Topic: Is wrong to feel offended when...
Sin_and_Sorrow's photo
Fri 01/06/12 11:31 AM


Tacked with 'You need help'.
Each post got more and more distasteful.


Actually, what I said was "I hope that you'll find help...". In my defense, this was after you admitted to having an anger problem and saying that before your previous anger management classes you would have just punched the guy.


You were clearly, blatantly, after me.


No I'm not.


And leave my kids out of this. Damn.


I didn't mention your kids, I mentioned the fact that you are a father. A father shouldn't do things that could put him in jail (where he can't provide for or protect or spend time with his kids) unless he has a very very good reason. Your reason for keying that car was lacking, in my opinion.


HAD DID - Sounds past tense to me.
Sounds like I had the issue worked out.
But go ahead, continue with your bs, 'I'm a nice guy' routine.

Yes, you were.

Father is associated with what? German Shepherds?
As for my situation...
I'm lucky I see my son once a year.
The jail time for that?
A fine at best, as I did state earlier.

Assault over Destruction.
I would've paid the fine, cause it was worth the crime.

Anything else you need rectified for the 50th time?

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Fri 01/06/12 11:32 AM

Edison definitely invented the light bulb, but his idea was to use DC, which would have made light bulbs a novelty at best. Tesla's invention of the transformer allowed for the use of high voltage AC electricity, which allows us to watch TV, light our homes and post in online forums.


Okay, I get it now. Thanks! flowers

Sorry for this offtopic conversation.

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Fri 01/06/12 11:32 AM


I doubt this thread is going to stick around for much longer. laugh


And, then the truth about Edison will be buried once again! noway :angry:


laugh

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Fri 01/06/12 11:32 AM


...for the love of...

I quoted a saying, not his 'character' or 'inventions' that he may or may not have created.


You are completely misunderstanding me. I don't even remember what you wrote to begin with about Edison. I saw Spider's quote about Edison being a liar and wanted to know what that meant. This question had nothing to do with your statement. I'm random and sarcastic like that. No harm intended. flowerforyou

:O

My apologies.

I thought that was directed at me. :(

I truly am tired of repeating myself.

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Fri 01/06/12 11:32 AM

Exactly.

I felt like I was being talked down to.
Like Mister High and Mighty was 100% perfect 100% of the time.

Furthermore..

IF he believed what he was saying was as you claim an 'opinion'..
What do you expect when you attack someone with what was deemed as a 'Need for anger management' and 'psychiatric help'?

Provoking the situation... great idea.


I need anger management and psychiatric help. I feel no shame in admitting I'm not perfect.

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Fri 01/06/12 11:33 AM

tip number one;
don't argue with people who hang out in politics.
tip number two;
don't take anything seriously.
tip number three;
don't get mad.
tip number four;
get them mad.


He's new. He'll either figure out not to take things too seriously here, or he'll just get offended all the time. People tend to figure it out.

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Fri 01/06/12 11:33 AM



Spider doesn't try to push people's buttons. He just states his opinion and sometimes it comes off the wrong way in writing. It happens to Singmesweet all the time. She is misunderstood because of her candor and the way she writes. Both of them have unintentionally hurt my feelings or made me feel defensive in the forums. However, I know both of them much better now from private conversations and I know that they both mean well. We all have different communication styles, that's all.


I wasn't saying that as an insult to Spider at all. Just from what I've observed. That's all. Here, he gave his opinion when asked just like everyone else. He doesn't back down or change his opinion when someone doesn't agree. Neither do I. I can respect that.


I respect someone's opinion unless it veers toward a dark territory, ie. passing judgment, insulting one's character. Probably not the best choice to go about it. That's just my take.


Everyone judges others. I don't believe those who say they never do. It always turns out that they actually do.

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Fri 01/06/12 11:33 AM

I doubt this thread is going to stick around for much longer. laugh


laugh ahh man! and it just gettin so good. i think both sides get it by now. agree to disagree, all that jazz.


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Fri 01/06/12 11:34 AM

He's new. He'll either figure out not to take things too seriously here, or he'll just get offended all the time. People tend to figure it out.


i already warned him with rocks once.

Sin_and_Sorrow's photo
Fri 01/06/12 11:35 AM


tip number one;
don't argue with people who hang out in politics.
tip number two;
don't take anything seriously.
tip number three;
don't get mad.
tip number four;
get them mad.


He's new. He'll either figure out not to take things too seriously here, or he'll just get offended all the time. People tend to figure it out.


Continuing to judge me?

I'm not mad.
I'm not even offended.
It's fine arguing with people in politics.
And once again..
I'm not offended.

Thank you.
Have a nice day.

Keep proving me right.

:D

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Fri 01/06/12 11:36 AM



Spider doesn't try to push people's buttons. He just states his opinion and sometimes it comes off the wrong way in writing. It happens to Singmesweet all the time. She is misunderstood because of her candor and the way she writes. Both of them have unintentionally hurt my feelings or made me feel defensive in the forums. However, I know both of them much better now from private conversations and I know that they both mean well. We all have different communication styles, that's all.


I wasn't saying that as an insult to Spider at all. Just from what I've observed. That's all. Here, he gave his opinion when asked just like everyone else. He doesn't back down or change his opinion when someone doesn't agree. Neither do I. I can respect that.


I respect someone's opinion unless it veers toward a dark territory, ie. passing judgment, insulting one's character. Probably not the best choice to go about it. That's just my take.


For a person who never judges, you make a lot of judgements.

Sin_and_Sorrow's photo
Fri 01/06/12 11:36 AM


He's new. He'll either figure out not to take things too seriously here, or he'll just get offended all the time. People tend to figure it out.


i already warned him with rocks once.


..and I said I liked it.

By the way...
You are still kinda cute.

:D

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Fri 01/06/12 11:38 AM



tip number one;
don't argue with people who hang out in politics.
tip number two;
don't take anything seriously.
tip number three;
don't get mad.
tip number four;
get them mad.


He's new. He'll either figure out not to take things too seriously here, or he'll just get offended all the time. People tend to figure it out.


Continuing to judge me?

I'm not mad.
I'm not even offended.
It's fine arguing with people in politics.
And once again..
I'm not offended.

Thank you.
Have a nice day.

Keep proving me right.

:D


I'm going by my experience of what has happened on this site. New people tend to take things very seriously and get offended easily. They often then realize that not everyone is out to get them and start not taking things too personally. This site is much more fun when people aren't always getting angry at the responses they get.

You'll also learn that if you ask for opinions, you'll get them. Many times, they won't be what you want or expect.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Fri 01/06/12 11:40 AM




Spider doesn't try to push people's buttons. He just states his opinion and sometimes it comes off the wrong way in writing. It happens to Singmesweet all the time. She is misunderstood because of her candor and the way she writes. Both of them have unintentionally hurt my feelings or made me feel defensive in the forums. However, I know both of them much better now from private conversations and I know that they both mean well. We all have different communication styles, that's all.


I wasn't saying that as an insult to Spider at all. Just from what I've observed. That's all. Here, he gave his opinion when asked just like everyone else. He doesn't back down or change his opinion when someone doesn't agree. Neither do I. I can respect that.


I respect someone's opinion unless it veers toward a dark territory, ie. passing judgment, insulting one's character. Probably not the best choice to go about it. That's just my take.


For a person who never judges, you make a lot of judgements.


Its called an opinion, there is a difference mind you.

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Fri 01/06/12 11:43 AM
Edited by singmesweet on Fri 01/06/12 11:43 AM





Spider doesn't try to push people's buttons. He just states his opinion and sometimes it comes off the wrong way in writing. It happens to Singmesweet all the time. She is misunderstood because of her candor and the way she writes. Both of them have unintentionally hurt my feelings or made me feel defensive in the forums. However, I know both of them much better now from private conversations and I know that they both mean well. We all have different communication styles, that's all.


I wasn't saying that as an insult to Spider at all. Just from what I've observed. That's all. Here, he gave his opinion when asked just like everyone else. He doesn't back down or change his opinion when someone doesn't agree. Neither do I. I can respect that.


I respect someone's opinion unless it veers toward a dark territory, ie. passing judgment, insulting one's character. Probably not the best choice to go about it. That's just my take.


For a person who never judges, you make a lot of judgements.


Its called an opinion, there is a difference mind you.


Definition of JUDGMENT
1
a : a formal utterance of an authoritative opinion b : an opinion so pronounced
2
a : a formal decision given by a court b (1) : an obligation (as a debt) created by the decree of a court (2) : a certificate evidencing such a decree
3
a capitalized : the final judging of humankind by God b : a divine sentence or decision; specifically : a calamity held to be sent by God
4
a : the process of forming an opinion or evaluation by discerning and comparing b : an opinion or estimate so formed
5
a : the capacity for judging : discernment b : the exercise of this capacity
6
: a proposition stating something believed or asserted

Sin_and_Sorrow's photo
Fri 01/06/12 11:45 AM




tip number one;
don't argue with people who hang out in politics.
tip number two;
don't take anything seriously.
tip number three;
don't get mad.
tip number four;
get them mad.


He's new. He'll either figure out not to take things too seriously here, or he'll just get offended all the time. People tend to figure it out.


Continuing to judge me?

I'm not mad.
I'm not even offended.
It's fine arguing with people in politics.
And once again..
I'm not offended.

Thank you.
Have a nice day.

Keep proving me right.

:D


I'm going by my experience of what has happened on this site. New people tend to take things very seriously and get offended easily. They often then realize that not everyone is out to get them and start not taking things too personally. This site is much more fun when people aren't always getting angry at the responses they get.

You'll also learn that if you ask for opinions, you'll get them. Many times, they won't be what you want or expect.


So, just to clarify...

1. I'm not just 'anyone'.
2. I'm not even new; only this name is. BYondLife was my old one; and in actuality, my start would be somewhere around yours Sweet.
3. It takes a lot to get me 'angry'. This situation didn't even get me full-fledged angry, though, I did describe it as such. It was more spite, vengeful, and irritated.
4. The responses were what I basically expected. I had expected for Ash to agree with me; with some disagreeing.
5. I didn't expect sooo many people to take interest in this topic. I written a bunch of other posts, and this was not one I'd expect to hit my top 5 charts.
6. Would a guy wearing a koala suit for cancer ridden patients, leukemia patients, and other children nearing death... be that aggressively unstable? No, I did think out the situation -Action-Reaction-. I believed I needed to do something to put him back to our level; it was the way he looked at me.. I can't describe it. I believed, as I've said, Don't commit a crime, if you can't serve the time. Most vandalism, depending on who/what you do it to, is just a fine; heavy, maybe some community service, but I already do that, so that'd be no big deal.

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Fri 01/06/12 11:47 AM



So, just to clarify...

1. I'm not just 'anyone'.
2. I'm not even new; only this name is. BYondLife was my old one; and in actuality, my start would be somewhere around yours Sweet.
3. It takes a lot to get me 'angry'. This situation didn't even get me full-fledged angry, though, I did describe it as such. It was more spite, vengeful, and irritated.
4. The responses were what I basically expected. I had expected for Ash to agree with me; with some disagreeing.
5. I didn't expect sooo many people to take interest in this topic. I written a bunch of other posts, and this was not one I'd expect to hit my top 5 charts.
6. Would a guy wearing a koala suit for cancer ridden patients, leukemia patients, and other children nearing death... be that aggressively unstable? No, I did think out the situation -Action-Reaction-. I believed I needed to do something to put him back to our level; it was the way he looked at me.. I can't describe it. I believed, as I've said, Don't commit a crime, if you can't serve the time. Most vandalism, depending on who/what you do it to, is just a fine; heavy, maybe some community service, but I already do that, so that'd be no big deal.


Ah, sorry to say that you were new then. I don't recognize that user name or your pictures, though.

If you were just looking for people to validate what you did, maybe you should have said so in the first post. You clearly don't like people not agreeing with you.

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Fri 01/06/12 11:49 AM






Spider doesn't try to push people's buttons. He just states his opinion and sometimes it comes off the wrong way in writing. It happens to Singmesweet all the time. She is misunderstood because of her candor and the way she writes. Both of them have unintentionally hurt my feelings or made me feel defensive in the forums. However, I know both of them much better now from private conversations and I know that they both mean well. We all have different communication styles, that's all.


I wasn't saying that as an insult to Spider at all. Just from what I've observed. That's all. Here, he gave his opinion when asked just like everyone else. He doesn't back down or change his opinion when someone doesn't agree. Neither do I. I can respect that.


I respect someone's opinion unless it veers toward a dark territory, ie. passing judgment, insulting one's character. Probably not the best choice to go about it. That's just my take.


For a person who never judges, you make a lot of judgements.


Its called an opinion, there is a difference mind you.


Definition of JUDGMENT
1
a : a formal utterance of an authoritative opinion b : an opinion so pronounced
2
a : a formal decision given by a court b (1) : an obligation (as a debt) created by the decree of a court (2) : a certificate evidencing such a decree
3
a capitalized : the final judging of humankind by God b : a divine sentence or decision; specifically : a calamity held to be sent by God
4
a : the process of forming an opinion or evaluation by discerning and comparing b : an opinion or estimate so formed
5
a : the capacity for judging : discernment b : the exercise of this capacity
6
: a proposition stating something believed or asserted


aaah k, but there is a clear difference. not everything i say is true, just like yourself. its true to me. bringing out the definitions now? jeez

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Fri 01/06/12 11:49 AM
Edited by Dragoness on Fri 01/06/12 11:55 AM

..you just hit 30.

You step out of a gas station after buying a pack of smokes and you accidentally bump into a, guessing, 16-year old girl who was walking with her boyfriend who appeared to be at least of legal age.

I immediately apologized, for it is my nature,to which she chimed out;

"Hey, watch it old timer!"

Me, being the guy that I am, took offense to this, but I remained cool; mainly cause I won't hit a girl, and f*** up her day. So, instead of resorting to violence, as it is the male gene to do so, I instead stated in a perplexed state;

"Excuse me?"

This was when, Mr. Macho or so he claimed, would step forward and in front of her blocking my line of sight. I saw him clench a fist, even went as far to furrow his brows.

"You heard the lady. Back off before I hit you so hard you'll have to collect disability twice."

OK, now, I am beyond offended and I set down my bag. I looked him dead in the eye, tilted my head so he could hear the cracks.

"Try it, youngster, and I'll hit you back so hard I'll knock the Earth of it's axis, and your future children will all talk with a lisp."

The girl now seemed frightened, perhaps realizing, I wasn't as old as I seemed? Regardless, she tugged at his sleeve, my eyes remained on him, unblinking, unwavering, and most certainly unafraid. He just clicked his teeth at me, as they trotted inside.

Still, I was offended.. and rather upset.

Getting called an 'old-timer' at 30? Psh, I don't even think I look that 'old'.

Needless to say..

I keyed his bright cherry mustang with the words, 'M almost f****d up your day.'


...just curious if I over reacted?

But now I know what the older generation meant when I was kid, when they use to say;

"Kids these days, they just have no respect."

I'm sorry Grandma, and Grandpa...

If only I knew then.. what I know now.

RIP.

I got years ahead of me yet..
..but I'll see you both then.


No offense here but you asked, this is what happens when similar maturities meet.

A grown person would not have been offended to begin with. Could have shot back, "well at least I am out of diapers" and kept walking. And to key the car??? I am sorry but that was way too immature and petty.

You don't have to worry, anyone dealing with you will not think you are old by any means so no worries.

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Fri 01/06/12 11:50 AM







Spider doesn't try to push people's buttons. He just states his opinion and sometimes it comes off the wrong way in writing. It happens to Singmesweet all the time. She is misunderstood because of her candor and the way she writes. Both of them have unintentionally hurt my feelings or made me feel defensive in the forums. However, I know both of them much better now from private conversations and I know that they both mean well. We all have different communication styles, that's all.


I wasn't saying that as an insult to Spider at all. Just from what I've observed. That's all. Here, he gave his opinion when asked just like everyone else. He doesn't back down or change his opinion when someone doesn't agree. Neither do I. I can respect that.


I respect someone's opinion unless it veers toward a dark territory, ie. passing judgment, insulting one's character. Probably not the best choice to go about it. That's just my take.


For a person who never judges, you make a lot of judgements.


Its called an opinion, there is a difference mind you.


Definition of JUDGMENT
1
a : a formal utterance of an authoritative opinion b : an opinion so pronounced
2
a : a formal decision given by a court b (1) : an obligation (as a debt) created by the decree of a court (2) : a certificate evidencing such a decree
3
a capitalized : the final judging of humankind by God b : a divine sentence or decision; specifically : a calamity held to be sent by God
4
a : the process of forming an opinion or evaluation by discerning and comparing b : an opinion or estimate so formed
5
a : the capacity for judging : discernment b : the exercise of this capacity
6
: a proposition stating something believed or asserted


aaah k, but there is a clear difference. not everything i say is true, just like yourself. its true to me. bringing out the definitions now? jeez


Number 4 seems to fit what you're talking about.