by like the "love of your life"...
Yes.

don't mean to bum anyone but is there any way reconcile after that?
Not for me there wasn't.

did you randomly sleep with someone and say fair is fair?
No. Revenge sex wasn't going to fix the problem.

what did u do?
Moved out a week later.

If she does turn out to be pregnant, I'd recommend getting a paternity test.

5 relationships.

Cheated on 4 times.

Reconciled with one of them once. Broke it off when she told me that she cheated on me because " You would have "

Just couldn't wrap my head around logic that twisted.

nope, i've never been cheated on

Me neither. At least that I am aware of. Its never been the reason for a relationship to end, lets put it that way.

I was in the Army at Ft. Bragg when my first wife decided to get a roommate while I was on a training exercise in California. I wouldn't say she was the love of my life since I was pretty young when I married her and the main reason to get married was the insurance would go down on my 4x4....still, it wasn't fun. I held a major grudge for a long time after that, but eventually moved past it.

I've been cheated on, but the guy didn't have the testicular fortitude to tell me--I had to hear it from my friend, his ex at the time.

Now, I didn't have the chance to reconcile (although I wouldn't anyway) because 8 months before he practically forgot about me.

I'm always forgotten about. I attract the guys who don't have the decency to break up with me before they walk out of my life. The story of my life.

This was during a trying time in college.

"Testicular Fortitude"

Thats brilliant! I love it!

nyreekage, I wouldn't lose too much sleep over the guys that don't have the grapes to talk to you about what is going on. It just means that they are intimidated and scared of being an adult. It's much easier to run away and forget than it is to take responsibility and do the right thing. I had a commander in the Army that always said that a lot of times in life you have the choice between "the hard right and the easy wrong." Other than that saying....he was a prick :)

I have never reconciled a relationship after being cheated on...and yes it's happened to me. Sucks!

I have known people that have seemingly gotten though it successfully, but it takes more patience and acceptance than what most people are willing to give...especially the cheater. It takes one second to trash trust and a lifetime to build it back. Trust is the worst thing you can take from someone.

Speaks the truth....

Been cheated on. about a month after we had gotten married. With my best friend. And then when I filed for divorce she tried to say that my son wasn't mine. Well DNA proived her wrong on that. Now she is in some psycho home and hasn't talked to me or our son but only three times over the phone in the past 2 years. Would never consider trying to work everything out. What has been done is done and she is the one paying for her actions.

Never been cheated on and hope I never will

If someone cheats on you they have no respect for you or themselves.All I can say is DUMP THEM and move on. I did and I feel pretty good about my decision.

yeah so I gotta come clean and end the suspense for those keeping track at home....

she got her period...

I slept with someone else...

and we've decided to work it out...

what an end to a sh*tty week...

I don't plan to tell her what I did, as she never offered her secret openly, but I won't lie if ever confronted...

I guess I posted this whole thing online because in some sick way, maybe I want her to find out, perhaps I need her to know how much I was humiliated....

anyways thx to everyone for sharing and all the advice...

PS...everyone is inviting to the wedding...well you if it works out

LMFAO @ poor life decisions

RUN FORREST RUN.

i was cheated on once after a year long relationship , she was leaving for uni n had a party , i had to work that night , n she kissed one of my best mates ... i told her to shove it where the sun dont shine and hit my mate to the floor

Over a kiss?

I believe that there are different kinds of cheaters. There are the "dogs" that cheat cuz they can. Then there are the people that simply make a mistake. I have been cheated on by both kinds. I would never stay and not because I cant forgive, but because I dont like the suspicious and jelouse person that I become.

That is not a reason I have ever heard before