Thank you and I will let her know. Bless her heart, I had been worried because it has been a bit of time since she has been on and had hoped she might have posted here but I could tell by her writing that she was not feeling well.

Not going to let this get buried to deep.
Went to a wedding, yesterday.
Thoughts went back to when Gwen & I married.
Joy & sorrow still, hope God really does help us understand in the end.

Big hugs I'm sure we will.

Cleaning house, in upstairs bathroom, found an old perfume Gwen used. Still smells as I remember, got some on my hand. Now I keep looking over my shoulder, every time I catch a whiff. It will be 11yrs 4 months, the 2.

I was told once, the mind forgets the bad things in life; but we never forget the good. Guess this helps prove that.

Where is auburn, anyone seen her??

She is gone on her trip. hope everything is going well for her.

Hello group:


Virginia, my wife, died in Jan. 07. My initial reaction was panic as the lonliness just drove me nuts. I did not want to go in.


Now, this year -- particularly the summer, has been different. I have met Virginia in many places and severa different planes. Several weeks ago I went to a Baha'i Faith retreat at Green Lake, WI & remembered our times there. It was lovely.

My big stretch for the summer was 2 fold: 1) to purchase a motorcycle and 2) to read and work through The Artist's Way. My mechanical talents that I have not messed with in 45 years have done surprisingly well. It is one means of making amends to my Dad.

The Artist's Way has been informative and has gotten me to change this summer. change is usually a good thing from my part.


Prayers for all,

hello AJ2WING
Welcome to the widow and widower thread.
Sorry to hear of your loss.How long were you and your wife married?
Getting over the loss of your spouse is a long slow process, and on this thread we understand the pain .
Hope you will benefit from this as most of us have.
Take care
Betty

Hoping that someone might have heard from
Rose since my last post.

Good morning everyone,,I too lost my husband of 26 yrs suddenly last Mar.( 07) and then my mom in Oct.. It almost shut me down but I am a survivor and have picked myself up and doing much better..moving on with life, its not always easy.. But with the help on many on here and my friends I take one day at a time.. I didn't get to tell my husband goodby but I did have to tell my mom it was ok to let go, she fought until the last second... Death is never easy but try to let your friends and family help you, it does help..

Aj2wings, welcome to the family.
Lots of good support here to help work thru things.
Get down in the 50's thread, we take all ages & you'll find a 60's thread in there.
questions, let them rip, we all help eachother.

Well,

it's getting that time of year Sept 22nd. Every year I start feeling weird about this time. Doesn't matter what it looks like on the outside, we can still see that day like it was today.

It's hard to explain to someone else unless they have lost their family also.

I go from joy to terror. Last night the dreams started. It was beautiful till I woke up.

I don't want to sound all doom and gloom, because it isn't really that way. It's more like you go into a dream world for awhile (at least for me).

This year is weird cause last week we lost our best friends in a plane crash, so everything is hitting home a little harder than usual. I even forgot about my heart procedure tomorrow, which I think I will cancel (long story).

The thing is, life will always inter mingle with the forever for us, and it's better I feel to except it rather than forget, or fight it. The 2 can live side by side.

peace and love to all of you,

michael

Welcome AJ2 and Silverfox!


Hey (((Michael)) Hugs on the upcoming anniversary date and I send my love to Bonny!

(((((((((BETTY))))))))))) Yes I a m still on my trip in New Mexico and it is going wonderfully! Sorry I haven't emailed! Busy Busy! Should be home next week some time, unless we extend it Again.

Love and Hugs to all!!

(((((Connie)))))
Sooo glad to hear from you!! We were getting worried about you .
Glad you are having a great time.

Hello.
You may have seen me around. Some of my posts are stubborn and hard headed.

My name is Elizabeth.
I lost my husband May 4 2001.

I'm still screwed up.
I'm still lost without him.
I let him take the best of me with him.

...I am anxiously waiting until things get better.

I crave for someone to see ME but I purposely push people away. Nothing seems right. Nothing feels right. No one smells right .

I started toying with the idea of dating April 2007.
Since then, I have had the misfortune of meeting a lot of men that have really bad intensions.
It seems as though the more time that goes by- the more selfish people become.

I'm starting to believe that I am destined to be alone.

Is it just me or is it mentally, physically and emotionally EXHAUSTING to try and coexisit with another person.

I just don't get people anymore.

No,

It's fine to feel like you need to be alone. Many people have that one love then stay in that love long after the passing.

bless you,

michael

I think we will all agree that the grieving process is not a one size fits all type of deal.
We all go through it a own pace and we handle it in different ways.What works for one person may not work for another.
So you do what ever feels right for you,and know that it is normal.Don,t concern yourself with what other people think.
Wishing all of you the best
Betty :

HI all,
been a while since I posted, had a few bumps in the road as they say, had the 4 disks fused in my neck about 5 weeks ago and while living life as in moving 4 cords of wood cleaning gutters ecct, must have chalagened a few other as the day after my birthday 57 years here now... i has 4 more grafted, would love to say these where as easy but that would be a lie. valuim and darvocet are my new best friends, i had to turn down a load of wood today but did set one up for monday, maybe by them i 'll be more able to move, they go thru the frount to do the ceverial disks and i have emence swelling this time,
I came home the same day no over nighters for me, but he week before had visits from people who had gone before kinda scary yet not. after in the fog i saw them all around my bed but not one of them would take me with them. this has been a strange experence,all around. but I wanted you all to know i am still here, in body. I am putting thing to rights now that i should have done before but one person who pass on has me giving something i held on to for 35+years back to where ut belong she said i know when it right.
a part of me fells like i am drifting in the land between the 2 worlds, not really conected to eather one right now, could be the good drugs for pain also. will write more late but thanks for the prayers,rose

Rose, good to hear from you.
we have been concerned.
Lots of good thoughts revolving around you for moral support.

((((((cONNIE))))))))))
I know you are due back from your trip today.
You were very missed and welcome back!!
Let me know how everything went OK
Take care Love
Betty