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singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 01/06/12 11:09 AM
Yes, he likes to push people's buttons, which he did with you. And it worked. It got you even more defensive. I wasn't trying to push anyone's buttons. He asked for opinions and I gave mine. He's the one who got his back up because I didn't applaud his criminal behavior. You try to push people's buttons all the time. But yes, he's being very defensive when people aren't agreeing with what he did.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 01/06/12 11:10 AM
..and before you go there. I did also ask if I overreacted. Still, it's a yes or no question. No reason to attack my character. Or judge my entire life from one incident. You seem to be looking for others to validate what you did. When you ask if others would have been offended, or if you overreacted, of course people are going to give their thoughts on why or why not. I know you're new here, but you can't post a thread like this and expect only yes or no answers. You've been attacking and judging other people here, too. That's not going to help get people to take you more seriously. Who did I judge? o.o I attacked someone? o.O You did notice that people left their opinions, I accepted them and didn't attack them, right? Or you just included that guy up there? What I noticed is that you're very, very defensive. And yes, you definitely went after Spider. Yes, he likes to push people's buttons, which he did with you. And it worked. It got you even more defensive. Why place judgment on ONE incident though? Sounds a little shady. I could understand offering some insight on how HE personally would have handle it and leaving it at that. Not going and making a diagnonsense on one act that should define Mike's whole personality? He asked for opinions on what happened and he got them. Simple as that. If you don't want to hear what people have to say, don't ask.

Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Fri 01/06/12 11:10 AM
Ah, so if it's your own reason for keying someone's car, it's fine, but if someone else does it, it's not. Yes, that makes much sense. ...... Man, what is it with people and only hearing one thing.. OK.. I'll say it more clearly and bluntly. IF I DESERVED IT ... I'd accept it. Ticked, yes. But I'd accept it. HOWEVER I don't go around disrespecting people acting like my s*** don't stink. Therefore, I can't answer how I'd react because it would ultimately be an ENTIRELY DIFFERENT situation. No, not being defensive before I puke to that word again. I hate repeating myself and having to clarify everything. swooh

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 01/06/12 11:11 AM
..and before you go there. I did also ask if I overreacted. Still, it's a yes or no question. No reason to attack my character. Or judge my entire life from one incident. You seem to be looking for others to validate what you did. When you ask if others would have been offended, or if you overreacted, of course people are going to give their thoughts on why or why not. I know you're new here, but you can't post a thread like this and expect only yes or no answers. You've been attacking and judging other people here, too. That's not going to help get people to take you more seriously. Who did I judge? o.o I attacked someone? o.O You did notice that people left their opinions, I accepted them and didn't attack them, right? Or you just included that guy up there? What I noticed is that you're very, very defensive. And yes, you definitely went after Spider. Yes, he likes to push people's buttons, which he did with you. And it worked. It got you even more defensive. sigh If you say so.. All he did was make himself look like a dumba*. A retard who hasn't gotten anywhere, except in his own mind and ego. He made no points. No clarifications. All he did was attack my, as a person. Push my buttons? Ok, call it whatever you want. Truth is, he was making me laugh.. His type is pathetic, sad, and make me pis myself with laughter. The E-bada** is just a sad, pathetic lifestyle. So, if that's called defensive. Whatever. I didn't know you could be defensive and lyao at the same time. I even liked his pictures. He should upgrade though.. That pancake one is so ridiculously outdated. Besides.. He's criticizing me for attacking a guy ten years younger than me... He's 40. I'm 30. I'm supposed to take that seriously? lmao. OK. And yet, you continue to attack him after you said you didn't attack or judge anyone...

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Fri 01/06/12 11:11 AM
Yes, he likes to push people's buttons, which he did with you. And it worked. It got you even more defensive. I wasn't trying to push anyone's buttons. He asked for opinions and I gave mine. He's the one who got his back up because I didn't applaud his criminal behavior. You try to push people's buttons all the time. But yes, he's being very defensive when people aren't agreeing with what he did. When sarcasm is mixed with blatant judgment I'd conclude that is pushing some buttons.

Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Fri 01/06/12 11:11 AM
Yes, he likes to push people's buttons, which he did with you. And it worked. It got you even more defensive. I wasn't trying to push anyone's buttons. He asked for opinions and I gave mine. He's the one who got his back up because I didn't applaud his criminal behavior. Dude.. you're so full of s***.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Fri 01/06/12 11:14 AM
..and before you go there. I did also ask if I overreacted. Still, it's a yes or no question. No reason to attack my character. Or judge my entire life from one incident. You seem to be looking for others to validate what you did. When you ask if others would have been offended, or if you overreacted, of course people are going to give their thoughts on why or why not. I know you're new here, but you can't post a thread like this and expect only yes or no answers. You've been attacking and judging other people here, too. That's not going to help get people to take you more seriously. Who did I judge? o.o I attacked someone? o.O You did notice that people left their opinions, I accepted them and didn't attack them, right? Or you just included that guy up there? What I noticed is that you're very, very defensive. And yes, you definitely went after Spider. Yes, he likes to push people's buttons, which he did with you. And it worked. It got you even more defensive. Why place judgment on ONE incident though? Sounds a little shady. I could understand offering some insight on how HE personally would have handle it and leaving it at that. Not going and making a diagnonsense on one act that should define Mike's whole personality? He asked for opinions on what happened and he got them. Simple as that. If you don't want to hear what people have to say, don't ask. Spider's tact in responding even didn't sit right with me. And I have nothing to do with this discussion. lol Something about it was off. I see what you're saying though.

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Fri 01/06/12 11:14 AM
Yes, he likes to push people's buttons, which he did with you. And it worked. It got you even more defensive. I wasn't trying to push anyone's buttons. He asked for opinions and I gave mine. He's the one who got his back up because I didn't applaud his criminal behavior. You try to push people's buttons all the time. But yes, he's being very defensive when people aren't agreeing with what he did. For the record, I was the second person to suggest anger management. What other response is appropriate for someone who damages a car over something this silly? And from his statement that the car was parked where there were no cameras, that begs the question of "How did he know for certain that was the boyfriend's car?"

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32401	Fri 01/06/12 11:15 AM
Edison once said, 'When the light bulb turned on, I felt like a little kid. I love that mentality; it helps me through all my projects.' Edison was a liar and a thief, not someone I would want to emulate. Edison didn't invent the light bulb??????

irisheyes79 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 16745	Fri 01/06/12 11:16 AM
Yes, he likes to push people's buttons, which he did with you. And it worked. It got you even more defensive. I wasn't trying to push anyone's buttons. He asked for opinions and I gave mine. He's the one who got his back up because I didn't applaud his criminal behavior. Dude.. you're so full of s***. now now fight nicely

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 01/06/12 11:16 AM
Yes, he likes to push people's buttons, which he did with you. And it worked. It got you even more defensive. I wasn't trying to push anyone's buttons. He asked for opinions and I gave mine. He's the one who got his back up because I didn't applaud his criminal behavior. You try to push people's buttons all the time. But yes, he's being very defensive when people aren't agreeing with what he did. For the record, I was the second person to suggest anger management. What other response is appropriate for someone who damages a car over something this silly? And from his statement that the car was parked where there were no cameras, that begs the question of "How did he know for certain that was the boyfriend's car?" I think the OP thinks that the only appropriate responses were to agree with him. Like I said before, I think he went way, way over the top with what he did. He even admitted to having anger issues in the past. Apparently those have not gone away. So yeah, I agree with you.

Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Fri 01/06/12 11:17 AM
..and before you go there. I did also ask if I overreacted. Still, it's a yes or no question. No reason to attack my character. Or judge my entire life from one incident. You seem to be looking for others to validate what you did. When you ask if others would have been offended, or if you overreacted, of course people are going to give their thoughts on why or why not. I know you're new here, but you can't post a thread like this and expect only yes or no answers. You've been attacking and judging other people here, too. That's not going to help get people to take you more seriously. Who did I judge? o.o I attacked someone? o.O You did notice that people left their opinions, I accepted them and didn't attack them, right? Or you just included that guy up there? What I noticed is that you're very, very defensive. And yes, you definitely went after Spider. Yes, he likes to push people's buttons, which he did with you. And it worked. It got you even more defensive. sigh If you say so.. All he did was make himself look like a dumba*. A retard who hasn't gotten anywhere, except in his own mind and ego. He made no points. No clarifications. All he did was attack my, as a person. Push my buttons? Ok, call it whatever you want. Truth is, he was making me laugh.. His type is pathetic, sad, and make me pis myself with laughter. The E-bada** is just a sad, pathetic lifestyle. So, if that's called defensive. Whatever. I didn't know you could be defensive and lyao at the same time. I even liked his pictures. He should upgrade though.. That pancake one is so ridiculously outdated. Besides.. He's criticizing me for attacking a guy ten years younger than me... He's 40. I'm 30. I'm supposed to take that seriously? lmao. OK. And yet, you continue to attack him after you said you didn't attack or judge anyone... It's not judging. He proved who and what kind of person is. Difference. I asked for clarification on who I judged and/or attacked. Telling me what I need: i.e.: "HELP" i.e.: "ANGER MANAGEMENT" Those occurred first. Thank you very much. He began the judging, the attacks.. It is not my fault I'm superior at them.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Fri 01/06/12 11:17 AM
Yes, he likes to push people's buttons, which he did with you. And it worked. It got you even more defensive. I wasn't trying to push anyone's buttons. He asked for opinions and I gave mine. He's the one who got his back up because I didn't applaud his criminal behavior. Dude.. you're so full of s***. now now fight nicely oh no

Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Fri 01/06/12 11:17 AM
Edison once said, 'When the light bulb turned on, I felt like a little kid. I love that mentality; it helps me through all my projects.' Edison was a liar and a thief, not someone I would want to emulate. Edison didn't invent the light bulb?????? Read that again. Where does it say he invented it?

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Fri 01/06/12 11:18 AM
Yes, he likes to push people's buttons, which he did with you. And it worked. It got you even more defensive. I wasn't trying to push anyone's buttons. He asked for opinions and I gave mine. He's the one who got his back up because I didn't applaud his criminal behavior. You try to push people's buttons all the time. But yes, he's being very defensive when people aren't agreeing with what he did. When sarcasm is mixed with blatant judgment I'd conclude that is pushing some buttons. Judging others is a good thing, when it is done honestly and fairly. It's a fair judgement to say that when a 30 year old father is vandalizing a car over words, he need anger management classes.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32401	Fri 01/06/12 11:18 AM
Spider doesn't try to push people's buttons. He just states his opinion and sometimes it comes off the wrong way in writing. It happens to Singmesweet all the time. She is misunderstood because of her candor and the way she writes. Both of them have unintentionally hurt my feelings or made me feel defensive in the forums. However, I know both of them much better now from private conversations and I know that they both mean well. We all have different communication styles, that's all.

Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Fri 01/06/12 11:19 AM
Um, dude, it was the only car in the parking lot. No one walks there because the nearest house is ridiculous distances away. Second, it's 20 degrees here. Third, she wasn't even wearing a coat.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 01/06/12 11:20 AM
..and before you go there. I did also ask if I overreacted. Still, it's a yes or no question. No reason to attack my character. Or judge my entire life from one incident. You seem to be looking for others to validate what you did. When you ask if others would have been offended, or if you overreacted, of course people are going to give their thoughts on why or why not. I know you're new here, but you can't post a thread like this and expect only yes or no answers. You've been attacking and judging other people here, too. That's not going to help get people to take you more seriously. Who did I judge? o.o I attacked someone? o.O You did notice that people left their opinions, I accepted them and didn't attack them, right? Or you just included that guy up there? What I noticed is that you're very, very defensive. And yes, you definitely went after Spider. Yes, he likes to push people's buttons, which he did with you. And it worked. It got you even more defensive. sigh If you say so.. All he did was make himself look like a dumba*. A retard who hasn't gotten anywhere, except in his own mind and ego. He made no points. No clarifications. All he did was attack my, as a person. Push my buttons? Ok, call it whatever you want. Truth is, he was making me laugh.. His type is pathetic, sad, and make me pis myself with laughter. The E-bada** is just a sad, pathetic lifestyle. So, if that's called defensive. Whatever. I didn't know you could be defensive and lyao at the same time. I even liked his pictures. He should upgrade though.. That pancake one is so ridiculously outdated. Besides.. He's criticizing me for attacking a guy ten years younger than me... He's 40. I'm 30. I'm supposed to take that seriously? lmao. OK. And yet, you continue to attack him after you said you didn't attack or judge anyone... It's not judging. He proved who and what kind of person is. Difference. I asked for clarification on who I judged and/or attacked. Telling me what I need: i.e.: "HELP" i.e.: "ANGER MANAGEMENT" Those occurred first. Thank you very much. He began the judging, the attacks.. It is not my fault I'm superior at them. You are showing us over and over again who you are, what kind of person you are and how you overreact. Thank you for letting us know what you're really like, especially when things don't go your way.

irisheyes79 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 16745	Fri 01/06/12 11:20 AM
Spider doesn't try to push people's buttons. He just states his opinion and sometimes it comes off the wrong way in writing. It happens to Singmesweet all the time. She is misunderstood because of her candor and the way she writes. Both of them have unintentionally hurt my feelings or made me feel defensive in the forums. However, I know both of them much better now from private conversations and I know that they both mean well. We all have different communication styles, that's all. yea ill go with that as for me depends on my mood i will once in a while be offensive

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32401	Fri 01/06/12 11:21 AM
Judging others is a good thing, when it is done honestly and fairly. This is actually true. It can be painful, but some of the harshest criticisms I have received have changed me for the better. I wasn't always been this perfect, ya know.