It is how you approach the situation though. There are ways about getting reassurance or determining where one stands, such as through flirting rather than other avenues that come off as jealousy.

That's true. I myself am not a subtle person ,if I want to know something I will ask.
I guess that has got me in trouble sometimes, but on the other hand it is not fair to assume you KNOW what someone is thinking or feeling without asking. At least that's the way I feel.

My personality changes if I meet someone to where I get all lovey-dovey.

Good quality being upfront and voicing concerns like that. Many do not. I would think it appropriate to ask certain things- such as where one stands with another- without it coming off as jealous or needing reassurance

But then... Who are you really... Hmmm

Lovey -dovey is a nice feeling.
But have you ever been in love and became nasty?

Nope, the two don't mix.

Yeah you would think so, but it doesn,t always work that way.

But that's ok because I do not want to be with somebody I cannot talk to and who refuses to express their feelings.

No they sure don,t ,but we have all seen it happen.

I can't treat someone I love in a mean or nasty manner.

I don't show jealousy...if it rears its' ugly head I remember it is an emotion of possession, not love, and vanquish it. I guess I trust my partner too easily.

An emotion of possession..wow I never thought of it that way. I bet that is what zdzd meant when he said mine mine mine.

Jealousy is not called the 'green eyed monster' for naught. it has nothing to do with love, and destroys love in fact.

it's not a phenonmenon I am familiar with so I can't say, but it sounds like things are not working because there is unhappiness.

unless of course friends or family are interfering inappropriately, that can piss anyone off

I do know that for a marriage or marriage - like relationship, your partner's needs & the needs of the relationship have to take priority most of the time. That is hard to understand for someone who has never been married or been with someone very long term. If you do not wish to spend a large percentage of your free time with your partner, you are either with the wrong person, or not mature enough for marriage, or both

but no one should be asked to give up their same gender friends or certain activities like running partners, golf buds, etc

Sometimes people just need their friends too much and let themselves be treated badly by them. You say to them that they shouldn't put up with whatever it is and they say, "But they are my friends".

Maybe when someone gets into a relationship they realise that they don't need to put up with whatever it is that they don't like about their friends anymore because they have somebody special that's more than just a so-called "friend". Have you guys thought about that?

why just a same gender friend? Do you think a woman should have to give up her male friends or vice versa?

well in that case they were the so called friends and not the others.
Friends are not so called..they are either a friend or they are not.
But in the case you are describing they were the one that was never the friend because they were just using people who did consider them friends until somebody better came along.
If they really allowed these people to treat them badly until they met somebody then good chance their partner will too.
Still sounds to me like thaey have the issues , not their friends.

So true.