cheating happens because people dont communicate they are not honest about what they really need from their partners, hold unrealistic expectations of each other and are cowards when it comes to acknowledging what they are NOT getting from the relationship...monogamy is an imposed practice that has its roots in protecting the father´s blood lines and has no basis in reality..
I would not forgive a cheater...but certainly would be open to the possibilities of a poly-amorous relationship if it worked out best for the both of us...

That's still cheating...you didn't consent...it's the samr deal...why don't guys get that??

No. That is his opinion of cheating. If she cheats with another female, he doesn't feel it is cheating. He might be wrong, but it is how he views it.

Then she gets the last laugh

Cheating is just wrong, plain and simple.

I second that

True. Some guys view the "act of cheating" as sleeping with the opposite sex. They see nothing wrong with their woman sleeping with another woman. I mean, most guys would want to watch that. So, in another way, if he watched it then he wins too...least in his mind he does.

yeah...only in his mind

But that is all that matters right? If he sees nothing wrong with it, and he witnessed it, then he feels fine about. Sure. In my mind and yours, she cheated. But to some people, it doesn't compute that way (ie...swingers).

lol...ok I'm stumped

i second that Star ....because she is still going to someone other than him for that affection and therefore breaking that trust between them no matter if it is with another girl...if she would do that with a girl then what would stop her from doing it again and again and again with other girls when he is not around...or even with other guys

still cheating!! unless they both had an understanding between them saying that it was okay

Me too. Moral of the story here though....Cheating = BAD!!!

hey Nova

why hello gorgeous

Yes... but it is a constant forgiveness everyday.
I just can't forget and it haunts you everyday.

I can forgive but i will never forget and eventually it eats away at me and I leave

whether I forgive or not.. I would never forget.. thus the relationship is forever fractured. Gotta say honestly that I could not stay in a relationship with someone who cheated on me.