That is cool, Amber. The two new aides we recently got are boyfriend and girlfriend. From being around him it is no wonder why she likes him. He is a constant clown and even the residents love it. She tells me that is like this all the time and needs a break from him once in a while because his laughter is contagious. Last two I got to work with both of them and they are quite a team. One would really be hard pressed to be depressed around him. This morning I was really feeling good from being around him and started to clown around, too. I thought I had the perfect come back this morning when I told him that I was going to slap his girl friend's ass. He looked kind of serious for moment because he is still learning my dry sense of humor. But he got the joke when I slapped him on the back.

Roy, you're a nut!!!

stopping by to send some blessings and prayers your way

Kitt - am keeping you at the top of my prayers list. I hope things are going well for you. Have your thought about calling the American Cancer Society to see what information and services they can offer. There are also alternative providers out there, I think the name of one of the hosiptals is the "Cancer Care Alliance" and it wouldn't hurt to give them a call. I have seen their ads on TV. I am a firm believer in getting as much information as possible about what you are going through, do all the research and make your decisions as informed as possible.

Will keep you in my prayers, you are a great person, take care.

Well, Amber I am finding the teacher - student thing works both ways. The more I try to teach the more I find I am learning. I was showing him things the way I have adapted to from being taught and things I have picked up along the way. But he has his own style of doing things and I find it working very well for him. He was worrying about her ex because her ex is texting her back and forth. I told him that he had nothing to worry about because it is evident to me through the way they get along that he has nothing to worry about. I mean she is crazy about him. Like a small child can pick up the feelings and emotions of their parents the residents can pick up on their feelings and emotions. He is very good even with the tough cases. I had a way of doing the easy ones first then saving the tough ones for later but they all seem easy for him. So I just draw back and tell him since I will be leaving to second shift to just do it which is best for him. Our get up list was greatly reduced because the administrator was getting reports back from the nurses of how late dayshift was coming in because we were doing a good job and that allowed dayshift to be slow about coming in which affected our being to give them report a half hour before we had to leave. Charting takes a while and we are not supposed to prechart because it is considered false documentation. But him being the nice guy type wanted to over compensate by doing more than our fair share. His girl friend understands this well because she is more experienced than him with the turn of the shifts. I was telling him to do the ones that we have to do first then if he wanted to do more then would be the time to do it. But I warned him if he did it consistantly then they would expect the extra and it would become more for third shift to be accountable for. Sure enough dayshift ticked him off and now he is in agreement. Each shift wants the same thing when the shift is almost over and that is to give their report then book it out the door. I feel that I will leaving the third shift in competent hands before going to second shift next week.

biatch!!
good for you,thats awesome !!

big hugs to you and mom.thank god she is away from the sick f@#$k.

(((Marie))) I never thought you were saying that at all. No worries ad thank for being such a good friend!

HI JAX!!!!!!!

Amber, right on girl!

Madam, thanks hugs to you too

everyone HI HI HI

Karen - I will always be your friend and be here for you. You are a good friend to me too. Take care of yourself.

Roy - sounds like big changes coming down the road, changing shifts, wow, and a "crush" on the horizon, way cool!!!!

Amber - congrats on the date and working things out with your mom.

Jax - hope things are going well for you and your son.

Kitt - still got you on the top of my prayer list.

Hope everyone is having a great weekend, take care.

Yeah, Marie. Things are looking up. Last night I got to find how much I was appreciated and that always feels nice. The new male aide's girl friend was off last night. So he was venting big time. Yup, he will be okay. He was like begging me to stay on 3rd because the CNA ex supervisor and him clash. One dayshift came in at the time they was supposed to. The aide in training came in 15 minutes later and as we were leaving to clock out one more came in. At a quarter to getting off time the dayshift was just starting to vent. My male aide was worried about doing charting and was going to cop an attitude because he was wanting to go home. I got him out of there to protect him from drama that I knew that was going to happen. We did what the nurse wanted done that dayshift was supposed to and I got him out of the building before he blew up. We had a nice vent session on the insanity of it and he started to calm down. If it wasn't for the nurses who helped me so much in venting I couldn't have survived in the caring profession. I mean you can't go postal on the residents, aides, nurses or any innocent bystanders because it just defeats the whole idea of caring so you have no choice but learn how to vent. So far the one he was worried about already got into it with the Director of Nursing and that is like aide suicide because you learn real fast is not mess with the Queen Bee because all of the drones and helper bees will sting you to death. Another aide made the same mistake. I pity the fool as Mr. T would say.

It's spring time. It'll thaw out.

It has been very informative for my own curiousity why day shift comes in late. According to one aide I was talking it becomes a validity contradiction. Always being a big fan of contraditions I listened intently. I got find out that love was the problem. I knew it had something to do with it but just couldn't put my finger on it. Dayshift starts at 6:30; The school bus comes at 6:45 and I got to understand why that aide got the speeding ticket. I am finding it interesting that some people have trouble in being in two places at one time. I have always had a problem with that myself. The decision as I gather from her and others is the contradiction principle. On the one hand you can place your job first so that you can support your child or you can place child first so that you have a reason for working. It becomes what is more important to you; Your job or your child. Of course, it is more involved than that because some of them have boyfriends and husbands. Since the significant other's job is not enough to support the family and he can't be there because he is at work, too; It is like what are you going to do. It is cool to hear the telephone and watch the text chat relationships because you find that they can't be there for each other in person. So what happens is you really don't know who to be mad at. So why get mad at all because it doesn't really help but you are angry and have to let it out so what choice do you have but to try to express your side of the story with only the hope of that they will try to see your side of the story.

Happy Memorial Day everyone -- I actually get today off, whoohoo - a 3 day weekend, not many of those.

Getting ready to go spend a good part of the day with my girlfriend and put flowers on our grandparents graves. Haven't seen her in months, so will be a good visit.

Hope you all have a great day. Take care and be safe if you are on the road.

Have a wonderful day marie. You deserve some time off.

Amber, you still got that froze smile on your face?

Roy, as usual you confound me but inform me all at the same time, hahaha

Joe welcome to the thread.

Madam, hope you are well today

If I missed anyone, sorry, huggers to you all

Happy Memorial Day to all of my friends. I will be if I don't confound myself, Karen. One of the aides that I used to have trouble with in the morning I find myself getting along better with better these days. It is because I am trying to see her side of the story. I simply taking her the right way instead of taking her the wrong way. It is something that I learned in treatment that helped me. In treatment I learned that I am either part of the problem or part of the solution. Another part of it is simply that I like women. Instead of telling her that if she had been here earlier that there wouldn't have been a problem I told when she pointed out something that I forgot that, "Let's fix it". I realized that she was venting with me because she had gotten in trouble and she was just trying to tell her side of the story while I was trying to tell my side of the story. It was weird because why were doing that we actually communicated. In other words we were both actually seeing the other side of the story and at that time there actually wasn't a problem because we fixed it. It was like problem solved. She was happy when she left and so was I.

Hope you all had a safe weekend.
I went and put flowers on my grandpa's grave.
It made me feel good as I haven't been able to do this for a few years. He was the most awesome person in my life and I miss him more than anyone can know.


Wishing you all a great week. Take care and hope things go well for you.

Yep I sure do Karen!

Well, I am pretty much screwed. Mom has to sell the property I am on and house I rent from her. She is given me option to try to get a loan to buy the place but with my credit I don't believe they will. But Friday I will try to go through the motions anyway of trying to get a loan. I told mom if she gets a buyer to go for it. She is giving me two months to make the transition. I will probably try to rent a house or apartment in town. Seems strange being off work at this hour but nice to be off work. A friend that wanted me to stay on third shift so that we could work together and have the same days off gave me the finger when I got off work tonight. I think I have been called traitor by just about everyone but second shift. If it wasn't me getting moved it would have been someone else since they were more shorthanded on second than third. The lady just under the administrator asked me if I would come to second and atleast I don't have to wake up people every two hours to change them. Now I help feed residents and give them showers. I hope all a good night.

You don't have to have perfect credit to buy a house Roy. Mine wasn't perfect and I purchased the house I am in. They do stick you with a higher interest rate though so shop around and find the best deal you can. I hope things work out for you.

Sounds like your old "buddies" are just jealous that you are not there to pick up the slack, but oh well, they will get over it. You deserve to have a life too, after all.

I hope everyone is having a good week. I am battling my back this week, starting hurting last week, so cuddling with the heating pad, but the sucker is still hurting. Guess I am getting old, drats!!!

I hope that back starts to feeling better for you, Marie. Take it easy and move little as possible so it can get better. Yeah, it makes me feel good that I was appreciated. It does make me feel better but like you say you have to do what is best for you and it isn't as I left. It is really good to have buddies. I don't feel like the lone ranger any more. I am going to give it my best shot on getting the loan because I love it here and moving really sucks. Travelling can be fun but it sure is different than packing and whole change of environment. I mean I have been here for four years and it does take a while to make a place your own. I am not saying that it couldn't look a lot better but that is my own fault and gradually I do try to make it better. I just pray the bank will give me a chance. I really don't want to move if I don't have to.