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Topic: Being Alone Is Painful
RainbowTrout Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 13869	Sat 03/10/12 06:53 PM
I just realize the truth that being alone is a choice. Being an addict with an addictive personality I feel that I am blessed because I can addict to almost anything. It is usually just a choice of the right substitution. I find that I don't have to be alone if I don't want to be because there can be other lonely people out there. It is when I find that when I choose to be alone that I can also choose not to be alone if that is my preference. I can hide so well.

Magicman1950 Joined Mon 03/05/12 Posts: 136	Sat 03/10/12 07:00 PM
It is also important to know that you must be a whole person by yourself. If you must have someone in your life in order to be a complete person, IT WONT WORK!!!! Get your act together and become who you are, then look for a relationship. Dont try to find someone who youll love because you think you can make them better. Dont try to find someone to make you better. If you cant love them for everything they are, no matter what, you cant love them and youll never change them. They also have to accept you exactly as you are, no matter what.

Dale031124 Joined Fri 02/03/12 Posts: 71	Sat 03/10/12 07:31 PM
You can be in a room full of people and still feel lonely. It's a different kind of lonely. We are blessed with great family and friends, but that "something" that is missing makes you feel lonely. That is the kind of lonely I am talking about Ms. Tammy. Thank you.

Dale031124 Joined Fri 02/03/12 Posts: 71	Sat 03/10/12 07:39 PM
having one of those days when I truly miss times when I could choose to 'be alone',,,,sigh it so often seem greener on the other side,,,, Exactly. When it's Winter, you want it to be Summer. When it's Summer, you want it to be Winter. lol

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Sat 03/10/12 11:58 PM
Sometimes what you see as greener, can actually just make you bluer. It really ISN'T greener on t'other side. That can just bring more heartache. I suppose it depends who/what you go after.

733john Joined Mon 07/18/11 Posts: 123	Sun 03/11/12 01:52 AM
It is also important to know that you must be a whole person by yourself. If you must have someone in your life in order to be a complete person, IT WONT WORK!!!! Get your act together and become who you are, then look for a relationship. Dont try to find someone who youll love because you think you can make them better. Dont try to find someone to make you better. If you cant love them for everything they are, no matter what, you cant love them and youll never change them. They also have to accept you exactly as you are, no matter what. great advice i second that but i also wonder what woman goes for us guys like this ....it seems like the more together we are the harder it is to find someone .....i keep running into women like this lol

733john Joined Mon 07/18/11 Posts: 123	Sun 03/11/12 03:32 AM
If youre lonely, talk to somebody, if youre tired sleep, hungry eat. first find out what youre feeling and please stop calling horny lonely. If youre horny take matters in hand and stop making truely lonely people look bad. Thank you needed to be said! People first need to figure out what it is they seek then seek it and stop making others look bad to feel better about themselves ....that gets very old and annoys the hell outta me,thats kinda what i already put up in another previous post of mine...nobody needs any of that.

MrBiscuit Joined Tue 05/17/11 Posts: 1996	Sun 03/11/12 03:43 AM
I am very much a private person but sometimes you just have to let it out. What do you do when you experience this pain? I contact my friends :)

bug8764 Joined Tue 03/06/12 Posts: 4	Sun 03/11/12 04:58 AM
not sure, but if you figure it out let me know.

bug8764 Joined Tue 03/06/12 Posts: 4	Sun 03/11/12 05:03 AM
you took the words right out ofmy mouth.

bug8764 Joined Tue 03/06/12 Posts: 4	Sun 03/11/12 05:08 AM
i hate being alone, i enjoy people depending on me.now that it's been taken away i feal lost

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Sun 03/11/12 10:06 PM
It is also important to know that you must be a whole person by yourself. If you must have someone in your life in order to be a complete person, IT WONT WORK!!!! Get your act together and become who you are, then look for a relationship. Dont try to find someone who youll love because you think you can make them better. Dont try to find someone to make you better. If you cant love them for everything they are, no matter what, you cant love them and youll never change them. They also have to accept you exactly as you are, no matter what. great advice i second that but i also wonder what woman goes for us guys like this ....it seems like the more together we are the harder it is to find someone .....i keep running into women like this lol I can't speak for other women but I would really be excited to meet someone who has values way before some other other things people seem to put such emphsis on. Yea it is nice to have someone responsible that won't make you live hand to mouth but money comes and goes, looks sag, and the great sex , well depends on the couple it can stay sassy with a fun partner with a good attitude but what really counts is the comfort of knowing you have the trust you need to get through anything that comes along bad or good.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Mon 03/12/12 02:57 PM Edited by Jeanniebean on Mon 03/12/12 02:58 PM
Magicman1950 It is also important to know that you must be a whole person by yourself. If you must have someone in your life in order to be a complete person, IT WONT WORK!!!! Get your act together and become who you are, then look for a relationship. Dont try to find someone who youll love because you think you can make them better. Dont try to find someone to make you better. If you cant love them for everything they are, no matter what, you cant love them and youll never change them. They also have to accept you exactly as you are, no matter what. So true!

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Mon 03/12/12 03:07 PM
Magicman1950 It is also important to know that you must be a whole person by yourself. If you must have someone in your life in order to be a complete person, IT WONT WORK!!!! Get your act together and become who you are, then look for a relationship. Dont try to find someone who youll love because you think you can make them better. Dont try to find someone to make you better. If you cant love them for everything they are, no matter what, you cant love them and youll never change them. They also have to accept you exactly as you are, no matter what. So true! I am singing from this hymn sheet

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Mon 03/12/12 03:24 PM
You can be in a room full of people and still feel lonely. It's a different kind of lonely. We are blessed with great family and friends, but that "something" that is missing makes you feel lonely. That something missing with me is proper dopamine and serotonin levels, for the most part.

carra63 Joined Fri 03/02/12 Posts: 222	Thu 03/15/12 09:57 PM
The memories that haunt me brought me being alone and sad...

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Thu 03/15/12 10:01 PM
I jack off to internet porn....ooh Marie Luv is soooo hot

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Thu 03/15/12 10:44 PM
your not alone now you got everyone here to chat too cheers but i know what you mean you wonder if you should find that special lady and get serious well if you do find her ask her if she has a decent sister and let me know lollllllllll cheers

chlp Joined Sat 10/29/11 Posts: 2	Fri 03/16/12 07:59 AM
I funtion ok alone now but I still think it is a waste of life not to be sharing it with someone really special

TammyA Joined Sat 03/10/12 Posts: 300	Sun 03/18/12 06:37 AM
I talk to people all the time. The lonliness some of us feel is the desire to SHARE the daily events in our lives with someone special. It's NOT a horny thing. I could fulfill that need with a warm body.