Ever wondered about swinging the other way? I refuse to do dating apps, tired of the sleaze.

Perhaps men feel the same way?

I am not a lesbian, but I am very fed up with up with men only wanting sex. Do we have to chose our own gender to get our emotional, mentally stimulating, and caring mets need?

What is your opinion? Quite frankly, I am watching time pass and thinking beyond being alone due to being unsatisfied with the opposite sex.
Do men think these thoughts too?

The very few who Mingle...

I agree LadyWind, connection first then when I’m in the mood sex.

I find it VERY hard to find a real connection with anyone. But when I do, it's with someone who lives in a different continent. Local men that I come across on here are mostly just awful and only want sex and nothing else. I need a mutual attraction and connection in order to proceed any further.

But I still have hope for men. I'm definitely not attracted to other women at all.

I Have no sexual interest in women.

Not the first time you have posted this topic LW ..

Seems your disappointment with men and the connections you are making .. is still ongoing . If you are that unhappy then perhaps a same sex connection is what you need.

Not all needs sex as u said... there are some good persons are also there - they need shoulder to lean on.

Why they choose girls for that - those people are thinking that girls will care like more than anything.
Yeah quite natural - people need a friend a good listener... not a deep hole or long stick.

Edited for off-topic.

soufie
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Hm...there have been times in the past that I thought about it. But it's not for me. When I had finally had enough of men, I took a long, eight-year hiatus from dating. I needed it, to get my mind right. I do think there are some wonderful men out there, if we take the time to sift through all the weenies (that's true of both sexes though). Women can be horrible partners too, though. After doing a lot of self-reflecting, I can admit that there have been times in the past when I was kind of a crappy partner.

That said, there are some wonderful people in the LGBTQ+ community, including a couple of my loved ones. Hope you find what makes you happy. LW.

THE SOLUTION STARTS WITH OURSELVES ...THE MORE WE

KNOW ABOUT OUR FEELINGS AND BELIEFS ABOUT OURSELVES

AND WE BECOME MORE SELF AWARE. KNOWING THE TRUTH OF

WHY WE KNOW WHAT WE KNOW SETS US FREE....''THE

BETTER WE BECOME THE BETTER PEOPLE WE WILL ATTRACT

INTO OUR LIVES''....THE COMMON THREAD THAT I SEE

EVER WHERE IS, ''PUTTING THE BLAME OUT THERE''...

WHEN I HEAR THAT I HEAR A VICTIM.....

Hmm - At some point if I'm wanting a relationship. This point of wanting sex is going to come up.

Humm... so are you saying that by women turning to other women instead of men that they will gain more fulfillment mentally and physically due to women never think about just having sex prior to a relationship with another woman??

I guess those that choose the same sex do it because they are attracted to the same sex instead.. Not for any type of reason..

Myself .. I love the way men look, act, and just being them..

I can honestly say I have never wanted to be with a woman..

I will admit that even I have looked at some women and said dammit they are good looking or they have it going on..

But there is nothing wrong with those that figure out what makes them happy.. Hope you find your happiness..

^this

its not always about happiness.....one of the

three escape hatches people use is going

crazy.....some times when a person does not get

the recognition they need or not recognized for

who really are they will become something or some

one different to get the attention they

need....extreme cases are labeled

schizophrenic....

the difference is cleve .. schizophrenic behaviour is often based in paranoia and psychosis .. there is a loss of reality . Not sure what point you are trying to make about happiness ???

My thoughts are... Attempting to find a
mate, can be compared to any, of many
analogies.

Fishing, for example.
A good angler knows exactly what type of
bait or lure to use, to reel in the
catch of their dreams.

Trollin' the bottom with stink bait,
will only ever attract bottom feeders.

As to the other thing mentioned...
Second original post from you, this year,
with a mention of becoming a lesbian.

I say, go for it!
Enjoy your walk on the wild side!

Cheers!

I think there's a lot of people who wish they can choose who they're attracted to rather than it being as visceral as it is. The physical attraction is only a part of what makes a relationship work but it's a very important part. The problem is we don't get to choose attraction. Attraction isn't a thought it's a feeling.

I have thought about it too, to consider a woman partner. Never purposely to find a lady, but if able to meet one, maybe I will try. I think it depends what you are looking for, I don't think need to restricted to one gender. Just want to find a person that we can rely on, I don't think really need to be a man.

I get how/why a woman might want a relationship with another woman. Many men are great partners for many reasons but may fall short compared to women in the emotional/shows feelings area. Is this sexist? I really don't care as it's generally true. I say go for it. That said, you asked if men feel the same way towards seeking out another man due to the frustrations of dating women and I highly doubt it (I'm talking for MOST straight men). No amount of frustration with women would make me even 1% curious about wanting a man as a partner. Does this make me homophobic? Again, I could care less for stating the obvious.

My needs are met with chocolate and Diet Coke...





But on the serious side, I hope you find what you are looking for in life.