I read this the other day and am curious what you think.

Pop psych books talk about how men love the chase and how they need a challenge. But many women misinterpret that and act like a challenge for no reason. Most men get annoyed with that and feel manipulated (not intrigued) when women try to make them chase them.

I've also ready that typically men respect what they earn.

Is it, therefore, important for a man to feel like he has earned his woman? Like he is the 'best' man when he wins her.

What do you think?

This might explain why there are more best men than grooms.

not every man is the same, in my experience,,,

but it will be interesting to read their responses,,,,my experience has been the more 'quality' men have been the ones who put more of an effort in because it wasnt so easy as just spending some money or paying me a compliment,,,


but, then, I dont like lazy men,,,maybe other women do,,,,

You say you don't like lazy men. What makes them not lazy when it comes to chasing you?

'chase' just means the effort they put into pursuing a relationship,,,

and if they would prefer to not put work in, to me, they are lazy,,,

if they want someone they can just pick up, eat a meal with an dlay down with,, they dont feel much for that person in my opinion, and they are fairly lazy emotionally to be fulfilled by such an empty


, perhaps for the sake of argument, I will change 'lazy' to disrespectful

I think the amount of respect someone has for you is fairly correlated to the effort they are willing to spend getting to know you,,,

I prefer males who will respect me as much as they deserve respect, and Im attracted to those who deserve alot of respect,,,,

Does it mean that you're lazy if you expect the men to put in all the effort and do all the work?

yes it does

Well, ok.

with men, i think we try harder when it's not secure... once men know they have her, we don't try as hard after... women, on the other hand, have some sort of need for mens love to be proven to them on a daily, if not hourly, basis...

hehehe for me the chase is like trying to find the pot of gold at the end of a rainbow
And when there are 10 guys to each lady like internet sites seem to be
I am but the duck
Farting under the water




You folks have fun with that though...

Men do love a chase and most do need a challenge. Men chase women, who are not interested in them. But that interest in him could change, after the chase. It is important for a man to feel like he has earned his woman. He feels like "best" man won. Who wants someone that No one else wants! Imo

a deep purple lyric - it's not the kill, it's the thrill of the chase

as a young man i could relate. chasing women was fun, but once she gave in, the thrill was gone. now i wish i would have gone old school and courted women instead. i think that courting a women is much more romantic. playing the chase game is unsatisfying in the end. unfortunately, it seems many women have been caught up in these types of games and are bitter from the outcome. boys get drawn into these games and some continue on well into their manhood, leaving behind many scarred women

personally, i'll leave the games to the young cats and keep hope alive that someday a woman will take a chance on an old bulldog and enjoy the courting

I'm not so sure that the chase is anything more than thrilling as it is for the woman being chased. I myself could be quite happy with talking to a woman, having her engage in conversation, which shows she may be interested, asking her out. If I have a good time and enjoy her company I will surely ask her out again, if she says no, than I'll just leave her be. I'm not into the whole chase and game playing thing. That may be great for silly kids, but not for me. I'd rather be upfront and say, "Hey, I'm interested in you and enjoy your company. How do you feel?", rather than play a stupid guessing game. And just for the record, I'm so far from lazy. I cook, do dishes, clean, do laundry, scrub toilets and tubs, vacuum, cut the lawn, take care of and walk 3 dogs, work out 3x a week for 2 hours at a clip, write and record music, design promo, print promo, deliver promo, edit web sites, create newsletters, rehearse and perform, talk with booking agents, handle social media and so much more on top of working a day job. If you're looking to play games and be chased, you just may lose the best thing you could have had. I will also say that I speak for me and me only. Not all me are the same. Let the game playing men have the game playing women. They deserve each other...;)

I don't like chasing, I can't read the signals. I be a dunce. Woman plays hard to get with me, I won't be getting her.

I like to chase jack rabbits on my dirt bike

Sure! ..most of us respect what we earn, thats how I was raised, buying my own bicycles ect. But for me

I'm a firm believer in,that when it comes to attraction woman pick, so I always hook up with the one's
That like my and I am attracted to back.
You can "dazzle her with brilliance" & if that doesn't work then you can "baffle her with bull s..t" and
sometimes win here over but these are seldom viable relationships to the basses it started., you weren't
her immediately attraction. So you will allways here "I never usually go for guys like u.

I used to see this all the time back in the day; woman doing one lap through a bar full of people (lots of
Goodling men) then going to the next to look for that certain guy.


"It not the kill, it's the thrill of the case" Well thats not my thing, I want the kill and for the least amount of
effort, so having said all that I strongly disagree with this been a lazy issue.
Its just that some men are runners, & some are chasers" so we wont put forth the effort
Myself, I'm buy-sexual. ..so if there's to much effort/turmoil involved, I will BUY IT....SO A STRONG NO FOR ME.

funny!

And
VISA VERSA as well !
Pointless in my opinion...

As men we can definitely loose intrest in a woman when she wants to be sexd 3-4 a day but if
that same woman holds back mabee one month down the road,... you will want her madly!!!
In a sexual way and more...

Exactly , that something you nnnnnneeeever do....lol.