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Men, is it a turn on if a woman asks you out? Or are you turned off by it? For either answer, why?
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as for me its a turn off, i believe a woman should be sought after (thats her pride) and even if she has feelings for a man, she should just lead him on without doing the asking out....men are easily lurred.
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I know you want a man's opinion, but I thought I would share. I recently had a man tell me basically what the previous poster wrote. Women should be sought after. He wanted to hunt her down, to woo her, to feel like he was the "man" and in control of the courtship. He said though he considers himself shy, he is "old-fashioned" in that sense. But I also know some men who love and want a woman to take control and have no problem with the woman doing the asking.
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I'm all for it!! It's actually happened twice in my life and both times I was like "Really?" I had no idea there was any intrest at all until she said something.
Of course, I'm just that clueless too, so I need the help. 
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i say if your interested, let the guy know...i never know what a woman wants, unless she tells me...i like women that are direct, because most men are not mind readers, and being direct will eliminate a lot of confusion.
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hey, it's always a compliment and a great feeling if a woman asks me out :)
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I don't give a damn |
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i say if your interested, let the guy know...i never know what a woman wants, unless she tells me...i like women that are direct, because most men are not mind readers, and being direct will eliminate a lot of confusion. 
Most guys are clueless. You have to slap them and say: "Hey you...yeah you...ask me out already!"  
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i say if your interested, let the guy know...i never know what a woman wants, unless she tells me...i like women that are direct, because most men are not mind readers, and being direct will eliminate a lot of confusion.
Most guys are clueless. You have to slap them and say: "Hey you...yeah you...ask me out already!"
wahooo! a woman that gets it!!!! 
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i say if your interested, let the guy know...i never know what a woman wants, unless she tells me...i like women that are direct, because most men are not mind readers, and being direct will eliminate a lot of confusion.
Most guys are clueless. You have to slap them and say: "Hey you...yeah you...ask me out already!"
wahooo! a woman that gets it!!!!
MOE!!!!!! Will you have coffee with me tomorrow??!!??..........Plaaaaaaaleeeezzzzzzz!!??? 
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i say if your interested, let the guy know...i never know what a woman wants, unless she tells me...i like women that are direct, because most men are not mind readers, and being direct will eliminate a lot of confusion.
Most guys are clueless. You have to slap them and say: "Hey you...yeah you...ask me out already!"
wahooo! a woman that gets it!!!!
  
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i say if your interested, let the guy know...i never know what a woman wants, unless she tells me...i like women that are direct, because most men are not mind readers, and being direct will eliminate a lot of confusion.
Most guys are clueless. You have to slap them and say: "Hey you...yeah you...ask me out already!"
wahooo! a woman that gets it!!!!
MOE!!!!!! Will you have coffee with me tomorrow??!!??..........Plaaaaaaaleeeezzzzzzz!!???
can you clarify that for me please? lol, just kidding... anytime you want, that would be my pleasure. |
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i say if your interested, let the guy know...i never know what a woman wants, unless she tells me...i like women that are direct, because most men are not mind readers, and being direct will eliminate a lot of confusion.
Most guys are clueless. You have to slap them and say: "Hey you...yeah you...ask me out already!"
It's true. I never have a clue that someone is interested unless they're blatantly obvious about it. As for the OP question, I definitely approve of women initiating -- I'm certainly not going to! |
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hey, it's always a compliment and a great feeling if a woman asks me out :) Nice to see there are some guys like you that show you are confident and don't behave like a child when a woman asks you out. Its very attractive if you don't mind me saying.
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Hope you don't mind me stating my own thoughts on it, even though this thread is for males to answer. If i wanna be with a guy, i ask him out directly. Why not? There's no rules in love. Whether you're male or female. We're all human. Someone might not have any attraction to the person asking them out, vice versa, so i guess you gotta take the risk, regardless of the outcome. It will be a yes, or a no. It certainly can't be forced.
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Hope you don't mind me stating my own thoughts on it, even though this thread is for males to answer. If i wanna be with a guy, i ask him out directly. Why not? There's no rules in love. Whether you're male or female. We're all human. Someone might not have any attraction to the person asking them out, vice versa, so i guess you gotta take the risk, regardless of the outcome. It will be a yes, or a no. It certainly can't be forced. Agreed and I wonder how many have missed opportunities because of pride or ego. Life is too short to not go for it. |
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I know you want a man's opinion, but I thought I would share. I recently had a man tell me basically what the previous poster wrote. Women should be sought after. He wanted to hunt her down, to woo her, to feel like he was the "man" and in control of the courtship. He said though he considers himself shy, he is "old-fashioned" in that sense. But I also know some men who love and want a woman to take control and have no problem with the woman doing the asking. THIS
its about what each person seeks, I am attracted to 'take charge' type guys so I just wouldnt feel an initial spark with someone who needed me to initiate the contact and many men would likewise probably not feel an initial spark with a woman who didnt take charge,, its all about preference,, I prefer to be approached, its the first sign to me that a guy,, excuse the expression, 'has balls' |
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I didn't mean that only men should respond to this thread. I just created it because lately, we've heard a lot about how women feel about making the first move in various threads and little about how men feel about women making the first move.
Thanks to those who have replied already. |
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as for me its a turn off, i believe a woman should be sought after (thats her pride) and even if she has feelings for a man, she should just lead him on without doing the asking out....men are easily lurred. If a woman asked you out, would you turn her down simply because she made the first move? |
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I know you want a man's opinion, but I thought I would share. I recently had a man tell me basically what the previous poster wrote. Women should be sought after. He wanted to hunt her down, to woo her, to feel like he was the "man" and in control of the courtship. He said though he considers himself shy, he is "old-fashioned" in that sense. But I also know some men who love and want a woman to take control and have no problem with the woman doing the asking. I think a lot of it depends on whether someone is old fashioned or not. And though, it is quite an old fashioned view of how things should work, many women and men feel that the men should make the first move. Though, from the looks of this thread so far, there are several men who do not mind at all when women make the first move. |
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