so long, they run their course, and then we're meant to move on? I was just in the thread about love vs. convenience, and remembering my marriage.

I had no trust, up until the time I let my husband into my heart. I saw my parents marriage and really; it would take a special kind of masochistic stupid to follow in their footsteps. But Tim happened and I thought hey. He's a good man. He's a good dad, he's good to me, he loves me, I love him - I shall accept his proposal. And it's not like we were passionless.

But 13 years in he decided it was time to switch partners. Since I barely unlocked enough to let him in, I couldn't see myself trusting anybody with my heart again, so I just went on with my life, solo. But now, I'm here. I'm meeting people and extending my hand and heart and thoughts, without considering if it's a good idea. I think I'm sort of going back to who I was meant to be, instead of the wounded soul my family created.

That brings me full circle to the subject at hand. Is it possible that most relationships weren't meant to last forever? I am grateful for the good times I had with Tim; I am. I miss the hugs, and the jokes, the laughter and the love. I'm misting up, just remembering. But maybe it really only was meant for us to be together for so many years.

Anybody have any thoughts or feedback?

Oh, honey. All I've seen is two posts and a few pictures and I know you can do better! You DESERVE better, and we both know it (and probably a few other people on this board can see it, too).

Greetings, fellow young Boop!

Sheer PERFECTION! Yes.

Bolero.

Have you ever used the Kama Sutra?

I think ... it's probably a true flaw of mine that I think, for the most part, the best about my fellow man. I assume good things about them, until they prove me wrong.

That last sentence I quoted is not true of me. I figure if it's not true of me, it's also not true of at least some segment of the rest of society. Doesn't that make sense?

Good. Now tell me who Himself1 looks like because I KNOW it's somebody and it's buggin me!!!

Did the person you fell in love with morph completely into a new being? It does happen, whether by drugs or some other cause.

OH!! And Mrheartfelt TOTALLY looks like Michael Duncan Clarke.

No! I had a huge crush on him like 30 years ago. Very good actor, but sort of disappeared for many years. Go check IMDB when you are able. Most pictures of him now are the older ones, so you have to look for stuff from the 70's.

Too funny that a look-alike answered. Look up John Savage, from back in the day. Let me see if I can find a pic to link to.

http://www.mysticgames.com/famouspeople/pictures/JohnSavage.jpg

I haven't been here that long, but I've seen two profile pics that bore a resemblance to a semi-famous actor. Have any of you all seen the same? If so, which member and what actor/actress?

Surely not!!!

Okay. Still trying to figure out how you can presume to know how 'most people' are.

I guess it's obvious that generalizations are one of my biggest pet peeves.

Don't know which kids you're talking to, but I think you may be exhibiting the kind of 'honesty' I can do without. Candor is one thing. Being a dick about it is a whole new ball game, and one I generally avoid.

I really don't know what the vast majority of women out there are like, but I think as you do. And I love to cook, but I don't want to be in there slaving away all by my lonesome, and have him bail when it's time to do the dishes. Men who don't know the simple intimacy a kitchen can offer don't interest me, either.

I'd be eternally grateful if the "thank" function were added to this forum.

Has to be a relative? Because I used to have a good buddy I dubbed Fishface DeMarco. For whatever reason, it cracked us both up.

What's your favorite breed of dog? Even if you're a catlover.

I don't think that question is so easily answered. I'm not Ancient of Days or anything, but I have seen, over the course of my life, a fair amount of kindness and tact go down the drain.

Be honest about yourself, absolutely! Don't presume to know me from the snapshot of time in which you've known me. Being weighed and found wanting by somebody who perceives himself to be honest to the point of 'painful' or brutal' is not my idea of a good time.

Likewise, don't go spilling every stupid mistake you've ever made, along with your entire last relationship's strengths and weaknesses, to that sweet young thing you just met.

Since my name is Bobbi, and yeah, etc. - that's been my nickname more than once.