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Destiny~
Very interesting response. I do not see myself or my potential dates as a lost cause. See, the wonderful thing about this forum is that we all have different opinions. You have yours, and my response to your first post was to explain my views. I did appreciate your input, but I can't help but think you were right fighting, and also being quite condescending. I am not willing to date men who talk about their exes ad nauseusm, despite whatever reasons they have for doing do. You did provide some insight into what happened, and for that I'm grateful. TGIF |
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Did I come up
 were you thinking of me
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Sounds like this was a date to forget....rebound relationships don't work & obviously he is still carrying his past with him....the fact that he couldn't look you in the eye is a definite 'red flag' for me....
I love to gaze into a woman's eyes....there is much one can see...I also don't like when the other person spends too much time talking about an Ex or a series of past relationships....makes me wonder if i'm Next....but dating is the ultimate filter for selecting 'out' or 'in' for that matter....hope your next date goes better  |
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Tell you what Lilith, next time I'm out your way, I'll shoot you a line to let you know I'm coming. That way you can actually go out with a nice guy that has zero skeletons.
 
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Tell you what Lilith, next time I'm out your way, I'll shoot you a line to let you know I'm coming. That way you can actually go out with a nice guy that has zero skeletons. That would be fab.....! I actually have a sort of meet date/casual thing tonight.... wish me luck people! I appreciate the support I've gotten, and the other sides as well. I'm bound and determined to have fun tonight! |
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No, I ask about the ex.... I do. I want to know if you are ready. It is a sort of test, I suppose. What I'm looking for: How long single, over relationship, still talk, are you going to bash them? Long story short. Basically, I want a overview, bullet point quick stuff. Example, "I was married for three years and have one child. We divorced six years ago and I've had a few relationships since then. My last relationship ended about four months ago, lasted six months, and I learned we were just not compatible. I've had some funny Internet dates, how about you?" Almost all of my internet dates have been disasters, lol. Once on a first date I had a lady that, for some reason, tried and tried and tried to get me to get physical with her, despite all the verbal and physical clues otherwise. Even after I told her "Sorry, Im just not attracted to you" she still pushed it and even kissed me, which, of course, isn't a big deal. I kept thinking she would get embarrassed and leave. Eventually I had to ask her to leave (we were chatting in my car and she wouldn't get out). I just don't think I'm internet dating material. |
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Have a couple of shots before you leave the house, loosen up, forget everything that was said here today, and you'll be fine.
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Thank you... it is a housewarming with a few close friends, so I'm bringing a six pack. I plan to drink just one before I go so I'm relaxed but still alert and legal.
I promise to post tomorrow about how it goes! |
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they use that line to make you believe they are intellectuals Do I look stupid though? We all know it is a line. Or worse, if such a thing is true, you look ignorant for not keeping up with current events. Either way it is bad, as the person looks lame. I find it funny that everyone thinks.. that's a line. I honestly don't watch TV. I read. Now I read the news on the internet and am aware of all politics, local news and economic situations. Someone that states they don't watch TV so they aren't up to date on current events just indicates a lazy person to me. Now the person that finds picking up a book too much work definately looks lame in my eyes. |
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hope it goes well,,,,if not,,,,,try dear abby
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Who isn't?
Did I come up were you thinking of me |
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I would just like to comprehend how guys like that get dates n the first place... amazing.
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Edited by
JustAGuy2112
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Fri 07/25/08 10:38 PM
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I disagree Fran. You should give those little nervous guys a little extra time. Nerves have nothing to do with a willingness to move forward. A person can still have reservations about a situation, and want to go ahead and "try it out." Nervousness is the defense of the wary heart. It's what happens when confidence has been eroded, and a person goes from an agressive stance to a more defensive posture. A willingness to move on yes, a willingness to get beat around like a speedbag at the gym, no. No one has problems when a woman uses caution, we all think that is prudent. If a man does it, is it not also prudent? Only men are not allowed to show this caution outwardly, it, by societial constrains, must be taken inward. That is where the nerves truly kick in. And that's why so many of the so called "nice guys" finish last. It's not a readiness thing, it's a confidence thing. However all of the above was  Of course I think Lilith's guy isn't a keeper, the answer to that was in the eyes, and the fact he wasn't making contact. Justme probably needs to run as fast as she can from the McDonalds groper though!! Dude. Can I have YOU write all my posts from now on?? I won't sound nearly as much like an idiot as I do when I write them myself....lol |
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I disagree Fran. You should give those little nervous guys a little extra time. Nerves have nothing to do with a willingness to move forward. A person can still have reservations about a situation, and want to go ahead and "try it out." Nervousness is the defense of the wary heart. It's what happens when confidence has been eroded, and a person goes from an agressive stance to a more defensive posture. A willingness to move on yes, a willingness to get beat around like a speedbag at the gym, no. No one has problems when a woman uses caution, we all think that is prudent. If a man does it, is it not also prudent? Only men are not allowed to show this caution outwardly, it, by societial constrains, must be taken inward. That is where the nerves truly kick in. And that's why so many of the so called "nice guys" finish last. It's not a readiness thing, it's a confidence thing. However all of the above was Of course I think Lilith's guy isn't a keeper, the answer to that was in the eyes, and the fact he wasn't making contact. Justme probably needs to run as fast as she can from the McDonalds groper though!! Dude. Can I have YOU write all my posts from now on?? I won't sound nearly as much like an idiot as I do when I write them myself....lol I've been a paid speechwriter before. But I worked for a political action committee and decided I just couldn't lie for a living anymore. So as long as I'm telling the truth, I'll write your posts. 
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So Lilith, how'd that date go? Did it go great or can I still dream that I might have a chance?
 
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I am just so sick of the bad dates, Fran. The ex factor tends to account for at least 50% of the situation, in my experience. You're so picky, Lilith! |
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Hi Lilith, ltns. All I can say is dude is crazy... I'd hope I'd have more class in that situation...you have my permission to slap me silly if you ever hear otherwise...
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(((Fade)))  It was awesome, I wish we could have done a double date.... LMAO .. I just saw this. You know we'd be rockin girlfriend - the damage we coulda done  What I am VERY proud of you for? You showed enough presence to actually GET a 2nd drink and weather thru the 'process'. Wouldn't it be great if the concept of "speed dating" would carry over to the first real date. Things go awry? "fast forward" button .... woot woot. One thing though. I DO get most of my news from online. Everyone here seemed to note that if you don't watch TV you aren't "in the know", but that's just not so anymore. 
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Edited by
franshade
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Sat 07/26/08 09:13 AM
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RO it's perfectly ok to not agree thats what allows us to learn from others. My choice may not be the same as others, but if a person I date is not sure, not confident,nervous, not himself (so to speak) that's on him. Nothing wrong with feeling how he does, but what does that have to do with me.
All I said is, he should get himself together, I am about as approachable as they come, not standoffish, I can talk (  ) boy can I talk, I can make small talk and do take my time to make others feel at ease. |
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