I agree

who needs to evolve?

Wow! That's a lot of work Metal


If I am working that hard at anything, I'd better be getting paid!

Payment comes in many forms!

... and payday is every day!

I tend to think if it feels like work....no....so to qualify by work I would say that means you have your partner's interests at heart and remember to communicate about things

but once those things feel like work...IDK what I am trying to say exactly but "work" has a negative connotation like it's a struggle

I also would not be really happy to know that there is this stern set of expectations - in fact would not enter that relationship

I don;'t lie but I am not going to get into a relationship where the guy is "waiting" for me to lie (or whatever the expectation is) and spending his time trying to "catch" me doing those things....

just a thought because that's kinda the impression the pig's comments made on me and prolly not what he intended????

You are reading things into it that aren't there.

I take it as a given that any relationship worth having requires "work". There is nothing negative about that. That word has been used in that context by many people my entire life.

There was no mention of "waiting for a lie." The context was simply to describe how much damage can be done quickly by something so simple but so damaging in contrast to the time and effort required to build a solid relationship.

You apparently are reading with a "negative filter". Try using a positive one instead.

If I am disinterested and running, in order for him to chase, I don't want to be chased.

I get creeped out if a guy thinks my no is a maybe.

Well maybe one day you'll meet a non debating, Quiet type, Non offensive Man. Why not throw in loves to go shopping too. I'm not saying they don't exist, But last I checked That type of man is interested more in their own gender not yours.

lol. So, all quiet, non offensive, non debating men are gay? And only gay men love to go shopping? Man, you live in a little bubble.

Agreed!

Yes, I understand what you mean. For me, however, life and love is joyful play. I am excited to wake up every day to see what new thing I can discover about him.

I view it as being interested in who he is. An exciting exploration of yumminess. Discovering his subtle shades and nuances...his emotional ups and downs, his creative passions and his crushing defeats. Those crazy misunderstandings that send your mind in nonsensical places.

All those things that make us deliciously human. It is just not anything I'd consider work...

Not necessarily. It is all about the masculine/feminine polarity in a relationship. We all have masculine and feminine energy. Women, quite often, embody more masculine energy at work. It tends to be seen as direct, decisive, authoritative, etc. All considered good things for getting ahead in the corporate world.

If they don't slide back into feminine energy at home, they will need a man who lives more in his feminine energy (typically seen as the nurturing, caring qualities) to maintain maximum masculine-feminine polarity (hence maximum sexual attraction)

Not all men living more in a feminine energy are gay. There are both masculine and feminine in all regardless of the gender of the body. It just depends where each individual is most comfortable.

... notice how often you see that same dynamic in gay couples ... top/bottom ... dominant/submissive ... butch/femme = masculine/feminine polarity.

Not necessarily. It is all about the masculine/feminine polarity in a relationship. We all have masculine and feminine energy. Women, quite often, embody more masculine energy at work. It tends to be seen as direct, decisive, authoritative, etc. All considered good things for getting ahead in the corporate world.

If they don't slide back into feminine energy at home, they will need a man who lives more in his feminine energy (typically seen as the nurturing, caring qualities) to maintain maximum masculine-feminine polarity (hence maximum sexual attraction)

Not all men living more in a feminine energy are gay. There are both masculine and feminine in all regardless of the gender of the body. It just depends where each individual is most comfortable.

... notice how often you see that same dynamic in gay couples ... top/bottom ... dominant/submissive ... butch/femme = masculine/feminine polarity.


Yes iv'e read about the polarities before. I just haven't seen it so often in real life. Though I do not doubt the existence of feminized straight men. I do believe they aren't as common as regular men. The more feminine type men I have known about. Seem to end up sooner or later playing ball for their own team. lol

By that logic, do you see a lot of masculine gay men switching sides too? That would open up a phethora of possibilities!

Yeah for you lol. Talk to me about some pretty lipstick lesbians switching sides.

Statistically there are 3 times as many women as men who self identify as bisexual. You already have a 3:1 advantage! What are you complaining about?

I can't argue that.

I feel like a fish out of water when it comes to the chase. But those shiny lures always seem to get me. You really got to watch that bait they are using.

Distracted from the shiny objects Rainbow?

I like the way the light shines off them.

One of my bass friends is particularly fond of earrings.