What does a man need to have all his heart and attention

Nothing much you can or should do as a woman other than be happy, positive and have self-confidence and healthy boundaries.

The rest is up to the other person and his readiness (personal growth), willingness etc. to commit. Some aren't emotionally ready for that (yet).

It's like my son said after his relationship fell apart: "I did see other women of course, but not THAT way. I didn't regard them that way and had no interest in them."
He was totally committed and in love with his girl. She did nothing in particular for that.
And that's how it should be.

You can't stop men looking at beautiful women, especially if their skirts are up around their waist and their boobs are hanging out of an ultra tight blouse! The question is do you attract your man's attention sufficiently to stop him actually hooking up with other women? If you do he will not go astray.

Only sure way is to pluck out his eyes. Not my best recommendation but was 1st thing off top of my head.
You probably can't stop him if he so desires but somebody in a committed happy relationship is not going to wander. Perhaps that would be a good starting point. Hope it works out for you.

I suggest you look at this current Mingle thread on "possesiveness"...

http://mingle2.com/topic/614534

You cannot Make a Man do anything!!

Well...you could make a wise choice when choosing your man.
Not all men 'play the field' when in a relationship.
Some men DO have a strong sense of respect, honesty, dedication and commitment to their relationships.

Just remember, if you find a man who has these qualities, he probably won't stick around if you do not.
Men are not the only ones who "Play the Field" in relationships.
What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Choose Wisely

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There IS a difference between looking/appreciating and acting on it, regardless of gender. Checking out other peoples' dates has been going on forever.

A woman who can make a really good sandwich, and keep her mouth closed when the game is on the telly.

The more sex you give a guy the more committed he gets ..... and won't have time and energy to wander around !!!!

Be more interesting than the XBox.

Just make sure you marry the right guy.

It's a bit unhealthy to expect a man (or even a woman) not to notice someone they're attracted to. It's just human nature to browse the menu. But, I get it. I used to be the same way until I realized it's more about what I have to offer someone so that they don't order off that menu. Also, it helps to remember that you might be jealous of some woman you think is more attractive than you, but you're also the focal point for some other woman who's jealous of you.

We're all just carnal beasties on this spinning rock in the universe so it's best to just roll with it and enjoy yourself and not stress over things you cannot and should not change.

A woman who can be supportive , flexible , independent and funny works for me....

Not to get nagged when he happens to see another woman in passing. My ex used to get bent out of shape when I looked around in public. I mean JUST looking around. I could count on her to get aggravated when we went shopping. If I saw something beyond a woman, she'd claim I was looking at another woman.

It certainly didn't make her anymore attractive to me. She managed to ruin that with me when she dyed her hair red. It wasn't until after she filed on me, I'd finally said that what killed my attraction towards her was the fact that she went red. It never occurred to her, that of all the women I might of looked at, none were redheads. I never dated one, had any interest in redheads. Then, all of a sudden, I became married to one. For me, it was depressing.

What women have to do, is get used to their men looking around. Chances are, that man of yours isn't going to leave you just by looking. It happens.

Wear skimpy revealing clothes or be naked will get you the lust and attention side...




but that's usually over in 30 seconds or less...

The closest you'll ever come is by keeping his belly full, his balls empty, and don't come between him and his toys, duties, or responsibilities.


Something that he values (from his perspective) as worth his heart and attention.

I find a little strategic shock from a tractor battery works well ... lmao