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It is how you approach the situation though. There are ways about getting reassurance or determining where one stands, such as through flirting rather than other avenues that come off as jealousy.
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That's true. I myself am not a subtle person ,if I want to know something I will ask.
I guess that has got me in trouble sometimes, but on the other hand it is not fair to assume you KNOW what someone is thinking or feeling without asking. At least that's the way I feel. |
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My personality changes if I meet someone to where I get all lovey-dovey.
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That's true. I myself am not a subtle person ,if I want to know something I will ask. I guess that has got me in trouble sometimes, but on the other hand it is not fair to assume you KNOW what someone is thinking or feeling without asking. At least that's the way I feel. Good quality being upfront and voicing concerns like that. Many do not. I would think it appropriate to ask certain things- such as where one stands with another- without it coming off as jealous or needing reassurance |
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My personality changes if I meet someone to where I get all lovey-dovey. But then... Who are you really... Hmmm  
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My personality changes if I meet someone to where I get all lovey-dovey. Lovey -dovey is a nice feeling. But have you ever been in love and became nasty? |
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My personality changes if I meet someone to where I get all lovey-dovey. Lovey -dovey is a nice feeling. But have you ever been in love and became nasty? Nope, the two don't mix. |
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That's true. I myself am not a subtle person ,if I want to know something I will ask. I guess that has got me in trouble sometimes, but on the other hand it is not fair to assume you KNOW what someone is thinking or feeling without asking. At least that's the way I feel. Good quality being upfront and voicing concerns like that. Many do not. I would think it appropriate to ask certain things- such as where one stands with another- without it coming off as jealous or needing reassurance Yeah you would think so, but it doesn,t always work that way. But that's ok because I do not want to be with somebody I cannot talk to and who refuses to express their feelings. |
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My personality changes if I meet someone to where I get all lovey-dovey. Lovey -dovey is a nice feeling. But have you ever been in love and became nasty? Nope, the two don't mix. No they sure don,t ,but we have all seen it happen. |
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My personality changes if I meet someone to where I get all lovey-dovey. Lovey -dovey is a nice feeling. But have you ever been in love and became nasty? Nope, the two don't mix. No they sure don,t ,but we have all seen it happen. I can't treat someone I love in a mean or nasty manner. |
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My personality changes if I meet someone to where I get all lovey-dovey. Lovey -dovey is a nice feeling. But have you ever been in love and became nasty? Nope, the two don't mix. No they sure don,t ,but we have all seen it happen. not the person you love ,but some take on a nasty attitude towards their friends or even family after they become involved with someone. Its kind of like one partner is controlled by the other ones jealousy/insecurities. I can't treat someone I love in a mean or nasty manner. |
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My personality changes if I meet someone to where I get all lovey-dovey. Lovey -dovey is a nice feeling. But have you ever been in love and became nasty? Nope, the two don't mix. No they sure don,t ,but we have all seen it happen. not the person you love ,but some take on a nasty attitude towards their friends or even family after they become involved with someone. Its kind of like one partner is controlled by the other ones jealousy/insecurities. I can't treat someone I love in a mean or nasty manner. I don't show jealousy...if it rears its' ugly head I remember it is an emotion of possession, not love, and vanquish it. I guess I trust my partner too easily. |
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My personality changes if I meet someone to where I get all lovey-dovey. Lovey -dovey is a nice feeling. But have you ever been in love and became nasty? Nope, the two don't mix. No they sure don,t ,but we have all seen it happen. not the person you love ,but some take on a nasty attitude towards their friends or even family after they become involved with someone. Its kind of like one partner is controlled by the other ones jealousy/insecurities. I can't treat someone I love in a mean or nasty manner. I don't show jealousy...if it rears its' ugly head I remember it is an emotion of possession, not love, and vanquish it. I guess I trust my partner too easily. An emotion of possession..wow I never thought of it that way. I bet that is what zdzd meant when he said mine mine mine. |
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Jealousy is not called the 'green eyed monster' for naught. it has nothing to do with love, and destroys love in fact.
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Jealousy is not called the 'green eyed monster' for naught. it has nothing to do with love, and destroys love in fact. [/quot Do you think its the actual feeling jealous that kills love or the way its handled? I still think everybody has felt jealous at some point in their life.Isn't that just being human? |
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Sun 03/24/13 08:49 PM
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I have noticed this so many times when people get into a relationship. Some become very mellow and seem happier and nicer than ever. That I can I understand, It is when they claim to be so in love and yet they become mean and nasty to others including people that once were their friends. My only guess is either they are not as happy as they say they are or Jealousy has reared its ugly head. What are your thoughts? it's not a phenonmenon I am familiar with so I can't say, but it sounds like things are not working because there is unhappiness. unless of course friends or family are interfering inappropriately, that can piss anyone off I do know that for a marriage or marriage - like relationship, your partner's needs & the needs of the relationship have to take priority most of the time. That is hard to understand for someone who has never been married or been with someone very long term. If you do not wish to spend a large percentage of your free time with your partner, you are either with the wrong person, or not mature enough for marriage, or both but no one should be asked to give up their same gender friends or certain activities like running partners, golf buds, etc |
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Sometimes people just need their friends too much and let themselves be treated badly by them. You say to them that they shouldn't put up with whatever it is and they say, "But they are my friends".
Maybe when someone gets into a relationship they realise that they don't need to put up with whatever it is that they don't like about their friends anymore because they have somebody special that's more than just a so-called "friend". Have you guys thought about that? |
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I have noticed this so many times when people get into a relationship. Some become very mellow and seem happier and nicer than ever. That I can I understand, It is when they claim to be so in love and yet they become mean and nasty to others including people that once were their friends. My only guess is either they are not as happy as they say they are or Jealousy has reared its ugly head. What are your thoughts? it's not a phenonmenon I am familiar with so I can't say, but it sounds like things are not working because there is unhappiness. unless of course friends or family are interfering inappropriately, that can piss anyone off I do know that for a marriage or marriage - like relationship, your partner's needs & the needs of the relationship have to take priority most of the time. That is hard to understand for someone who has never been married or been with someone very long term. If you do not wish to spend a large percentage of your free time with your partner, you are either with the wrong person, or not mature enough for marriage, or both but no one should be asked to give up their same gender friends or certain activities like running partners, golf buds, etc why just a same gender friend? Do you think a woman should have to give up her male friends or vice versa? |
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Sometimes people just need their friends too much and let themselves be treated badly by them. You say to them that they shouldn't put up with whatever it is and they say, "But they are my friends". Maybe when someone gets into a relationship they realise that they don't need to put up with whatever it is that they don't like about their friends anymore because they have somebody special that's more than just a so-called "friend". Have you guys thought about that? well in that case they were the so called friends and not the others. Friends are not so called..they are either a friend or they are not. But in the case you are describing they were the one that was never the friend because they were just using people who did consider them friends until somebody better came along. If they really allowed these people to treat them badly until they met somebody then good chance their partner will too. Still sounds to me like thaey have the issues , not their friends. |
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I have seen many of relationships end because of the same issue... I will always stay true to my friends. ONE person must be very controlled by the other if they have to give up their friends . So true. 
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