I have heard many ladies desire to find a "Real Man" but have never heard a clear and precise definition. I would like to hear the ladies definition of what constitutes a "Real Man"...virtues, attributes, personalities character, etc.
I assume there will be different ideas and opinions. It would be interesting to hear the ladies "take" on the subject.

(for me) a man is Godfearing

a man is someone who has their own toilet and buys their own toilet paper,,,
(that is a gem from my southern Alabama dad who said a man can't call himself a man if he can't even buy the tp to wipe his own behind,,,it kind of stuck with me..lol)


a man is someone who has the balance to deal with triumph and disaster without becoming too exhalted or too diminished,,,

a man is someone who protects and provides for his family

a man is someone who puts aside childish things like namecalling and bullying and defining themself by the things they 'have'

,,,,just off the top of my head,,,



digging deep, as I have said in many other threads,, my grounds for determining someone is a 'man' or a 'woman',, in other words, determining someone is a grown up,,

can be found in the poem IF by Rudyard Kipling,, which all comes back to my favorite theme of being 'balanced'

Maam...with all due respect, I have to disagree with you. I don't believe your definition was "off the top of your head"...I think it was "straight from your heart".
Thank you for your reply !!

Real men give their women 5 seconds advance warning when they are about to fart.

I don't think anyone can give a definition of a "Real Man". I couldn't. Anyway, I've never said on here that I'm looking for a real man.

Be careful of the ones that say they want a "real man." Many times these that say this have no idea what a real man really is. At most, they have a warped idea. They've been burned so many times that they think that all men are the same. A lot of them don't realize they are there own worst enemy. In other words, they fall for the same crap over and over again.

And since they never seem to realize that they are getting what they ask for, they keep looking for that "real man." But never find it. A lot of them never seem to realize they need to change what they are attracted to. If they would, they might find that "real man" they have been looking for.

A real man who is able to keep their words ,say what they mean , mean what they do , and do what they say ...lol

Real man, definition: Knows a good beer when he drinks it, knows a good sports team when he watches it, knows a good couch when he lies on it drinking beer and watching sports, knows a good sandwich when his S.O. makes it for him.

Be careful of the ones that say they want a "real man." Many times these that say this have no idea what a real man really is. At most, they have a warped idea. They've been burned so many times that they think that all men are the same. A lot of them don't realize they are there own worst enemy. In other words, they fall for the same crap over and over again.

And since they never seem to realize that they are getting what they ask for, they keep looking for that "real man." But never find it. A lot of them never seem to realize they need to change what they are attracted to. If they would, they might find that "real man" they have been looking for.

Well said...a lot of truth in that !! Could also apply that for a "Real Woman" as well.

You'll never find the truth trust me most of the ladies are searching for a prince charming not a real man

Gets out of the shower to pee....even when he KNOWS no one will be around to notice the difference.

Very interesting...am curious to hear more input from the ladies.

A real man is one who is true to himself. On dating sites, so many pretend to be something they are not. A real man is who you are, and that eventually comes out. If you cannot be happy with who you are, trying to live up to what one expects a "real man" to be, probably won't work. Deep down, one cannot change who they are.

All men are "real".some better than others. Just like women.

Come on cat! Waterloo just gave you one.

real man he who understands himself and know himself like a king. king win war but don't know himself he ain't nothing. real man should respect there woman and other woman like they respect there mom because all man came through your dad dream spot. sometime woman deserve it but man can choose not to do and there alway a way to solve problem with your love one. real man need to understand how to be a son and when grow up be a good father, if u know yourself u can correct your parents wrong do to u, fix it before karma go through your next generation.

not perfect but I just feel it this way and I use it through life not just talk

1 that is not abusive or controlling ...


I would start with that


That is why I have said I am looking for a different kind of relationship ...still with a man though...

I agree, but in future please only speak when spoken to or you'll get it ok!