Topic: Friends?
carold's photo
Tue 11/10/09 06:18 AM

Old Sage Defends FWB one more time...

I say; NEVER pass judgement on ANYONE. What works for one may not work for others. What happens behind closed doors, is NOBODIES business. If FWB, works for you; God Bless you both. Those that it doesn't work for; God Bless you too.
I know that if I am privledged enough to be close to a lady, we will have had a chat & understand EXACTLY where WE are at. I hide nothing & will lie to no one. A "TRUE FRIEND" will never judge a "FRIEND."

My thoughts on "Friends With Benefits."



Now Sir ,if you are going to use God as a blesser of the thought of FWB , then where do His rules like "Thou Shall NOT Commit Adultery" fall in to play.You toss around God's Blessings as if He condones immoral behavior.I for one think He does not ..How about you? Anything goes? That is a stretch but if you say that it is alright behind closed doors, then who am I to argue..So according to your belief (and correct me if I have you wrong)I have God's blessing to do my friend's wife as long as it is in my house behind a closed door..Again ,I think not...JMO
Oh my Lord where did adultry and doing your friends wife come in here. Mike you goin beat this to death too. I remember your holy than thou attitude last time. Geez.

carold's photo
Tue 11/10/09 06:31 AM
:banana: drinks Well he did deactivate:banana: drinks He'll be back he has done this before. Just hope he take his time again.:laughing:

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Tue 11/10/09 03:52 PM
Carol,
I checked in to see what the rhetoric would be like.I have never been rude to you maam and I get great pleasure in this post ..I read the profiles of the posters to see if what they say goes along with their wants and let us for a moment go to yours...you wrote on your profile"Looking for a gentlemen, a gentle soul:) a man with morals and character. Someone who respects women."
Now I applaud you for asking for that but when someone voices what he believes is a very respectful attitude to women and has morals and character, then you chose to slam that person.Why?I have standards and I do not compomise them for sex. How bout that..I do not in any way consider myself better than anyone and have never said anything of the kind.I did not bring up the side of the FWB.Now as far as Mr.Sage ,he says God condones FWB and I do not believe that and said so.Can you show me that anywhere in any Bible?I think His message is to abstain ,so the next logical step for Him to sanction is adultry.For Him to have no rules about FWB's would include anything .That's the stretch I used and still think it is valid.
As as far as my coming back,now that was rude but true..While I do not live on here or have 12000 posts to my credit I can still resign in because there is a little button just for that..The site really wants folks to reactivate their account or there would not be such a button. HAHAHa....I"m back...See how far being openly rude got you.....

Gossipmpm's photo
Tue 11/10/09 04:17 PM
I didn't think Carol was being rude at all

Just voicing her opinion

We all know she is not , by any means , a rude person!:heart:

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Tue 11/10/09 04:21 PM
We have all stated our opinions on this subject, now it has taken on a life of it's own. This isn't about who's right and who's wrong. It's about being free to express one's self without fear of getting slammed. I say FWB -- rest in peace. Life goes on no matter what we believe in. Live your life without intentionally hurting others. Does it really matter if you are right or wrong in someone else's eyes?

carold's photo
Tue 11/10/09 04:55 PM
I just knew you did it for the attention like last time lol I just have a good memorywaving

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Tue 11/10/09 05:06 PM

We have all stated our opinions on this subject, now it has taken on a life of it's own. This isn't about who's right and who's wrong. It's about being free to express one's self without fear of getting slammed. I say FWB -- rest in peace. Life goes on no matter what we believe in. Live your life without intentionally hurting others. Does it really matter if you are right or wrong in someone else's eyes?

Sometimes posts do go directional and if I answer your question it will take another twist..
But here goes..you say" Life goes on no matter what we believe in.Does it really matter if you are right or wrong in someone else's eyes?
very simply absolutely YES.I am a Grandfather..Now should my Granddaughter be subjected to my fwb relationships if I were to do so.Of course not because then I would have to explain to her to not do as I do,do as I say.It is useless to have morals or standards and not follow them which is called leadership through actions.
Here is the next twist on questions..We are all in a over 50 forum and I would venture to say most of us remember when marriage was taken as a serious committment..Sex outside of marriage was a sin and not bragged about..Now I know times are a changin' ,but which do you prefer to teach the next generation..

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Tue 11/10/09 05:15 PM
Edited by vivian2981 on Tue 11/10/09 05:47 PM


We have all stated our opinions on this subject, now it has taken on a life of it's own. This isn't about who's right and who's wrong. It's about being free to express one's self without fear of getting slammed. I say FWB -- rest in peace. Life goes on no matter what we believe in. Live your life without intentionally hurting others. Does it really matter if you are right or wrong in someone else's eyes?

Sometimes posts do go directional and if I answer your question it will take another twist..
But here goes..you say" Life goes on no matter what we believe in.Does it really matter if you are right or wrong in someone else's eyes?
very simply absolutely YES.I am a Grandfather..Now should my Granddaughter be subjected to my fwb relationships if I were to do so.Of course not because then I would have to explain to her to not do as I do,do as I say.It is useless to have morals or standards and not follow them which is called leadership through actions.
Here is the next twist on questions..We are all in a over 50 forum and I would venture to say most of us remember when marriage was taken as a serious committment..Sex outside of marriage was a sin and not bragged about..Now I know times are a changin' ,but which do you prefer to teach the next generation..


OPPS....HIT THE WRONG BUTTON LOL...CAN'T POST HERE....TOO MUCH OF A SLUT...I HAVE A FWB....CYA......GOING TO HELL NOW!!!





















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Tue 11/10/09 05:18 PM


We have all stated our opinions on this subject, now it has taken on a life of it's own. This isn't about who's right and who's wrong. It's about being free to express one's self without fear of getting slammed. I say FWB -- rest in peace. Life goes on no matter what we believe in. Live your life without intentionally hurting others. Does it really matter if you are right or wrong in someone else's eyes?

Sometimes posts do go directional and if I answer your question it will take another twist..
But here goes..you say" Life goes on no matter what we believe in.Does it really matter if you are right or wrong in someone else's eyes?
very simply absolutely YES.I am a Grandfather..Now should my Granddaughter be subjected to my fwb relationships if I were to do so.Of course not because then I would have to explain to her to not do as I do,do as I say.It is useless to have morals or standards and not follow them which is called leadership through actions.
Here is the next twist on questions..We are all in a over 50 forum and I would venture to say most of us remember when marriage was taken as a serious committment..Sex outside of marriage was a sin and not bragged about..Now I know times are a changin' ,but which do you prefer to teach the next generation..

I completely agree with you. I will go back to a point I made a few posts back and say again, I don't believe the original question was making a statement saying that sex outside of marriage was okay. It is just plain wrong. I've said all I will regarding this whole topic. I'm not here to prove anything to anyone, just contributing in my own small way.

carold's photo
Tue 11/10/09 05:30 PM


We have all stated our opinions on this subject, now it has taken on a life of it's own. This isn't about who's right and who's wrong. It's about being free to express one's self without fear of getting slammed. I say FWB -- rest in peace. Life goes on no matter what we believe in. Live your life without intentionally hurting others. Does it really matter if you are right or wrong in someone else's eyes?

Sometimes posts do go directional and if I answer your question it will take another twist..
But here goes..you say" Life goes on no matter what we believe in.Does it really matter if you are right or wrong in someone else's eyes?
very simply absolutely YES.I am a Grandfather..Now should my Granddaughter be subjected to my fwb relationships if I were to do so.Of course not because then I would have to explain to her to not do as I do,do as I say.It is useless to have morals or standards and not follow them which is called leadership through actions.
Here is the next twist on questions..We are all in a over 50 forum and I would venture to say most of us remember when marriage was taken as a serious committment..Sex outside of marriage was a sin and not bragged about..Now I know times are a changin' ,but which do you prefer to teach the next generation..
He's back :)

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Tue 11/10/09 05:33 PM
countrymike, I have read this thread through and you sound as if you're just plain angry at everyone. The topic really isn't the issue with you is it? You stir up some commotion and say you're done and then you peeked back in to see if anyone said anything about you and then here you come flapping your cape in the wind. If I'm wrong on this I beg your forgiveness but you sound peeved at the world in general. Peace. flowerforyou

carold's photo
Tue 11/10/09 05:35 PM
Mike you talk about what I say in my profile yes that is what I want but I'm not judging others. And not finger pointing. All sin is sin, we've had this discussion before. Love your enemies be a better example. God is the judge all have sinned and fall short. Thank him for his grace. He knows our hearts.

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Tue 11/10/09 06:16 PM

countrymike, I have read this thread through and you sound as if you're just plain angry at everyone. The topic really isn't the issue with you is it? You stir up some commotion and say you're done and then you peeked back in to see if anyone said anything about you and then here you come flapping your cape in the wind. If I'm wrong on this I beg your forgiveness but you sound peeved at the world in general. Peace. flowerforyou

Katz,
I have an inquisitive nature and that is why I checked back in.If you really knew me,you would know that I was hoping the post had no more answers and I get Carol throwing barbs..How do you want me to respond..
For instance carol chose to answer my simple question with "he's back"So why does she take the time to post...To prove a point, but when I do it it is abominable...Two faced ,I think ....
Last point for me is how people jump to unfounded conclusions.Why do you perceive me as unhappy in any form? For having an opinion?

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Wed 11/11/09 09:36 AM
From my orginal post, this surely went to another direction...
laugh laugh laugh

synergized's photo
Wed 11/11/09 09:47 AM


countrymike, I have read this thread through and you sound as if you're just plain angry at everyone. The topic really isn't the issue with you is it? You stir up some commotion and say you're done and then you peeked back in to see if anyone said anything about you and then here you come flapping your cape in the wind. If I'm wrong on this I beg your forgiveness but you sound peeved at the world in general. Peace. flowerforyou

Katz,
I have an inquisitive nature and that is why I checked back in.If you really knew me,you would know that I was hoping the post had no more answers and I get Carol throwing barbs..How do you want me to respond..
For instance carol chose to answer my simple question with "he's back"So why does she take the time to post...To prove a point, but when I do it it is abominable...Two faced ,I think ....
Last point for me is how people jump to unfounded conclusions.Why do you perceive me as unhappy in any form? For having an opinion?


I have read everything here, and some people did not agree with my posts, but I did not throw a tantrum over it and start accusing people of being evil or going to hell. Carol is a very sweet person, and I do not see her throwing barbs at you. She actually made a factual statement. You were after all, back. You do have to remember, if you post here, it is fair game to everyone's opinions, not just the ones that agree with yours. We all have our own moral values, and quoting the bible doesn't make yours better than anyone elses. I would say something more on the bible subject, but then we would be off and running again! There are no perfect people in the world, if we were perfect we would be sitting on the right hand side of old J.C.
Your values are your own, and I hope that you find someone who can live happily with them. You can easily step away from the people who you do not agree with, after you voice your opinion. Please do not be rude to others because they do not follow your beliefs to a T. Isn't that why we have wars?
<<<<steps down from my soap box. Sigh

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Wed 11/11/09 10:05 AM

From my orginal post, this surely went to another direction...
laugh laugh laugh

I'll share more experiences for the cause....laugh always interesting to read, feel the reactions of others, especially when it is a subject they or person they know nothing about.

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Wed 11/11/09 10:13 AM
It would be my opinion, we let this thread die.
Unless there is a new opinion, what is the use?
Everyone has the right to their opinion.
END of SUBJECT.
Thread seems to have gone a bit off track.

Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 11/11/09 10:28 AM
New Subject..

It's a beautiful day in the neighborhood! :smile:

countrymike's photo
Wed 11/11/09 04:21 PM


I say; NEVER pass judgement on ANYONE. What works for one may not work for others. What happens behind closed doors, is NOBODIES business. If FWB, works for you; God Bless you both. Those that it doesn't work for; God Bless you too.
I know that if I am privledged enough to be close to a lady, we will have had a chat & understand EXACTLY where WE are at. I hide nothing & will lie to no one. A "TRUE FRIEND" will never judge a "FRIEND."

My thoughts on "Friends With Benefits."


This Old Sage is your own off topic speech. . Remember...Where were you then to shut everyone up and suggest the topic closed?Oh now I see ,as long as some promote fwb, they get to chat and brag about their flings.But when we call to task those that changed the subject ,it gets closed..Where were you to tell Ladylid that she was off topic?. Get a grip ..I think you are a wannabee control freak when folks do not agree with your standards and we have all read about your reasons for promoting fwb relationships /jmo...

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Wed 11/11/09 06:44 PM

New Subject..

It's a beautiful day in the neighborhood! :smile:


Hi! Always nice to make new friends. It's also important to maintain your more long term friends also.

Just giving a shout out to all my friends.waving