Ok let’s start with an on line scenario:

We both signed up in the same dating app. You checked out my profile then I checked out your account too we post in the forums and at a distance we observe how each other is by the way we express our thoughts and by the way we communicate with others. We got more interested and one of us sends that first message which later turned out to be the start of so many more. Days go by we like each other even more we start to feel that elusive connection we both yearn for. Then suddenly messaging wasn’t enough we wanted to see each other and video was the next step. Gosh we liked each other even more . What we saw just made the attraction even better. We admit to each other that we like each other more. Then video chat would later on not suffice anymore. We want the real thing , yearn for the real thing.

So my question goes:
Dear mingle men.....when and how do you know that what you feel is the real thing already when you haven’t even met the girl personally? Is there a time frame that makes you realise yes she is the one? When do you realise it’s more than infatuation? Do you sort of do a test to know your true feelings and hers too? Is there a certain level of love that you feel that makes you want to be serious with a girl and would want to spend happily ever after? Basically these questions are about the on line stuff which I know is quite different from the real world. I would appreciate your opinions and personal experiences without any judgements.

Thank you all in advance

Hum. I see said the blind man to his deaf daughter on the telephone.

Well as for me i don't have any certain thing as a test. In my case if and when we decide to.meet then we make plans and go from there. But i am not searching for what it appears most are here.

Maybe why it doesnt happen all that often.

Men are visual .. It's common sense ... If we like what we see ... we go after it .....

If your personality works for both your partner or friend ....

Then why question it ?


Just go with it ... Are you getting any younger ? ;D

Let me just add that I hope the women would share their thoughts too

Depends how good the camsex was.

There is no time frame. You will never know until you actually meet.

If you have the opportunity then seize it.

In my opinion you are just wasting time. Personally, there have been many times on these dating sites where there appears to be a mutual attraction, but when it comes down to actually meeting in person they either chicken out or they never intended to.

So.... why waste all that time, unless you like online flirting.

I you have any interest, do yourself a favor and try to meet in person.

Sometimes we find things when we’re not searching at all

LMFAO ! ;D

Go with the flow...I was thinking there were deeper feelings involved and how is it realised as a serious thing.? And yes I am old and complicated lol

Joe that was pretty direct and truthful so men decide after that to move forward or say goodbye

Thank you for your answer. So it doesn’t have to be serious at all . Just fuel the interest and see if it becomes something more

It was tongue in cheek.
I have probably decided if I think it would work before a video call.

I would sure why not .... what are you afraid of besides fear & gravity ?


I don't know how serious you are with the mystery person .

Only you know that ..

You're old & complicated tsk tks .... i may look in my 20's .... i can assure i am not .... 37 next month & you're 47 ...... Ten years difference ..... where's the connection ? LOL

That was just a scenario and you are right the age doesn’t have to do anything with the topic. My curiosity was about how men feel and why they say I love you even before they actually meet a girl physically. That is all. I don’t want to judge that’s why I ask lol

I figured yes that would be you joe nice men don’t take advantage of women

I hope the women can relate to my questions and thoughts

I've never had an internet 'connection', but I fell in love initially over the phone with a girl, just from fun conversation with no intentions. She was a mates girlfriend and he'd pass the phone to me to chat while he did stuff (at work) and we became long time friends.
It was the rappor we had together, with similar humour and attitudes and tricky playfulness, we laughed at the same things basically. My 'in love' with her endured for decades, and still pains me, but the very first attack of 'in love' struck me sight unseen, over the phone.

Physical attraction works both ways, but I look for personality predominately, If a lady can converse she is more liable to attract my attention and make me want to take things further.

oh wow reminds me of the 90's love@aol ...... how romantic .... so they tell you they're in love with you .... before they've actually met you .....


i don't work that ..... guess some are desperate ;x

So it is possible to fall in love without meeting , but is it real? If you always think about the person and that makes you happy , you just accept you can’t be together but you don’t stop loving