Topic: Depression support - part 3
cutelildevilsmom's photo
Tue 09/09/08 01:27 PM

GOD, I so need to spill my guts, but everytime I think of doing it here I freeze. Then more crap happens and there is even more to spill but again I freeze. Marie knows most of it, but damn, I wish I could share. Being alone in this situation and possibly having to move again into a real bad neighborhood from this nice one is scary. But I guess it is better than living in fear all the time and feeling like I am going to be evicted at any time just for the lust of one man. It is sick.

I would call the tenant association or your state senator and explain your situation.The criminal should move,not you!!
Well this week I screwed up and I'm 600 bucks in the hole so no money for me this week...slaphead

RainbowTrout's photo
Tue 09/09/08 09:54 PM
One nice thing about working at the nursing home, Jax is when I screw up at least I can get something to eat at work. Today was interesting. Actually I haven't had an uninteresting day since I have been there. Someone donated this brand new RCA 32 Hi Def tv. One of the residents saw it. She threw a fit when they took out the old one we had there. She said, "Bring my tv back." Oh, she was fit to be tied. It was just a tv in the waiting area. To her the new tv wasn't a tv. She wanted the new tv out of there. We get donations from the church and the church folks were there delivering the tv. She really cracks me up when she tells us that she is going to call the sheriff and get us all out of her house. You just got to love them.laugh

buttons's photo
Wed 09/10/08 07:34 AM

One nice thing about working at the nursing home, Jax is when I screw up at least I can get something to eat at work. Today was interesting. Actually I haven't had an uninteresting day since I have been there. Someone donated this brand new RCA 32 Hi Def tv. One of the residents saw it. She threw a fit when they took out the old one we had there. She said, "Bring my tv back." Oh, she was fit to be tied. It was just a tv in the waiting area. To her the new tv wasn't a tv. She wanted the new tv out of there. We get donations from the church and the church folks were there delivering the tv. She really cracks me up when she tells us that she is going to call the sheriff and get us all out of her house. You just got to love them.laugh
laugh laugh damn if i wasnt mental before i think with your job it would turn me mentallaugh laugh dont know how u do itlaugh frustrated flowerforyou flowerforyou

RainbowTrout's photo
Wed 09/10/08 10:52 AM
laugh laugh damn if i wasnt mental before i think with your job it would turn me mentallaugh laugh dont know how u do itlaugh frustrated flowerforyou flowerforyou


I am Aquarius therefore I am mental.laugh I just love the ones who talk to the mirror images of themselves. Another resident last night was upset with her image and was arguing with it. She was telling the image to talk to her. I guess the image didn't feel like talking. laugh She reminded me of an another resident we had before who was telling me about his boy in the mirror. He was telling me how his boy was just like him. He was the only one in the room besides me. The powers that be took out his mirror because they felt it was upsetting him. But then he really started to get upset. So they put his mirror back in his room. He was telling me later that his boy liked chewing his tobacco just like he did. It was like that is my boy.laugh

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Wed 09/10/08 10:24 PM
Roy- I don't know how you do the job you do, I couldn't. Taking care of dad for over a year just about pushed me over the edge, literally. I am glad there are people out there like you that have what it takes to do the work. flowers

I am supposed to start my 2nd job tonight, went and met the guy, (was hired over the phone and on referrals of friends) and picked up his tape to type, he walked me through his computer system, have to access the files on the internet, gave me my password, etc., so I am trying to access the damn thing and it locks me out. Of course it is late and I am afraid to call him this late to unlock me, they have premie twin girls at home and he was babysitting all day and I would guess he is sleeping, I would hate to wake him up. Damn, can I make a good first impression or what? Then I managed to get a sore throat and what feels like a sinus infection on top of it, first time in almost two years I have gotten sick. Been letting stress get to me obviously. frustrated :angry: grumble grumble rant

Guess I make an apologetic call in the a.m. and do the typing tomorrow night. I even called the support system for the program and their message said it was after hours, leave a message and they would get back to me tomorrow -- boy, that was helpful. explode explode

Hope everyone is having a better night than I am. Take care.

Hang in there Karen, hope things get better soon. flowers flowers

Hope you are doing well, Jax. flowers flowers

Marie55's photo
Wed 09/10/08 10:25 PM
Buttons - hope you are feeling better and getting some sleep. flowers flowers

buttons's photo
Thu 09/11/08 07:39 AM

laugh laugh damn if i wasnt mental before i think with your job it would turn me mentallaugh laugh dont know how u do itlaugh frustrated flowerforyou flowerforyou


I am Aquarius therefore I am mental.laugh I just love the ones who talk to the mirror images of themselves. Another resident last night was upset with her image and was arguing with it. She was telling the image to talk to her. I guess the image didn't feel like talking. laugh She reminded me of an another resident we had before who was telling me about his boy in the mirror. He was telling me how his boy was just like him. He was the only one in the room besides me. The powers that be took out his mirror because they felt it was upsetting him. But then he really started to get upset. So they put his mirror back in his room. He was telling me later that his boy liked chewing his tobacco just like he did. It was like that is my boy.laugh
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buttons's photo
Thu 09/11/08 07:49 AM

Buttons - hope you are feeling better and getting some sleep. flowers flowers
thank you marie i am well i was getting enough before just kept getting interupted. most nights i did anyway.... nightmares seem to have lightened up.. still i had a dream last night its weird but feel much better rested when its just a dream... crazy eh? anyhow been doing little things to improve my stress i havent gotten called for an interview yet though but im not going to stop looking for work. gonna look on every day off i have from this pt time job and on sundays too.. at least i have a plan and i have been following it..:smile:

RainbowTrout's photo
Thu 09/11/08 11:06 AM
I have found comfort in Matthew, Marie. Matthew 5:37 But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil. My coworker is learning how to adapt to the nurses we have trouble dealing with. She says she is just biting her lip. She is really trying hard to keep a civil lip in her head. I have finally convinced her of the futility of those nurses being able to see our point of view. It is like if they wanted any of our lip they would ask for it. If I had enough top teeth I would bite my lip.laugh But I am simply not able to any more.laugh We have a plan to follow put out by the nursing home through the nurses meetings. But when the nurse on duty makes changes to them we just have to go by the new changes. We simply just have to go by the rules that are current for each particular day or minute. It is like the book 1984 where it says 2 plus 2 is four until it is five. It doesn't matter that 2 plus 2 is 4 because 4 has been over ruled by 5 because 5 is greater than 4.laugh My coworkers and me are learning to be flexible in our thinking. It doesn't have to compute if it doesn't want to. laugh My coworker old me that I helped to keep her grounded and I told her she does me, too. We have some great vent sessions and she is learning how to adapt to the dementia of the job. We don't have nurses meetings like the nurses do but we do have our meetings. Life is becoming less stressful because of it.:smile:

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Thu 09/11/08 02:36 PM
Vacation with parents in Oregon countdown....leaving on the 13th.
12 hrs of train ride one way. Then a week and birthday there with my parents! Yay. I'm really looking forward to seeing them after so long and being away from here on my b-day.
Assholes b-day is the same as mine so Im just glad to be gone.
My daughter was supposed to take care of my animals, but her car got impounded, so I don't know who is going to take care of them....I am trying to find a way around it.
I think they can go about 3 days alone then need someone to come freshen thier water and they have tons of food. They are on a free feed sched, so they are good with the food thing.
This is day 11 of no smoking. Yay.
I had 2 mo under my belt, then fell off the wagon for about 2 wks, then jumped back on and it has been 11 days. Feels great.
Tired from taxing my daughter around from two jobs and college. Wish she lived closer, but I don't mind. She has taken care of me so many times. Running errands, taking care of my animals when Im not around and such. Just tired, haha.
When you are 22 I guess you can work till 11 then get up at 4 to get to wrk by 5am then go to school then get ready and go to work for the night, hahaha. Damn, I remember the days. I have great respect for her. In March she will graduate and have a bachlors in Theatre and Arts. Yeah, Pround Mama here.
So living day to day with the damn nightmares and wierd dreams, manicky crap and trying not to be around people until this passes. Parents are different. Haha, they are constantly telling me Hey! We are on your side remember?

RainbowTrout's photo
Thu 09/11/08 09:36 PM
12 hour train ride. I guess I was thinking of the old trains, Karen. I am happy you are getting a chance to get away. The DON just asked me to work 3rd tomorrow and the next day. I need the money. I couldn't say no. Winter is coming and I have missed eating out this week. I really haven't much in for that matter. Just the thought of losing my satellite is just too great, too. My friend at work is losing her time with her grand daughter because the mom is moving away. I really got to see how much that meant to her tonight. She left early in tears. The nurse that I have had trouble with told me that she heard I was working tomorrow but not during her shifts. Man, just about the time I think I got em figured out they change on me. I have finally gotten used to staying on my own these last few years but can understand how it is for those with family with them. I am getting to the point of thinking it better to take care of myself. I am getting a lot more independent and it okay just to be by myself. I am getting where I really kind of like it.:smile:

RainbowTrout's photo
Sat 09/13/08 05:44 AM
Man, women sure are emotional people. I am glad I have tried to keep to myself and just about gave up on talking. It really has helped me to keep my feet out of my mouth. My coworker now reminds me when I was so much into grief. She must be as attached to her grand daughter as I was to my deceased wife. There really must be something to this bonding process. She called me up she said just to here the sound of my voice. She has just been beside herself and even came to visit me during third shift last night. Brought some angel hair spaghetti and some fish from Long John Silver's. I have just gave trying to figure out what kind of relationship I am at the present time. I had forgotten just how relaxing third shift was compared to second shift. It is like the difference between night and day. If that isn't some profundity.laugh Six years divorced. Gee, that much time divorced you would think she would be way ahead of wanting a relationship. Weirdest thing we only see each other at work. Hmmm. Dunno.:smile:

creationsfire's photo
Sat 09/13/08 09:49 AM
Well, Roy, sounds like someone has a wittle crush on you, heehee. That is sweet and I would take it as a compliment.

Got to the train station and found out that I was 10 hours early, hahaha. The time was 8:15 pm, not am, hahaha. Bummer my mom had to drive from the mountains to take me but at least I found out there was a problem with my ticket and was able to take care of it now rather than 45 min b4 I had to leave.

So now I sit here fat and bored, waiting till it is time to go again. Yeah 12 hours one way to Eugene Oregon. One tranfer to another train in Sacramento. I got an iPod for my b-day though, so at least I will have tunes and I won't have to talk to anyone cuz they will see that I have the earphones on and I can pretend I can't hear them hahahaha.

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Sat 09/13/08 11:52 AM


One nice thing about working at the nursing home, Jax is when I screw up at least I can get something to eat at work. Today was interesting. Actually I haven't had an uninteresting day since I have been there. Someone donated this brand new RCA 32 Hi Def tv. One of the residents saw it. She threw a fit when they took out the old one we had there. She said, "Bring my tv back." Oh, she was fit to be tied. It was just a tv in the waiting area. To her the new tv wasn't a tv. She wanted the new tv out of there. We get donations from the church and the church folks were there delivering the tv. She really cracks me up when she tells us that she is going to call the sheriff and get us all out of her house. You just got to love them.laugh
laugh laugh damn if i wasnt mental before i think with your job it would turn me mentallaugh laugh dont know how u do itlaugh frustrated flowerforyou flowerforyou

the althzeimers unit is a hoot..not

RainbowTrout's photo
Sun 09/14/08 05:47 AM
Lucky to have power this morning. Amazed I could get online. Was outside when the high winds came by the nursing home at four thirty this morning. Giant tree down blocking the way home. Had to take an alternate route. Ike really did a number. A lot of counties without power. Trees on the power lines. Hope all can get to work this morning. I bet there are a lot of call ins. I just got off a 12 and have to go back in this evening.

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Mon 09/15/08 01:37 AM

I can relate, Karen. After my wife died I prayed for death. My friend, Nene who no longer frequents the forum for some time helped me with that. I only read one of Stephen King's book and that was "IT". I was more into fantasy than horror. My life was horror and I really didn't need any more. But it was a quotation of Stephen King's that actually I could relate with. I didn't know that Stephen King was an alcoholic. But the quote that got to me was, "God punishes us with life." I am paraphrasing and can't remember the exact quote. Later I found out that my fantasy author, Peirs Anthony and Stephen King were actually good friends. They made a deal to try each others' genre. What became of it was "Firefly" by Peirs. I can't remember what Stephen King wrote in fantasy right now. After a while of praying for death and seeing that prayer wasn't going to be answer by the way of my death I decided that I should instead make the best of it. During the worse part of my grief I thought God was cruel for letting me live. If he was a good friend he would have let me die. I began to look at Stephen King's quote as, "What kind of monster lets a person live when their soulmate has died?" My problem that I was too weak to take my own life so all of my suicides always failed. Eventually I just asked God to fill me with his love because he took away my love. It worked.:heart:


The Eye of the Dragon - Stephen King
Piers Anthony is one of my favorite authors

RainbowTrout's photo
Mon 09/15/08 09:33 AM
Hi, Angie. Welcome to the thread. I love Peirs' work. He wrote a lot of stuff. I was looking for a reason to go on after my wife's death. I remembered something from reading Huckleberry Finn or was it Tom Sawyer? I am not sure which. But during the time Tom had left and came back to his own funeral the passage of Job 1:21 was read.
Job 1:21 And said, Naked came I out of my mother's womb, and naked shall I return thither: the LORD gave, and the LORD hath taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD.
I had to stop being angry at Dottie for dying. I had to stop being angry at God for taking her away. I had to stop being angry at the church for my friends were only trying to help me. I had to stop being angry at married people because they still had their spouses. I made a bargain with God. I traded my anger for his love. It was like Dottie was saying, "Quit being a dumbass and get on with your life. Don't make come out of my grave and ***** slap you.":smile:

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Mon 09/15/08 10:18 AM
Thanks, I'm kind of going through a hard time right now, and there was something theraputic about reading this thread last night (even if it did take me several hours). biggrin

I'll probably tell more later, but for right now its nice just to slowly step in.

RainbowTrout's photo
Mon 09/15/08 10:22 AM
Well, take your time. No need to hurry. Therapy is good stuff. I am glad it is helping. It helps me every day.

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Mon 09/15/08 01:55 PM

Thanks, I'm kind of going through a hard time right now, and there was something theraputic about reading this thread last night (even if it did take me several hours). biggrin

I'll probably tell more later, but for right now its nice just to slowly step in.

I always walk slowly.dont want to step in dog ****..rofl
welcome..flowers