For a boyfriend's birthday, I bought enough scenic post cards to spell out the Happy Birthday song one word at a time and numbered them so he could put them in order and sent them with a stamp on each one. Took him a few days to get them all and was all confused at first and then he thought it was way cool.

Has anyone noticed that the newer scammers sign everything "Cheers". I guess they learned British English somewhere or something but if someone signs something Cheers, it's a good indicator to walk the other direction.

I did not have children by choice. I only am considering this man because of the age of his daughter, 14. She is incredible and wants to go to school back east. With her grades, etc. she will no doubt go to an excellent school. But I think this situation is all too much for me. I do not want the kid to know about me because she will go running back to her mother with any info. He and his ex wife are NOT on good terms. I think I am just going to bow out of this one. I have not been involved with him long enough or to a degree that I cannot bow out gracefully. Ya, it is letting the ex wife win but it also saves my sanity.

Thanks for all the replies.

When I was a teenager, I had two boyfriends relapse back into drug use. As an adult, I dated a guy not knowing he was a meth and pot user until one day he got abusive. Over the holidays, my boyfriend went back to using. He is not here and cannot see this.

I understand there is no guarantee a non-user will never become a user.

That some go into recovery and stay there forever without a relapse or if they have a relapse, they quickly recover.

I am to the point where if Mr. Right came along but was a recovering something, I am not sure I would be open to him. I just feel so burned.

I would like to hear from those in recovery. Please do not say be supportive and take him back. I am asking about the future. Should I open my heart to another in recovery?

ANYBODY male or female who goes into whiny biotch mode to try to get you to do something you don't want to do.

how do you measure a breeze of autumn air?

GREAT sense of humor as I am the modern day version of "I Love Lucy". GREAT in bed. Not a prude but not a total wanna be porn star either. Has his own income. Has his own transportation. Has his own income. Does NOT want children. Leaves my comic books and stuffed animals alone. Doesn't have to have a college education but must be smart and have different interests from me so we have something to talk about. No venomous ex wives. Likes that I dress like a skater girl most of the time. Appreciates that I own and know how to use make up and wigs, etc. but does not expect it all the time. Likes to cook. If he REALLY were perfect, he'd like to clean and organize. Must like animals. Doesn't care that I mix religious beliefs.

People who only focus on the negative. They can have a dozen AMAZING things happen to them and it just flies past them. They have one not so great thing happen to them and they hang onto it and never let go.

There is no escape route
I can't find the hatch

There is no escape route
I can't see; light a match

It really matters if you are going to have children. Mind you I am NOT anti-biracial children. But your children, even in this day and age, will take some flack interracial parents. My one friend's wife is the lightest skinned black woman I ever met. Her one daughter passes for Caucasian (her husband is Irish). The other while very beautiful is black as black can be (grandparents genes). When she was little she did heart breaking things like wish to be white for Christmas and then bawling when she woke up and was not. She was in all honestly one of the most gorgeous children I have ever seen and she even modeled for Mattel. But her mother was prepared for this. She even subscribed to some newsletter about biracial children at one point.

Mind you I am not locked into a relationship with this person.

I wonder what you parents think of walking into a war zone left over from a divorce?

My cat has one of those circular tracks with the ball lodged in it. He puts one front paw in it and then one back foot in it. Then he hits it to the paw to his foot and then kicks it from his foot to this paw. Over and over so it never goes in complete circles.

Maybe their mother taught them if they had nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.

Not that I am saying anything is wrong with you.

I met someone who has a 14 year old. He says he wants me to meet her after 6 months. I say if I am around in a year (which let's face it folks who know me - probably won't happen), I will meet her. Both parents are highly accomplished and educated but you know how a bitter divorce can leave both parties not up for mature king/queen of the year. Do you think a year is too long to wait?

sure you can change her orientation for instance if she is facing due north you can turn her towards south east.

about the great New Year's sex I just had on the floor on a quilt, with the fireplace going, a candle lit, incense burning and Faith Hill playing on the stereo.

My pets were here first. You know me. They have outlasted many boyfriends. Now that I have a steady boyfriend who he treats my cat decently and hopefully he will be around awhile.

I have a lot of anime but it's children's. I also have anime graphic novels.

Post negative **** get a negative response. Women are not attracted to insults and being rude.

I like the era just fine. As David was saying, racial discrimination was so bad. Don't forget how women were treated. Barefoot and pregnant and in the kitchen. Not to mention, if you were a woman, they did not ask you what you wanted, they asked your husband.

I would like to go back to the nice ways of say the 50s if all the bad stuff could be skipped. But right now is a pretty awesome era to be alive.