I think there are a lot of men out there who do ask women out, whether they get signals or not. But, since that was coming from a woman, I was just wondering how she lets him know she's interested. Or if she just hopes that the men she's interested in feel the same.



right, its all about compatibility and what each person seeks in a partner.

Does that work most of the time?

I just don't see what it has to do with balls. And how a woman asking a man out means the man has no balls. It's just someone taking the first step. That's it.

PS - you had an extra end quote tag in there, which is why the quotes were messed up.

it works in attracting what Im attracted to , yes

it doesnt work in attracting everyone,, no

it doesnt mean a guy has no balls if the woman initiates
(it doesnt mean he does either)

it does mean he has SOME if he initiates,,,

well i might not necessary turn her down. What i wrote is based on a personal experience. I had a girl whom i was going to ask out but she was kinda forward (reasons i dont know) and asked me out first. I conscented but althrough our relationship she was fighting to sustain it.....i believe if i asked her out i would have felt a sense of responsibility to her. Thats why i feel a woman stands to gain much when a man seeks her rather than she seeking after him. What do you think?

Definitely a positive thing.

I`m old school. Back in the day, men asked women out.

But as times have changed, so has old school.

I like when a woman asks me out. That shows me that she has some type of interest in me.

I also don`t have to face the rejection of being told no when I ask a lady to go out on a date with me.

What do you mean you would have felt a sense of responsibility to her?

I disagree on a woman having to wait around to be asked out, though.

I'm happy to see several men, including those old school men, like when a woman asks them out.

Right. But, I was talking about he was saying, since he thinks that a woman should wait. And he asked what I thought.

it shows how we are a product of our experiences

this is my experience too, when I have taken the initiative within the relationship on MANY occasions (not the introduction but in other things) , it has ended up that I ended up being expected to ALWAYS take the initiative and ALWAYS handle EVERYTHING,, I dont want that type of relationship

I find that a guy who takes the initiative, is more likely to 'share' responsibilities, than the guy who cant quite step up,,,
and follows that pattern throughout the relationship because they come to expect me to lead,,,,

Speaking of balls... I've had men ask me out, then seem to need approval for anything after that. Especially planning a date. So, just because he asked me out, it did not mean he had balls.

thats what I mean about 'sharing' responsibility

I think because a guy takes initiative when its something important, and possibly, by extension, that I Will be important to them


planning a date may not be as important or they may want to not be overbearing,, that wouldnt bother me


I just dont want a guy that Im going to have to always explain my feelings to in a relationship, a certain ability to read body language is important to me,,,

Oh, for goodness sake; are we all still in high school? If you are interested; ask the person out. Its not rocket science. All they can say is no. I hear people whining they want to be in a relationship; then take the damn risk!!. Who gives a damn who ask who first; just as long as the question is asked. Its a wonder anyone even gets together with all these stupid mind games.

its not really about high school, its just preference

everyone has their own,,,

I think its childish. Why play the guessing game; life is too short to wait for the perfect circumstances or preferences. Oh well, its a person's loss if they don't take the risk.

twasnt about balls....we were not in the same town as at that time and i wanted it to be a face to face thing. She did it on phone.

I've asked men out and not always been expected to take the initiative.

And men have asked me out, yet expected me to take the initiative after that.

So, it doesn't always work the way you say it does.