Would you give up a pet if your significant other is allergic to it?

If you're allergic to animals, would you ask your significant other to give up their pet?

I'm not allergic to animals so I don't know much about the topic. I think if your significant other was deathly allergic to your pet then there may be a problem and a big decision to be made. I think if I was truly in love with this person, I'd find a good home for my pet so I could be with them.

Well, why would I want to become involved with someone who could force a change on my life I may not be ready for? For some people animals are their life.

I know it sounds ridiculous but have seen arguments like this before where "If you love someone..."

The thing is if a person's life is horses taking that away from that person could kill their happiness and over the years that turns to hate and frustration.

I have refused involvement though over pets. I am not against pet ownership in that I have fish right now myself and am graduating up to exotic finches. But when a dog or cat runs a person's life THAT IS WHERE I DRAW THE LINE! I have come across small dogs that are so mean and snappy I want to feed them to a real predator! A Chihuahua would last all of about two bites in the teeth of an African Tiger Fish! Small dogs with manners i can tolerate. Nipping machines and pee bags...

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I work and have worked with animals over the years so it isn't an issue with me usually! It figures I am allergic to horses when they are fed Alfalfa! Alfalfa and I do NOT get along. That doesn't keep me away from horses. I just have to take extra precautions to not lock my snot locker completely up.

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it would be just one factor in a decision of whether things will work out. I would never ask for someone to give up a pet, but I will not live with animals or television in my home.

I have no problems with pets that have outdoor coops - luxury coops! they're special friends

Seems like a person would know about the pet early on in the relationship. If there would be a problem why would they not just move on to a person who doesn't have the kind of offending pet?

I generally am at the point in my life I don't want to have to share my space and money with an animal that always needs care 24/7. I am enjoying my freedom from such responsibilities. Would be ridiculous for me to tie myself down to a partner that has pets.

When I adopt a pet, I make a commitment to care for it for life. So no, I would not give up my pet. They're not toys that you just set aside when they get in the way. I would look for another way to handle the problem.

I make it known right away that I have pets. That way, if someone is allergic (and won't take allergy medicine) I'll find out right away and know it won't work out.

I feel the same as Bravalady. I made a commitment when I adopted two cats and they are my responsibility. I wouldn't give them up for someone else. If I did that, I wouldn't be a good pet owner.

Pets are good, but i wouldn't let them come in between by relationship. I have two dogs in my house.

People can really be whining demanding bytches about things that upset their sensitivities. Frankly to me forcing someone to give up a pet is the same thing as trying to take their child from them. And this is coming from a draconian bastard! If a person cannot live with another's pet due to allergies one way to adapt is to occupy your own homes and meet up at each other's homes to minimize exposure to the allergen.

likewise there also is ways of dealing with a pet's release of Allergens.

Here is my first hand experience with allergen agents in the pet industry!

Most animals that CAUSE a bad reaction in a person can usually be in serious need for a bath. Dogs and cats need to be bathed at regular intervals. Diet likewise can contribute DIRECTLY to an allergy. I can tell when a horse has been given green hay vs. Alfalfa which I am badly allergic to. Just BEING around horses that ate it make me sneeze continuously. Once the horse is washed the sneezing stops. One thing is if you have been around horses they are DUSTY animals. A lot of dog and cat foods sold commercially have a lot of Gluten in them which is BAD BAD BAD for predatory animals like Dogs and Cats. it causes something similar to a yeast infection and likewise gives them BAD Dandruff. So between bathing and adjusting diet can cut down on allergy attacks.

The cleanliness of the environment also helps. What some people DON'T realize is that no matter how much you think you are cleaning your house you are not! If you don't get under the couch, behind furniture, and dust the backs of electronics at regular intervals you are not getting the FARM making the allergies happen. in all honesty most people's houses re total clutterpits no matter how clean you think you are! I can run MY finger across the back of MY TV and even on the floor under its stand and not get dust because I clean back there too! Likewise check and change your furnace filter! You are supposed to do that once if not twice a year. And invest a little more in the better filter if you are sensitive. people even neglect to clean the underside of their refrigerator. Dust bunnies are not pets. They are the enemy!

Air filtration helps but not those table top models. For a sensitive person you need REAL air filtration. You need a electrostatic filter with a HEPA pleat in order to get it all. Unfortunately the real good units cast 3 to 5 thousand dollars American. The sad thing is a good unit can be DIYed for about a thousand. (DIY = Do It Yourself). The most expensive part is the blower and the Electrostatic filter. I am talking a whole house filter here. Not some cheesy little tabletop unit. Now I will give props to the Ionic Breeze. For a single room unit it works good for about $350 new. But "Whole house" it is not.

These are things I have addressed for others to help alleviate allergy problems and my methods DO WORK! These are the things REAL PROFESSIONALS do to address these issues. And here I am telling everyone how to do it for free!


Seriously, you don't love your pets if you are feeding them Chinese made pet food! Read the ingredients. If wheat is present so is gluten! Wheat again is VERY BAD FOR DOGS AND CATS! Blue Buffalo brand, Natural Balance, and Evo are quality products. STAY AWAY FROM SCIENCE DIET! THAT STUFF IS TOTAL CRAP! REAL PROS STAY AWAY FROM THAT GARBAGE! There are other good brands as well but you have to look at their list of ingredients. But Blue Buffalo is on the top of the heap so far.

Ditto...When I got my dog Sassy it was a fluke was not looking for another dog, a friend found her rolling under a car on a busy main road... Tried to find her owners no one responded. So after three months she legally became mine... here it is 5 years down the road she is my family... I don't give up family for a relationship...even if they are 4 legged....

I can get a minor allergic reaction to cats. More so if its sleeping in the same room with me, or if there is a lot hair present.

I would never, ever, even think of asking someone to get rid of any pet period. I have asked for the cat be out of the room when Im staying over, that it would be appreciated. If not, "you" would have to come to my place, or yes, we aren't a match, and I wouldn't bother going any further.

This has come up several times, while dating and choices were made to compromise. I have yet, to run across a lady unwilling to do so. I am not unreasonable and I do like pets. Cats, Dogs and other as well.

I really don't understand an animal needing to be in the room, during intimacy...
Would that mean, you take that animal with you 24/7? That it cannot be alone at various times?
Really, what is the difference if the animal is out of the room for awhile at times.
If it really becomes a huge problem, I suppose "they" will have their animal to comfort them...Im not going to lose any sleep over it...

Do you mention up front that you're allergic to cats and you want them to sleep in the other room? This hasn't come up before for me when dating someone, but I would be unable to make my cat sleep in another room, as there's no door to close.

I see that you don't understand the animal needing to be in the room during intimacy. Like I said, in my case, there isn't a door to close. Has it ever been a problem? No. Perhaps some people who don't own pets assume it will be a problem, though? Not sure.

I understand what your saying and would never have a issue with that type of request....during intimacy. But then I don't let her on the bed at that time nor during the night. When I'm in a relationship I have in fact made her sleep on her bed on the floor but it is in my room.

Now I'm one that would request one not to smoke in the bedroom if they must smoke in their own house that is their deal. But if they do so in the bedroom while I'm there then it could be a problem...Now my house there is no smoking inside. But will gladly let them smoke on the enclosed front porch if it is cold outside or outside on the patio in the backyard....

To me it is kind of like dating those that smoke either compromise or move on....

Yes, I always ask, and approach it upfront. It shows that they are willing to compromise, to me. If they are unwilling to consider my request, then we don't match and I have no hard feelings about it.

I don't have animals now, that I don't own a home with a yard, but I have had dogs, and I do like cats. I just can't sleep with them in the room, and don't prefer them there, during intimacy. Other than that. It's not a problem.

So the cats have never jumped on your bed or become bothersome during intimacy?
Isn't one animal in the room enough, for those moments?

Nope. As I've said, there hasn't been an issue. They're not on the bed during sex. One might sleep in the corner on my side when we're sleeping, though. The other will hide if someone is there. There haven't been any complaints from anyone I've dated. I guess I just don't go for guys who have problems with pets. Maybe women you've dated have had cats that try to hang out on the bed during sex and that's what's bothering you?

I agree with the two of you as well. Pets are not disposable,and they do not deserve to be treated as if they are.
So Like you any man I date knows full well about my pets and if he doesn,t like it ohwell,then he isn,t for me.

Seems like a compromise to me. Which would be considered.

I actually do smoke. I don't and have never smoked "in the house" it's disgusting and does take its toll. I completely understand that. I won't even smoke in my own truck, when driving with someone who may be ok with my habit, but doesn't want to be "in it". Consideration to others, can simply go a long way.

When I get a pet, I get them for life, regardless if they're a pain in the *** or if my situation changes. I know full well what I'm in for when I get them and I'm prepared to deal with it. Every woman I've been with has been aware of this within a week of meeting me. Therefore if things started to get serious and she indicated that the dogs could not be a part of our life then I would come to the conclusion that she's not the one for me.

Im on board with this all the way also with bravalady to !!