What do you want, truth or who cares?

A date that lies, or a date thats honest?

Just a question.....

Truth hurts

But lies end up hurting even more

Yep. That says it all.


Give me the truth every time, no matter what and I will do the same.

I don't think that question is so easily answered. I'm not Ancient of Days or anything, but I have seen, over the course of my life, a fair amount of kindness and tact go down the drain.

Be honest about yourself, absolutely! Don't presume to know me from the snapshot of time in which you've known me. Being weighed and found wanting by somebody who perceives himself to be honest to the point of 'painful' or brutal' is not my idea of a good time.

Likewise, don't go spilling every stupid mistake you've ever made, along with your entire last relationship's strengths and weaknesses, to that sweet young thing you just met.

We all want the truth but sometimes its neccesary to lie

Personally I think it is more intention that matters. I think Boop (and not Boob ) got it right, truth without thoughtful consideration can be just as pointless and hurtful as a lie. So your teeth are crooked and you're not in top shape, so your boobs sag and your c*ck isn't the biggest. But maybe he knows how to use it, maybe she has a spark in her eyes, maybe you're attentive and the words come out of your mouth is amazing, so who cares, except people hellbent on saying everything they see as truth.

What is truth anyway, now that we're on it. Is it mine, is it yours, is there a factual truth beyond that of the truth of the beholder? If so, can we ever gleam it, being beholders since birth and thus restricted by our own version of truth?

No, if you could pose me a choice, I would ask for no more games between people! People just be saying what people think. Hey, I like you, I think you smell amazing, and I'd love to get to know you more intimately... Hey, I don't like you, I wish you the best but I'm gonna get up and leave...

Anyway, just my 2cents

Honesty is #1 with me...after all, the purpose of these dating sites is to eventually end up with someone, at least dating anyway...why portray your self to be something other than you truely are, whether it's with describing ones self or with pictures that are decades old. My last 'meeting/coffee date' from this site lead me to believe he was divorced. He was so concerned that I was decieving him...he even asked me if I was really a drunken truck driver. I assured him that I am who I potray myself to be on my profile. We met for coffee after work one day...chatted for about 2 hours and then ended up at a restaurant next to Starbucks for dinner. As we were eating, he gets a text message...he tells me it's from his wife!!! I put my fork down and said, "You are married!!!???" He said yes, but only on paper. (He is still legally married.) I felt decieved and have not seen him since. I let him know this and told him I would not begin a relationship with lies and deceit...had my fill of that in my last relationship.

I always want honesty.

My primary philosophy is to treat others as you would have them treat you.

Tact is often a necessary and vital skill in a relationship, but it takes practice. Generally, people can give me the blunt truth, and I can handle it. Sure, I might be upset for a while, but I'll get over it. Not everyone is like that. Not everyone is willing to admit they were wrong or made a mistake. I have a stubborn streak. It usually shows up when I am either upset or I just want to be left alone. I don't like being so rude as to say "none of your business". It's one of my quirks. On the other hand, I value honesty and communication. I strive to be a good communicator with a level head. That means practicing patience and tact. Every little bit moves me closer to controlling my stubbornness and toward being the communicator I wish to be.

Thanks for the replies here and like the two here right above me.
Truth MATTERS to me,,because if you don't have THAT, then REALLY,,,
What do you have??? If every answer was given as a lie,,then truly YOU would not even KNOW that person as to WHO they are?

Now if we were talking a one night "Don't give a damn thing",,cool,,so what,,,BUT,,talking about DATING someone for awhile and sharing life much with them,,,yes,,,truth is important for me to have and also to BE,,in that
start with them...

Truth
Caring
Love

That's all I ask

Is that to much!!!

Guess that depends on whose version of the truth you are talking about

Has anyone seen the movie "The Invention of Lying"? People only spoke the truth and didn't bother with tact and didn't care if what they said hurt the other person's feelings.

I don't like lying about myself because there is no way I can live up to a lie like "I am a 5' 9" supermodel with long blonde hair and legs up to my eyebrows". I am a 5' 1" overweight woman with nice legs and red hair.....and I try to make people feel the best they can about themselves. We all have our good points and our bad points, but if someone is pointing out the bad points, have some consideration about the person's feelings.

{{{Terry}}}

sorry kids...calling BS on this....

People don't want the truth....

Q: "Was it as good for you as it was for me?"....
A: No

Q: "My sister and her boyfriend are bringing the kids over saturday...do you mind?"
A: I would rather them stay at thier own house and watch videos of How to be a good Parent or take her old man around to fill out job applications.

Q: "What do you think of my new haircut?"
A: It really emphasizes your crowsfeet and throat wattles.

Q: "Should I try to lose some weight?"
A: Dont bother...bout to dump you and you will end up eating buckets of KFC and Mint Chip icecream anyway.

Q: "Will you love me no matter what?"
A: No


People can talk a good game about absolute honesty all day long. It is a nice Utopian concept but, completely unrealistic.

Don't know which kids you're talking to, but I think you may be exhibiting the kind of 'honesty' I can do without. Candor is one thing. Being a dick about it is a whole new ball game, and one I generally avoid.

People that know me in person also know that I am horrible at lying. It's not a reflex response for me. When I was young, many felt I told stories or lied a lot. After a number of times of telling the truth, but being punished for lying anyway, I actually began to tell lies. What do you think happened? I got labeled as a troublemaker. Eventually, I gave up, and just went back to being honest....bluntly honest. After a few years, people finally got the point.

So, because of childhood experiences, I have a tough time telling a lie without giving it away. Why should I lie in that case? Tact can be used to tell the truth in such subtle manner that some will accept it at face value rather than glean the deeper meaning. Some people really are that shallow.

Btw BDBoop, Krupa actually isn't afraid to speak his mind. He likes to use humor to get his point across normally. In this case, he is playing Devil's Advocate, even if he is stating his own view. The bluntness is meant to make people consider all the little ways they lie but perhaps forget about. No one has to agree with him, but Krupa actually is a person with a good heart that masks it with cynicism and humor.

Of course, you don't have to agree with me on this one either....Just trying to shed some light.

Now excuse me while I hide before Krupa throttles me for revealing his big secret...

Whenever I Lie

My eyes fill with tears
My bottom lip shakes
I stutter

Haha

Bad liar!!

Hahahahahaha No BabyBoop!

I am one of the ones who smoothe out lie (diplomacy) and make people feel good about themselves. I am only a d!ck when I got no other choice.

Those were simply examples of questions and the answers that people don't want to hear.

People think they want the truth....they want it sugar coated and they want it to be the answers they want....the ones that make them feel good.

always seek truth an honesty lies hurt an even if ya still dont give the whole truth that hurts too

I have actually been known to say no I really don't like you and would prefer not to be around you...its not you its me....so I will take my leave and hopefully you and I won't have to runb into one another but if we do if you your way and I go mind don't worry it wont hurt my feelings

I think the truth is the way to go if your tactful about it. Lies will always come back to bite you.