Take a gander...(for the un accustomed to aussie lingo...have a look)

Stone the bloody crows!!! ..(For F's sake!)

Yeah... having a sticky beak...(same...have a peek, a nosey parker look)

Fair Dink!...( REALLY?...Or truthfully!)

No wukkers!...I say a lot...(No worries)

and Too easy!...(for 'it's my pleasure' after someone says thankyou)

Hahaha my dad always said..'wrap your laughing gear around this'

When we truly care about someone, do we really feel more pain when that person disappoints us in some way?

I am sat here reflecting and pondering....and once upon a time, I would have said ...yes.

Then I learnt that to have no expectations, meant there were no obligations....and then no disappointments..I have learnt to not place my own emotions on another for accountability.

To love without condition...is simply that...and it is the most liberating, deep and joyful form of love there is.




Do our feelings and emotions amplify how feel, nudging us closer to extremes?

It can...many people 'hand over' the responibility for their baggage, their pasts, and their emotions when they say, 'I love you'...and somehow the reciprient of that love now has total accountability and responsibility for the other persons feelings....and with that seems to come a thinner skinned hyper sensitivity...scary stuff!...hence the feeling for the reciprient of this person seemed normal and ended up a complete psycho.



Do you think it clouds our judgement more, or do we just need time and space to gain clarity?


Time and space...to first sort out what YOU own...then what your personal expectations are, and your personal boundaries....if someone 'hands over' full emotional responsibility to another...they are actually burdening the other...and have a whole new place of blame.


Is stoicism better or worse in these situations?


I don't know....it depends on the emotional health of the participants.



I've done the emotional relinquish... I've been the reciprient...neither worked for me...

what did and does, for me...is to not be beholden to another...not within either of us having to be responsible for each other's emotions..

Some would call it tough love..I call it unconditional love...to love without conditions....he gets to be him...he gets to do/deal with his emotions...I get to be me...and to do/deal with mine.

I found it a much deeper, mature love...a much more accepting love, and also a much more honest respectful love.

Did you find it was more when their mates were staying over?...My kids when they have visitors...usually go into my room, grab a sarong, and say "here mum...so and so is here"

Absolutely!...and it's just over 200 miles)

I also don't have any prissy hangups...and am not scouting the universe for 'mr join me at the hip for ever and ever'...

I'm an adult woman...I get to do what I like.

I don't care what anyone says...we all know within 60 seconds if we COULD have sex with a person we meet...it's an instant...yes, or no.

and if it is not...then I will share with them, it's a no to sex....not in the first 60 seconds...but resonably soon into the date.

I expect the same, so why would I be less?

hahahaha...ummm I live in the sub tropics....it's kind of a given...

You date the wrong chicks Texan...

I have paid for whole dates, happily, especially when it is an awesome band we want to see...and driven the 300 or so kms, AND organised 3 kids, all my animals, and taken time off work..unpaid.

I do what I want to do...and don't really think too much about who owes what to whom.

If he insists on paying...if he absolutely MUST..or his whole being will shatter into a million shards...

then I usually bring along a dustpan and brush.

You caught that too?...she is 80 something...and another ceremonial doodaa for her to have to attend...she has so many grankids...

I loved reading Will's lips as he turned towards Kate...and said," You look beautiful'....I also liked as they said their vows they were bothing trying hard not to grin like fools...


I like Harry...he's a scally wag...naughty and cheeky...

Wills reminds me of my eldest son...all the pressure of family and manhood...I guess that's why it meant so much to me..

Hmmm....I am not 'nice'....I see 'nice' as the edited, socially acceptable version of whatever truths you hold...the watered down version...the lets hold hands and sing Kumbaya together version...

I am not 'nice'...

I am real.

I expect people to share their truths with me...as I do them.

Unedited, unsoftened...

I can respect the person behind the words, for showing me enough respect to be their truthful honest self.

Exactly that Soufie...

I watched Diana marry Charles 30 years ago....and could relate to her so much..

I watched her with Wills and then Harry... as a young mother myself, with kids almost the same age...I watched her grow into herself and become a woman in her own right, against incredible adversity...

As did I...I watched her pain of ending her marriage...and could relate...

I wept for her boys walking behind their mother's coffin...those darling boys...


and now...as my eldest son prepares for fatherhood, and matrimony...I feel for her again...


I was a proud, by default, mother again...

Maybe it's time you got out of the palace's rubbish bin now...Shy..

thankyou so much for making this more instant and less booooring.





am off to drink champagne!!!...(it's 4.30pm here...)

Huh?




Which one is it??/

50 mins...or a half an hour???


or 1 hour and 20 mins?


Huh?

YyyyyyyyEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!


There's something on the telly!!!
There's people everywhere!!!


whoohooo!!!

Hahaha our newsreaders/commentators are frocked up...

That was the LOoooongest instant gratification ever!!!


And only another how many hours until Kate gets there?

...and the 43 pageboys and flower girls...

I saw that....and had a little weepy moment...

I wish his mum could see him today....I think she would be very pleased with how her sons grew up...and I think she would like Kate.

Josie...I have a spy in the camp...Shy is perched outside some palace somewhere...in a covert disguise giving me instant updates on the dustman, the milkman, and the paper delivery dude...

I know what she WON'T be wearing...Diana's gown!


OMG!!! could you imagnine it??? all that bloody rumpled watermarked silk?...after 30 years???

I was separated for 3 years....neither of us could be bothered going through the whole divorce thing...the children and property settlement were enough of a drama!


I think in the US they have a more rigid outlook than we do here Josie..


and isn't a divorced person still someone's ex wife or husband?

I'm sorry Moe, am in a silly mood...

I had images of them all being plugged into a central computer and new data uploaded each night.

Errrr....I am going to a loungeroom, and a tv, with some friends and their tiaras and champagne and lots of yummy gourmet homemade food.


They don't want me there... (the church bit...not my friends )

The church would fall down...and they'd probably sit me next to Mahatmagoat the third...