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I'm confused, how could telling someone they are loved be wrong? Just say it if you feel it? If it gets complicated after, it's not because of you or what you said... JMHO. I Loooooooooooove YOU! |
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I'm confused, how could telling someone they are loved be wrong? Just say it if you feel it? If it gets complicated after, it's not because of you or what you said... JMHO.  
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If someone I hardly know says "I love you" to me, I'd instantly feel uncomfortable about that, as how can someone say that when you're a stranger? If I get to know them first, then it's easier for me to believe it. Rawrr_Girl, I agree... and this online dating stuff is new to me... I never even heard of these kinds of communities until 5 months ago, when I decided to give this a try after divorcing my husband of 18 yrs. And this entire experience has blown my mind in so many different ways. Because you never know who you're talking too, as people use false identities... yet we can spend hours, days, weeks, months, communicating in these little boxes.. and after a while you come to think of those you interact with as friends... when suddenly they can reveal that they aren't even the gender they portray themselves to be... or they are a different race then they portray... while others claim love at first write... etc.. it's like this is all one big game... and when you do run across somebody you think is normal and not playing you.. bam.. they are too... it's sad to say that in this short time online I've already become jaded... jeezz.. never in my 51 years of life experience have I ever lost confidence in something as quickly as I have on the internet. Because even if you do get to know a stranger first, before you think you can believe what they say to you.. the fact that your relationship is on a screen instead of face to face limits the level of commitment from the onset... when all we have to do to end it is click on the X in the upper right corner... |
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Platitude...."Two wrongs never make a right"....  Yeah, I agree... and a person that uses the words "I love you" just as a way to make another person feel more at ease while they try to manipulate them, leaves a lot to be desired in the category between "right and wrong" too... wouldn't you agree? Again, depends on the circumstances....maybe both are playing games, maybe both are guilty of manipulation...In my world Athena, when two adults enter into a relationship that ultimately turns sour my focus is not about blame or who is right or wrong, obsessing over the other persons actions, searching for validation..My focus is me and my responsibility in the breakup because I am the ONLY person I can control or change ..Finding my path, working toward forgiveness if I feel I've been wronged...healing, preparing myself for a brighter tomorrow ...I hope I am making sense because I am very sincere about this and I hope you understand I am only referring to myself, how I would handle unrequited love.... Yes, I understand your view on that topic, unrequited love... and no blame has been placed on the ending of a relationship... my questions revolve more around the beginning of one... and the extent some people go to, like SMS said, men that claim they love us so quickly, just as a means to start something... |
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I'm confused, how could telling someone they are loved be wrong? Just say it if you feel it? If it gets complicated after, it's not because of you or what you said... JMHO. WoW, John... what an appropriate position... there's nothing wrong with saying it, and if it gets complicated after that... take each day as it comes... thanks for your solid input too... |
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Edited by
Jeanniebean
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Mon 02/04/13 08:54 AM
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If you feel it, feel free to say it. There should be no strings.
Don't say it just because someone else said it to you. It is wrong to say "I love you" if you are doing it because you want or expect something in return. (That is manipulation. It is wrong to lie and toy with other peoople's feelings.) It is wrong to say it if you don't mean it, and that includes saying it to someone just because they said it to you. If someone tells you they love you don't panic. Just say thank you.  I love you all! |
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I'm confused, how could telling someone they are loved be wrong? Just say it if you feel it? If it gets complicated after, it's not because of you or what you said... JMHO. I Loooooooooooove YOU! cool, torgo... a man who knows his own mind... :) |
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If you feel it, feel free to say it. There should be no strings. Don't say it just because someone else said it to you. It is wrong to say "I love you" if you are doing it because you want or expect something in return. (That is manipulation. It is wrong to lie and toy with other peoople's feelings.) It is wrong to say it if you don't mean it, and that includes saying it to someone just because they said it to you. If someone tells you they love you don't panic. Just say thank you. I love you all! Excellent advice, Jeanniebean... now where's my Hammer, I need some real unconditional love...
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If you feel it, feel free to say it. There should be no strings. Don't say it just because someone else said it to you. It is wrong to say "I love you" if you are doing it because you want or expect something in return. (That is manipulation. It is wrong to lie and toy with other peoople's feelings.) It is wrong to say it if you don't mean it, and that includes saying it to someone just because they said it to you. If someone tells you they love you don't panic. Just say thank you. I love you all!  
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I'm confused, how could telling someone they are loved be wrong? Just say it if you feel it? If it gets complicated after, it's not because of you or what you said... JMHO. I Loooooooooooove YOU! Get away from me you floozy! 
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I'm confused, how could telling someone they are loved be wrong? Just say it if you feel it? If it gets complicated after, it's not because of you or what you said... JMHO. I Loooooooooooove YOU! Get away from me you floozy! alright you two... or is it three... thanks for the levity...
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Saying I love can be wrong. If you are a male aide you can actually become liable. But to get away from the legality and work since I am enjoying my time off the words can actually be taken for granted after a while in a long term relationship. The words then can lose their meaning. It is easy to become jaded whether you work in a long term care facility or your relationship becomes long term care. If they tell you that they love you and you don't reply back it is like you are with egg on your face. Sometimes it is the feeling you want to experience and not just the words. I mean what are you going to do if they say prove it?
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Saying I love can be wrong. If you are a male aide you can actually become liable. But to get away from the legality and work since I am enjoying my time off the words can actually be taken for granted after a while in a long term relationship. The words then can lose their meaning. It is easy to become jaded whether you work in a long term care facility or your relationship becomes long term care. If they tell you that they love you and you don't reply back it is like you are with egg on your face. Sometimes it is the feeling you want to experience and not just the words. I mean what are you going to do if they say prove it? that's a darn good question, trout... but I don't have any connections close enough to even bring that subject up for consideration. It's only been my ex-husband for the last 19 yrs... and now I don't have to prove anything to anyone... I like the point you made though about how we use the term so casually, or we take it for granted, that it really doesn't have the same meaning anymore. It's not related to intense feelings, etc... I guess I've fallen into that trap having just come out of a long term relationship... anyway, thanks for your thoughts too.. I enjoyed stretching my thoughts... |
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Do these three words, “I Love You”, hold some kind of magic power that can change a person’s life overnight? Or is it only the lonely hearts club band that knows the tune to this song, and how these three words can string people along? Is saying, “I love you”, ever wrong? I don't think it's wrong... generally speaking, (From old traditional values.) If you "love"... say so. I things change along that path... say that too. Playing games with love and emotions seems to have taken on new definitons that I haven't caught-up to yet... and the few that I have... well, I prefer the older versions. If it ain't true... it's a lie. And I don't make room for lying... But that's just my point-of-view. Still, ya' gotta see the humor in it all, no? |
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Do these three words, “I Love You”, hold some kind of magic power that can change a person’s life overnight? Or is it only the lonely hearts club band that knows the tune to this song, and how these three words can string people along? Is saying, “I love you”, ever wrong? I don't think it's wrong... generally speaking, (From old traditional values.) If you "love"... say so. I things change along that path... say that too. Playing games with love and emotions seems to have taken on new definitons that I haven't caught-up to yet... and the few that I have... well, I prefer the older versions. If it ain't true... it's a lie. And I don't make room for lying... But that's just my point-of-view. Still, ya' gotta see the humor in it all, no? Yes, ultimately, if I can't laugh at myself, my foolish mistakes.. what's the point of it all... we live and learn... But, if it's really love, Teditis, and at our age we know if it is or not, it's not a game... emotions aren't a toy... this online thing is a horse of a different color though... it's like you have to play the game because everybody else is... when it's all said and done however, I'll still be myself, and it will probably still be just Hammer and me... cuz we make a pretty good team...
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'I Love You....'
...Are merely words unless followed by action. Don't say it unless you're willing to show it. JMO. |
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'I Love You....' ...Are merely words unless followed by action. Don't say it unless you're willing to show it. JMO. I love you. I love you. I love you. |
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the only time not to say it is if it is not true
because it can be a life changing phrase, so if it isn't true it can be heartbreaking |
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'I Love You....' ...Are merely words unless followed by action. Don't say it unless you're willing to show it. JMO. Yes, Simplicity, the unspoken rules for online dating are becoming very clear to me... thank you for your JMO... |
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'I Love You....' ...Are merely words unless followed by action. Don't say it unless you're willing to show it. JMO. I love you. I love you. I love you. okay torgo, simplicity already made it clear... you have to be willing to show it.. oops, my bad... I guess you are.. okay, let me step away from this one... hehehe |
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