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Topic: Friends?
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Wed 11/04/09 04:06 PM
OK, so why is it that a man and a woman cannot be friends? They have to have a relationship or nothing.
I just had that experience. So sad.grumble

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Wed 11/04/09 04:07 PM

OK, so why is it that a man and a woman cannot be friends? They have to have a relationship or nothing.
I just had that experience. So sad.grumble

sorry you went through that but it's untrue

men and women can be friends, just be honest and be careful as feelings do grow

flowerforyou

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Wed 11/04/09 04:08 PM
I believe I tried to explain that. But to no avail.

silly's photo
Wed 11/04/09 04:11 PM
I don't think that is true.I have men friends on here.and i know other woman do too.drinker :heart:

franshade's photo
Wed 11/04/09 04:13 PM

I believe I tried to explain that. But to no avail.

some people are just like that, sucks though

metalwing's photo
Wed 11/04/09 04:13 PM
Some of my best friends are women. Always have been.

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Wed 11/04/09 04:14 PM
She was on here too. That is how we started talking. Oh well....

mssilverfox's photo
Wed 11/04/09 04:16 PM
Many of my friends are men.. we get along great!

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Wed 11/04/09 04:23 PM
We got along great, maybe that was the problem.

jmsissy's photo
Wed 11/04/09 05:28 PM
A lot of my friends are men..not a problem here

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Wed 11/04/09 07:25 PM

A lot of my friends are men..not a problem here

that's the point. Friends are friends

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Wed 11/04/09 08:29 PM
Was that established up front? Know the feeling. It goes both ways though. I have had a male friend develope feelings and then things got sticky and they got mad when there was no reciprocation of said feelings/actions. Am much more careful now until know they understand.
You would think at this age...I think people start off as friends thinking that maybe the other person will start to feel as they do.
Not everyone...but there are the select few. Surprises me and feel like "Now, why did you have to go and do that?"embarassed

Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 11/04/09 08:34 PM

OK, so why is it that a man and a woman cannot be friends? They have to have a relationship or nothing.
I just had that experience. So sad.grumble


They can as long as there is no sexual tension and if one or the other gets the hots and the other doesn't feel the same way...when it makes it tough.
I had a friends with benefits guy for a long time and one day we just shifted to friends...best friends ever since.

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Wed 11/04/09 10:59 PM
Edited by Katzenschnauzer on Wed 11/04/09 10:59 PM


OK, so why is it that a man and a woman cannot be friends? They have to have a relationship or nothing.
I just had that experience. So sad.grumble


They can as long as there is no sexual tension and if one or the other gets the hots and the other doesn't feel the same way...when it makes it tough.
I had a friends with benefits guy for a long time and one day we just shifted to friends...best friends ever since.







Exactly. Have to let your/his "unit" find it's own friends.surprised

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Thu 11/05/09 12:23 AM
Being a women who has a few close male friends, I can speak from experience and tell you that it is from these friends of the opposite sex that has given me a huge understaning of the male physche. Don't know if it has truly helped me out in romantic relationships, but just knowing certain things about men has benefitted me in many ways.

Shasta1's photo
Thu 11/05/09 09:54 PM

Being a women who has a few close male friends, I can speak from experience and tell you that it is from these friends of the opposite sex that has given me a huge understaning of the male physche. Don't know if it has truly helped me out in romantic relationships, but just knowing certain things about men has benefitted me in many ways.
:thumbsup: flowerforyou

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Thu 11/05/09 09:57 PM
drinker

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Fri 11/06/09 12:42 PM
I have quite a few male friends. The thing I do not have nor will I have is a friend with benefits. It's just not for me. There of course have been a few close calls, because some of my male friends think sex is just the next step in our 'friendship'. Unless a lady and man can communicate again at this point what they really want, it could have ended badly, and we would have lost our friendship. Sometimes when women start with friendship, and the male initiates physical aspects, the woman gets confused and thinks the man wants to move past the friendship. It all depends on how well both of you communicate what you want and need, and keep communicating it. You can't say it once, then expect the friendship to change and everyone still be on the same page.

Sharris's photo
Fri 11/06/09 02:36 PM
It is a facet of relationship, I am learning.

Shasta1's photo
Fri 11/06/09 08:23 PM

I have quite a few male friends. The thing I do not have nor will I have is a friend with benefits. It's just not for me. There of course have been a few close calls, because some of my male friends think sex is just the next step in our 'friendship'. Unless a lady and man can communicate again at this point what they really want, it could have ended badly, and we would have lost our friendship. Sometimes when women start with friendship, and the male initiates physical aspects, the woman gets confused and thinks the man wants to move past the friendship. It all depends on how well both of you communicate what you want and need, and keep communicating it. You can't say it once, then expect the friendship to change and everyone still be on the same page.


Okay, this is soo new to me. Is that what a friend with benefits means? Isn't that a relationship?

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