me too.the real test will be spaghetti though.today my damn cat got out and i had to crawl around in the bushes trying to get him.luckily my neighbors helped so i didn't bust a stitch.

Had a white poodle scratching on my door and whining during the rain we had the other day. Open the door because at first I didn't know what was making the noise. I guess someone had dumped it because no one claimed it. Gave it to the coworker and I didn't know what to name it. So I named it Molly Hatchet. I was surprised because it came when I called it Molly Hatchet. Gave it to my friend with the grand daughter. Real friendly female dog. My friend said if it was pregnant that she was giving the puppies to me. Hope everyone is having a good time.

Think my dad is on the way out, he has gotten really weak, actually went down at the nursing home today, couldn't walk the 2 feet or so between his chair and the electric wheelchair. An aide was with him and guided him to the floor so he didn't get hurt that they can tell, but he is really weak. He has been eating less and less and seeming depressed more and more. I think he has almost made his mind up that he wants to check out. If he has, he will, he is one stubborn guy. That is one thing my parents had in common - stubborn as hell. I told the nurse what I had been seeing, the changes in him. I am going to call the clinic tomorrow and ask his doc or whoever is on-call to check him out. Not sure what is going on, but my "gut" tells me it is not good. I have had this feeling for the last few weeks that he is wanting to check out, to go be with my mom. She died on 01/02/06 and my brother on 06/11/07. Damn, I don't want to go through this stuff again.

Sorry, guess I really took the depression thread into depression. Thanks for listening.

Hope everyone is having a good week.

Don't apologize Marie, that's why we are here.

Marie, it is tough, but if it is his choice & no real pain, he is a luckyman.
Family is close & he knows you care.
May God help him & give him peace.

Ive seen whut those head pills do. I call anti depressants head
pills everything thats supposed to my you angry or sad kinda make you feel good or numb a good friend of mine really changed she didn't care what type pf situations she got herself into i cared alot about her but she changed

Oh my mom is the same. She seems so tired of life. And her in pain and missing the life she had with my dad. And now my older sister in the hospital all of this is hard for her.

I see this a lot at the home.One day they wake up and decide they are ready to go.Prayers and hugs to you Marie.

Thanks everyone for your kind wishes. We are in a holding pattern right now. Dad's doctor was off today so I talked to the doctor on-call (who is one I type for) and he is ordering a bunch of tests to make sure he doesn't have any infections going on to cause this change in him and weakness. Won't hear back from some of them until tomorrow. I still have a bad feeling, this change has been going on for weeks now, maybe 6-7, with his behavior change, etc., and I think an infection would have shown with a fever or some other way by now. But will see what they say tomorrow about his labs.

Again, thanks for your well wishes and kind thoughts. You are the best.

My prayers are with you, Marie. Let us know.

Thanks Roy - will keep you all informed. I really appreciate the support. I hope to hear something about his labwork tomorrow.

Have a good day, take care.

If he has a UTI he won't have a fever but deameanor will change suddenly,could have hallucinations,depression,weakness,mood swings.

His behavior has been changing for the last 6 or more weeks, has been more and more depressed, eating less and less too. I don't really think it is an infection, would think it would have shown up by now, some type of pain, etc. But he is very weak and I just get the feeling he is giving up, but will have to wait and see what the labs say.

Thanks for the info. Take care.

Got to work a double tonight. The DON said she hated to ask me; We are just so shorthanded. Looks like I will be doing my trick or treating at work. We have the nursing home decorated for Halloween. One of the residents asked me what those black things hanging from the ceiling were. I told her that they were bats. I know I will have to explain to some of the residents that they will have to hand out the candy instead of eating it. Trick or treating can be fun at the nursing home.

Marie, So sorry to hear about your dad. I sincerely hope that they can find out what the problem is soon.

Hey ((((everyone)))) well made through court. The judge wouldn't let me talk at all and I was so upset, but now looking back I can see what she did was for my own good. The mediator saw how Ivan is like as he blew his temper and stormed off, the attorney was rude and cruel. She asked if there were any other way since the restraining order would go on his record and he might not be able to work. I said I have no pity on him and he shouldnt have raped me. She took a really good look at the report and then her eyes got wide and she said ok. When we got back in the court room thyey took a brake. Then they came back and then en it was our turn. The attorney tried to use a loophole in my wording in one part of the report, but she was having none of it. She wouldn't let me talk becasue she was letting them hang themselves. Ivan got nasty in front of the judge. They just kept slamming on me all thier lies and I couldn't saya thing. The judge brought up a mutual stay away order and I agreed to it, but as she was handing me the paper to sign, she whispered to me that it was not enforcable by law enforcment. I told the judge that and asked for the restraining order until we know what the DA is going to do. So I won the battle but still have to win the war. My restraining order is exctended till Jan 8th. That is when hte really hard stuff happens.

smart judge.give a asshole enough rope and he'll hang himself.hugs karen.

Karen - glad things are moving forward and looks like they are working out in your favor. Is a really hard process but you are making it. Hang in there, it is worth it in the long run.

Dad's blood tests showed his liver enzymes are elevated - could be caused by a bunch of things, but pancreas and liver cancer are two of the possible causes. His sister and mother died of pancreas cancer, another sister of ductal cancer, brother of colon cancer, etc. He is barely eating and is really depressed, so who knows. They are setting up tests for next week, his doctor dropped in to see him today, will do an ultrasound of his abdomen, liver, etc., next week. On hold until then.

Happy Halloween everyone. Take care.

I've been there, and it is hard to sit there and listen to all of those lies, but you really are doing the best thing for yourself by remaining quiet. Just answer questions when you are asked and it should all work out in the end. You might not get the chance to verbally defend yourself against the lies, but you can tell by the court's decisions whether or not they believe him. If the restraining order has been extended, then the judge sees it.

Thank you everyone for the support. I'll keep your dad in prayer Marie.