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Mon 09/01/08 11:44 AM
No...I prefer to make things from scratch. They always taste Great and I think they are better for you.

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Mon 09/01/08 11:43 AM

So you found your Soulmate. Now what? Do you drop every potential relationship in your life? Do you continue to date others until a relationship develops? I think a lot of people have already met their soulmate.


I'm not sure I believe there is such a thing as a "soulmate". But I do believe once you think you have found that someone special....what is the sense in continuing to look for men. That's like saying "Oh, I'm married; but maybe it won't work out". So my answer to your question is "NO."

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Mon 09/01/08 11:14 AM
Wow.....that's just CRAZY. What is wrong with people!!!

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Mon 09/01/08 11:09 AM
ha...ha...ha.....Sorry, but no thanks.....tomorrow will be here soon enough!

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Thu 08/28/08 12:05 PM
Sure....who doesn't think of that.

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Thu 08/28/08 11:59 AM

So I read in the paper today that the county I live in is starting a program that costs $75.00 a person so you can spend 12 hours to "know what it feels like to be homeless" wtf?huh That's if you preregister. It's $100 bucks if you show up without registering. noway Oh and "part of the proceeds will go towards an area homeless shelter" I'm thinking maybe... just MAYBE that money would be better spent just donating it to the Red Cross or the shelter itself. Am I the only person that this doesn't make sense to??what


OMG....Is that like reality tv come to life or what. Why would anyone WANT to see what it's like to be homeless. So pay to put yourself through the mental anguish that these poor people deal with every day. That's just WRONG. Why not do fund-raisers to get money to help the shelters do more for these people. Institute a "Get back on your feet and get back out into the world" type of program. Teach them life skills. Some day some place someone smart is going to start classes at the local schools to teach our children basic "life skills" like..."...how to budget money, how to balance a checkbook, why it's important to save for a rainy day, what your responsibility would be in owning a home vs. renting..." things like this would be alot more positive and productive than oh geez....let's be a homeless person today and see how terrible it is to personally put myself in that position! Where do you live? Wow! Terrible.

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Thu 08/28/08 11:52 AM
I have seen on here people having a profile with a picture of animals/cartoons/weird things----it's not even a photo of themselves.

The problem is that they can post anyone's picture. So do you trust that people are honest or do you worry that the picture is not really them?

Those thinking that a picture will tell you if the person is your own idea of "normal" doesn't mean a thing. How many people do you see on tv that looked so called "normal" and was some rapist or killer or drug dealer.

Personally I think a picture narrows down your field; if you are first looking at a photo. Why spend the time talking to someone and liking them as a possible long term relationship for it to end if they don't like the "package" so to speak.

Why be afraid. We are what we are. I believe that everyone is attracted to different types of people and that's what makes the world go around.

I figure.....Don't be afraid....post a recent picture of yourself. By doing do you are weeding out the people that are not attracted to you right away and the people that respond to you already know what you look like. (((Which does not tell them what type of person you are by any means))

Lots of reasons for not posting a picture and lots of reasons to post.

As far as the freaks and mental cases and killers/stalkers, etc. This internet and every dating site is their new expanded playground. Just be careful, always!

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Sun 08/17/08 11:02 AM
I'd definitely make an appointment and get it checked out. I have poor circulation and elevating my foot doesn't make it fall asleep that easily. Better safe than sorry. Good Luck.

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Sun 08/17/08 11:00 AM

You work your ass off and it doesn't seem like things get any better.
I don't care if I ever get rich. I just want to know what it's like to live without the worry of bills, tax and insurance payments.




Always having to live paycheck to paycheck----as most do in NY...I was laid off because of the lack of work. And I have many skills (bookkeeping/office management/customer service)and just can't find anything that will pay me anywhere near where I need.
AND I still have all of those bills coming in each month (like clockwork). BE thankful you have what you have and learn to get rid of the things that are not NEEDS and I agree that "living on faith" is needed.

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Wed 08/06/08 01:42 PM

Emotional eaters, hell yeah, I can relate to that. So much easier said than done but just stop, walk away, go for a walk, do something anything but eat. Like all addictions, it's a downward spiral, you feel bad, you eat, you temporarily feel better so you keep eating, you feel sick, ashamed, guilty, etc. So you eat more to make yourself feel better. And, unlike addictions to drugs or alcohol, you cannot avoid food, you can't get it out of your house. You have to eat in order to live. Controlling it is the hard part. I have it under control sometimes, sometimes not. But, at least I've gotten to the point, finally, of being able to recognize it before it gets too out of hand, at least most of the time.

One thing I've learned is to find something that makes you feel good that has NOTHING to do with food. And you have to do this when you're not in the cycle of the emotional eating. That way, you have something to use as a tool to help get you past it.

Good luck to you! You'll be ok flowerforyou


Great Advice and it's all the things that I have read! :smile:

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Wed 08/06/08 01:37 PM

I like to see more movies but have decided to wait til they come out on DVD. The reason for this is that it is just too expensive these days to go to theaters. I like action, drama and comedy movies.


Go alone and it's not that much money. And the movie theater experience is Great.....providing that you have stadium seating and surround sound and decent popcorn! The movies here are $8.25 for a great theater with all of the above. I love it and go as often as my budget allows. Definitely a costly endeavor if taking my son along!!!

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Wed 08/06/08 01:33 PM

Next time....just tell them your doing fine ever since you were let out of the state penitentiary for good behavior.


laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

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Wed 08/06/08 01:30 PM


never assume anything
because 9 times out of 10 the assumption will be wrong

if you want to know something about someone
IMO, it's best to just ask them

may not be what you want to hear, but it usually works


i'm not asking for opinions, i'm only asking if you feel you judge people, and if you think you do, who do you judge and how to do you judge them

i'm not asking for peoples opinions


I don't judge people; I judge what they are doing and if I want to be around that person.....Remember "Judge Not, yest ye be judged".

I grew up with parents that did JUDGE everyone and so I have come a long ways from their views. And it is hard not to judge someone that is different than you are.

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Wed 08/06/08 01:26 PM

that I'm a real person laugh laugh


Why be anything but the "real" you!

I'm me.....Are you, you? :smile: :smile: :smile: :smile: :smile:

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Wed 08/06/08 01:24 PM

I think most of the guys, look at the pics and that is about it! laugh


Pictures to men are like the VISUAL aspect that either gets them or has them fleeing. That's why the picture that you put on here is so important. Let's face it MEN are VISUAL.

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Wed 08/06/08 01:20 PM
Nope.

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Wed 08/06/08 01:20 PM

Ask how you are if they really don't care?laugh I mean seriously..if you don't want to know the truth why bother to ask?grumble laugh


I think it started out as common curtosy to ask. But very seldom do people take the time to listen to the answer. It's become the new "Hello" to them!

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Wed 08/06/08 01:17 PM

for opinions and then berate the side they don't agree with?

Btw, if you don't agree with me, then you suck. :wink:

I mean seriously folks, if you ask for thoughts from the gallery, you've gotta expect some are not going to agree with you. And no, I'm not talking about people who are just downright rude in their responses. I'm talking about those that give a well thought out, but contrary opinion, and then get chastized as if they should be minding their own business.


Unfortunately, many people are not OPEN to criticism.

That's the problem.

I say....'Don't ask, if you don't want to hear the answer'.

I think some just want validation of what their inner thoughts (intuition) have already told them.

My experience with the people that think they are always right & everyone else is wrong (and are serious about that thought) are either VERY close minded, control freaks, or just stupid and are afraid others will find out. :wink:

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Wed 08/06/08 12:57 PM
Well, I am a very empathetic as well as a compassionate person and would feel compelled to help anyone in need. If it were within my capabilities, I would have moved my car to the door of the grocery market and bought staples for at least one good meal and then told her about the local food pantries and any organization that I might be aware of to help people in need.

Unfortunately, you are correct in your worries about this being a possible scam....there are many scams and strange things happening around that you just don't know what to do and still be safe!

At the end of the day; it boils down to you having to live with your decision. We are all different and have been dealt different things in our lives and this may have been something you just couldn't do and be okay with.

I once had a man on the street walk up to my car and ask for money and I asked him if it was for food and he said yes. So I told him I had no money; but me and my son had just been to the Burger King and we gave him our food. He immediately started eating. This type of thing happened a lot in Dallas, TX.




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Tue 08/05/08 05:23 PM

give to have the love of your life?


Why would you EVER have to give up anything to have the love of your life. They would hopefully feel the same way and no one would have to give up anything. Loving someone would mean that you compliment each other and benefit from what each brought to the relationship. No one should EVER have to give up anything for the love of another! If you do---you are self sacrificing for the wrong person!