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i always wondered if women were under the impression that men are smart about these things... just so yall know, we are not. it has nothing to with ballz, just the fact that women are confusing at times...
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i say if your interested, let the guy know...i never know what a woman wants, unless she tells me...i like women that are direct, because most men are not mind readers, and being direct will eliminate a lot of confusion. It's definitely good to be direct. Hinting around at something doesn't always work and causes frustration for both people at times. Do you want the woman to just let you know she's interested, so that you can ask her out? Or would you be happy if the woman actually asked you out? |
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i always wondered if women were under the impression that men are smart about these things... just so yall know, we are not. it has nothing to with ballz, just the fact that women are confusing at times... I think some women just assume that hints will work. So they hint around at what they want and then wait in hopes that he will figure out what they want and ask them out. When it doesn't happen, they complain about it. 
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i say if your interested, let the guy know...i never know what a woman wants, unless she tells me...i like women that are direct, because most men are not mind readers, and being direct will eliminate a lot of confusion. It's definitely good to be direct. Hinting around at something doesn't always work and causes frustration for both people at times. Do you want the woman to just let you know she's interested, so that you can ask her out? Or would you be happy if the woman actually asked you out? i would rather her just ask me out, it seems more direct that way. i have never understood the signs a woman can give, and i seem to misinterpret most of them anyway... 
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i always wondered if women were under the impression that men are smart about these things... just so yall know, we are not. it has nothing to with ballz, just the fact that women are confusing at times... smart about what things? how to say hello? |
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i always wondered if women were under the impression that men are smart about these things... just so yall know, we are not. it has nothing to with ballz, just the fact that women are confusing at times... smart about what things? how to say hello? I think he means figuring out that a woman is interested and wants him to ask her out. He's saying guys don't always get the hints that you're waiting for them to figure out. |
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Edited by
msharmony
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Mon 11/07/11 10:32 AM
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i always wondered if women were under the impression that men are smart about these things... just so yall know, we are not. it has nothing to with ballz, just the fact that women are confusing at times... smart about what things? how to say hello? I think he means figuring out that a woman is interested and wants him to ask her out. He's saying guys don't always get the hints that you're waiting for them to figure out. ok. I understand its a risk. Thats where the 'balls' come in(for me). ITs not about knowing if the girl is interested, its about taking the risk that she may or may not be,,,, |
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i always wondered if women were under the impression that men are smart about these things... just so yall know, we are not. it has nothing to with ballz, just the fact that women are confusing at times... smart about what things? how to say hello? I think he means figuring out that a woman is interested and wants him to ask her out. He's saying guys don't always get the hints that you're waiting for them to figure out. ok. I understand its a risk. Thats where the 'balls' come in(for me). ITs not about knowing if the girl is interested, its about taking the risk that she may not be,,,, And that's why I think (moe, please correct me if I'm wrong) he's saying it has nothing to do with balls. If a man has no idea you're interested, he may not ask you out because of that. I can understand not asking someone out if there are no signs they're interested. |
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i always wondered if women were under the impression that men are smart about these things... just so yall know, we are not. it has nothing to with ballz, just the fact that women are confusing at times... smart about what things? how to say hello? so when you say hello to a guy, you want him to ask you out? |
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Edited by
msharmony
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Mon 11/07/11 10:37 AM
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i always wondered if women were under the impression that men are smart about these things... just so yall know, we are not. it has nothing to with ballz, just the fact that women are confusing at times... smart about what things? how to say hello? I think he means figuring out that a woman is interested and wants him to ask her out. He's saying guys don't always get the hints that you're waiting for them to figure out. ok. I understand its a risk. Thats where the 'balls' come in(for me). ITs not about knowing if the girl is interested, its about taking the risk that she may not be,,,, And that's why I think (moe, please correct me if I'm wrong) he's saying it has nothing to do with balls. If a man has no idea you're interested, he may not ask you out because of that. I can understand not asking someone out if there are no signs they're interested. I can understand it too. there are just many females who are attracted to the type who doesnt need to know if there is an interest just to say hello. its cool if someone needs to be sure before initiating too,, its just a matter of what each of us attracts and is attracted to |
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i always wondered if women were under the impression that men are smart about these things... just so yall know, we are not. it has nothing to with ballz, just the fact that women are confusing at times... smart about what things? how to say hello? I think he means figuring out that a woman is interested and wants him to ask her out. He's saying guys don't always get the hints that you're waiting for them to figure out. ok. I understand its a risk. Thats where the 'balls' come in(for me). ITs not about knowing if the girl is interested, its about taking the risk that she may not be,,,, And that's why I think (moe, please correct me if I'm wrong) he's saying it has nothing to do with balls. If a man has no idea you're interested, he may not ask you out because of that. I can understand not asking someone out if there are no signs they're interested. yea, i agree... it is hard to tell when a woman is interested in you, or just being nice. most of the time, i just see it as being nice, so i leave it at that, not knowing if there is anything more to it... |
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here is an example.. a nice, good looking unattached woman about my age goes to the same bar i go to, and we talk and joke around all the time. she always gives me a hug and acts like she is interested. but, i also see her with younger guys a lot, guys i cannot compete with, looks and money wise. so i just do not ask her out, because i am confused by her actions.
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I have been pondering all of this.
I think, if ever I really wanted to go out with someone, that I would maybe say something like 'Okay, when are you going to ask me out?' Satisfying both my need to let them go first, and satisfying their need to do the asking. To reply to the OP query, I would imagine MOST men would be thrilled to be asked first. The onus of rejection has always been on them. Seems fair to spread it around. |
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i always wondered if women were under the impression that men are smart about these things... just so yall know, we are not. it has nothing to with ballz, just the fact that women are confusing at times... smart about what things? how to say hello? so when you say hello to a guy, you want him to ask you out? after some conversation, and if he is interested,, sure,,, |
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I can understand it too. there are just many females who are attracted to the type who doesnt need to know if there is an interest just to say hello. its cool if someone needs to be sure before initiating too,, its just a matter of what each of us attracts and is attracted to So, do you actually let men know in any way that you're interested? Or, do you just hope that a guy you're interested in will also be interested in you and ask you out? |
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here is an example.. a nice, good looking unattached woman about my age goes to the same bar i go to, and we talk and joke around all the time. she always gives me a hug and acts like she is interested. but, i also see her with younger guys a lot, guys i cannot compete with, looks and money wise. so i just do not ask her out, because i am confused by her actions. thats understandable, and it takes a certain amount of bravery to overcome that confusion and uncertainty and just ASK...soufies suggestion is actually quite brilliant as a way of helping guys feel more 'sure' about a womans interest,,, |
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i always wondered if women were under the impression that men are smart about these things... just so yall know, we are not. it has nothing to with ballz, just the fact that women are confusing at times... smart about what things? how to say hello? I think he means figuring out that a woman is interested and wants him to ask her out. He's saying guys don't always get the hints that you're waiting for them to figure out. ok. I understand its a risk. Thats where the 'balls' come in(for me). ITs not about knowing if the girl is interested, its about taking the risk that she may not be,,,, And that's why I think (moe, please correct me if I'm wrong) he's saying it has nothing to do with balls. If a man has no idea you're interested, he may not ask you out because of that. I can understand not asking someone out if there are no signs they're interested. yea, i agree... it is hard to tell when a woman is interested in you, or just being nice. most of the time, i just see it as being nice, so i leave it at that, not knowing if there is anything more to it... Same here. I'm TERRIBLE at taking hints. If she'd staple a note to my forehead coming right out with it, I still might not get it! |
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I can understand it too. there are just many females who are attracted to the type who doesnt need to know if there is an interest just to say hello. its cool if someone needs to be sure before initiating too,, its just a matter of what each of us attracts and is attracted to So, do you actually let men know in any way that you're interested? Or, do you just hope that a guy you're interested in will also be interested in you and ask you out? body language and conversational tone are about the only signals I give, I leave it to the man to step up to the plate after that,,, |
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And that's why I think (moe, please correct me if I'm wrong) he's saying it has nothing to do with balls. If a man has no idea you're interested, he may not ask you out because of that. To me, the definition of balls means you dont give a poo if shes giving you signals, he's going after her because he's interested in going after her and is willing to give it a shot, signals or no signals. balls. What you describe has nothing to do with balls. The asking out regardless is all balls. I think there are a lot of men out there who do ask women out, whether they get signals or not. But, since that was coming from a woman, I was just wondering how she lets him know she's interested. Or if she just hopes that the men she's interested in feel the same. |
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And that's why I think (moe, please correct me if I'm wrong) he's saying it has nothing to do with balls. If a man has no idea you're interested, he may not ask you out because of that. To me, the definition of balls means you dont give a poo if shes giving you signals, he's going after her because he's interested in going after her and is willing to give it a shot, signals or no signals. balls. What you describe has nothing to do with balls. The asking out regardless is all balls. ok, so my raisin sack is insufficient for the task... but i meet very few women that i would ask out like that anyway. usually, the ones i like don't like me, and the ones that like me, i'm not that into... but some of the responses i have received when i do is "sorry, i'm a les", "i'm married", and my favorite, "ewww".... |
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