Op I always start out nice now if they go weird on me... then know ... I am a B*tch ... and really don't like doing that ... because I have given my energy to them ...which is not good ... an more then likely they wanted that kind of attention ...

I lean toward being altruistic towards people, it is afterwards when you have done your bit that we can see just what kind of person is on the receiving end.
If it is not received well or returned in a negative manner then I usually say "have a nice day!".

It has for me, because I was nice anyway. I go by the saying "You get back what you give out". Of course I can't please EVERYONE. I don't intend to. I just let people make their own judgements about me. What others think of me, isn't my problem.

thats nice dear

If you are naturally nice. Being nice (being yourself) is effortless and fun. Dont drag yourself to being nice it wont pay

^ This

I also agree with this...if I have to "go there" (maybe twice in the last 3 years) to make a point or get something accomplished the chances of any kind of relationship (beyond what is absolutely necessary) is over with a capital O


But I will not go there and if I find I get even close then I know I am dealing with someone who cannot listen because I basically never lose my temper

Yes and no. There are people that will take advantage if you are and sometimes trying to do nice things for people can actually drive them away.

I recently bought tickets for a tribute band because a girl that I met told me that she was a big fan. Then when the time came for the concert she literally disappeared and I didn't hear from her again. Up to that point we were getting on pretty well and she had even told me that she thought that I am a really nice guy. I tried to arange what could have been the perfect date there and it's quite likely that she saw it as pressure or some sort of a deadline. She had told me that she wasn't ready for anything romantic but maybe if I had had longer to just get to know her as a friend and hadn't asked her out and given her gifts she would still be talking to me and maybe it would have become more than that eventually when she was ready.

I don't know but that's just one example and I've had other women doing the same sort of thing when I did things to be nice and to try to make them feel special, while my longest relationship was with someone that was constantly complaining that I wasn't doing that and that I needed to treat her better than I was.

Being nice is its own reward. I don't do it for other people, I am nice because it makes me feel good. It generally results in people being nice to me. So yes it does pay, because most of my days are happy days.

I am nice and have fun smiling at people if not just to see reaction

where I live its normal...when go to larger cites everyone has head down/have phone near ear or playing with cell/little eye contact
so many are afraid

then again who knows what happened to them that day..what is happening why the long face or angry face

sometime make jokes and see who responds/elevators are fun/easy to be kind and respectful we all have stories

if in line and I have plenty ask the one behind want to go first

see a dude who is on lunch break///ask him to go ahead//courtesy goes a long way

but watch me if someone pushes me/or is nasty

the shocked looked on face when I dish it back so fast their head spins AND can back it up

smile the person is just the stranger you never met

my rant for the day...

I am nice up to a point..
was raised with morals and manners
But also have learned to stand up for myself along way
if a line of respect is crossed then I will firmly make my opinion known

What!what! Is there something crawling on me?
"No"...THEN WHAT THE F* yA STARRING AT! FACE THE F*IN' FRONT.
I'm a super nice guy and I think its important,as it could decide your fate one day.Though I'm nice because I want to be.No "thank you" needed,like I said.I never do It for a thank you.I just want to be spared.

What the f* you lookin'at now! Here let me get the door.

Being patient , kind , respectful with humility and empathy for others is right

I don't think it pays off at all, but it's the only way I can be at peace with myself .

It can't hurt. I try to have a sunny disposition when I am at work or out in the general public.

Give a smile, get one back! It works.

I continue to believe that one day (my last day) I shall be rewarded for cheering people up, even though they say nice guys finish last.

it depends upon the payment sought

if clear conscious and positive consequences you may never see are payment,,,then yes

I truly believe a kind word or gesture can absolutely turn a strangers day around, possibly inspiring them to pay it forward

as opposed to being unkind and inspiring them to pay that forward instead

does it have to pay? im mean be nice because you want to not because you want others to be nice too...then that doesn't pay off

I am always nice, except when I get angry then I turn into a witch (with a b).




For some people, being nice is natural... Nice people just do it because it is what they are. No ulterior motive.

... but for others, being nice is a stretch. So, it is like "what's in there for me?"

... for others, they are being nice because they don't want to go to jail... again.

Well,with interaction between persons, you get more with honey, than vinegar
Such is the metaphor