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I would love it.....something sexy about a woman that would do this....
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I would love it.....something sexy about a woman that would do this.... EXACTLY how I feel about men that do it,,,lol |
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well i might not necessary turn her down. What i wrote is based on a personal experience. I had a girl whom i was going to ask out but she was kinda forward (reasons i dont know) and asked me out first. I conscented but althrough our relationship she was fighting to sustain it.....i believe if i asked her out i would have felt a sense of responsibility to her. Thats why i feel a woman stands to gain much when a man seeks her rather than she seeking after him. What do you think? What do you mean you would have felt a sense of responsibility to her? I disagree on a woman having to wait around to be asked out, though. what i mean is that assuming i asked her out, i would see the relationship as my initiative and thus take responsibility of making it work. But since she did.......i was kinda care free. So you only care about the relationship if you're the one who starts it? that was the case. I'm not condeming a woman asking a man out but i think it would be better she gives signals. |
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its not childish though to prefer a certain type of partner its honesty with ourself in what we are compatible with,,, Well, if that is what works for you and your comfort level; then I say what the heck. Me, when I want something bad enough; I just go for it. I guess I have seen to many people regret or even die never accomplishing what they set out to do. |
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You dont need to agree with her. that has nothing to do with it. She doesnt have to feel the same way as you. Its her prerogative. No need to tell me who I should or should not agree with  . I know I don't need to agree with everyone. If you don't agree with her, that's your choice. I didn't really see any name calling, unless you were talking about childish. I read it as calling the behavior childish. But, who knows. Great then you can recognise her choice not to agree with you too, and no need to call her names for disagreeing with you either then, yes? I do apoligize for saying what I did. |
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You dont need to agree with her. that has nothing to do with it. She doesnt have to feel the same way as you. Its her prerogative. No need to tell me who I should or should not agree with . I know I don't need to agree with everyone. If you don't agree with her, that's your choice. I didn't really see any name calling, unless you were talking about childish. I read it as calling the behavior childish. But, who knows. Great then you can recognise her choice not to agree with you too, and no need to call her names for disagreeing with you either then, yes? I do apoligize for saying what I did. I dont take it personal, I love the women of mingle, not one without class,,,, |
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its not childish though to prefer a certain type of partner its honesty with ourself in what we are compatible with,,, Well, if that is what works for you and your comfort level; then I say what the heck. Me, when I want something bad enough; I just go for it. I guess I have seen to many people regret or even die never accomplishing what they set out to do. Ms navy, you keep missing her point. She doesnt WANT the guy who doesnt go for it. So its a different situation youre comparing. Love you tho.   No, I am not missing her point; I get it; she doesn't want a man that wouldn't ask her out first. I just said if that works for her; then by all means go for it.
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You dont need to agree with her. that has nothing to do with it. She doesnt have to feel the same way as you. Its her prerogative. No need to tell me who I should or should not agree with . I know I don't need to agree with everyone. If you don't agree with her, that's your choice. I didn't really see any name calling, unless you were talking about childish. I read it as calling the behavior childish. But, who knows. Great then you can recognise her choice not to agree with you too, and no need to call her names for disagreeing with you either then, yes? I do apoligize for saying what I did. I dont take it personal, I love the women of mingle, not one without class,,,, Thanks; you too are a very classy lady.
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yeah. Im not putting down anyone truly. I understand the appeal of shy guys, I understand the reasons for approaching a guy instead of waiting I just PREFER to be approaced, I am just more ATTRACTED to guys who take the risk of approaching 
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Nope not intolerant; I just think its foolish to not take the risk. I think its been said over and over that its not necessarily that a guy isn't interested but he could be shy, not sure of her intersts, or many other things. What have you got to lose? Risk what? She's NOT interested in him. Are you suggesting we ask out people when we arent interested in them? Msharmony is not taking a risk and asking out someone she may be interested in. That's all. If it doesn't work for her, it doesn't work for her. |
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well i might not necessary turn her down. What i wrote is based on a personal experience. I had a girl whom i was going to ask out but she was kinda forward (reasons i dont know) and asked me out first. I conscented but althrough our relationship she was fighting to sustain it.....i believe if i asked her out i would have felt a sense of responsibility to her. Thats why i feel a woman stands to gain much when a man seeks her rather than she seeking after him. What do you think? What do you mean you would have felt a sense of responsibility to her? I disagree on a woman having to wait around to be asked out, though. what i mean is that assuming i asked her out, i would see the relationship as my initiative and thus take responsibility of making it work. But since she did.......i was kinda care free. So you only care about the relationship if you're the one who starts it? that was the case. I'm not condeming a woman asking a man out but i think it would be better she gives signals. I'm just trying to see how people think. That's all. Everyone has a different way of doing things. |
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You dont need to agree with her. that has nothing to do with it. She doesnt have to feel the same way as you. Its her prerogative. No need to tell me who I should or should not agree with . I know I don't need to agree with everyone. If you don't agree with her, that's your choice. I didn't really see any name calling, unless you were talking about childish. I read it as calling the behavior childish. But, who knows. Great then you can recognise her choice not to agree with you too, and no need to call her names for disagreeing with you either then, yes? I have not called anyone names. |
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Yea this is the man question...we just all have opinions
There are definitely easy ways to approach asking a guy out, so, I am all for it and have done it. I believe men do feel flattered just as we girls do. 
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You dont need to agree with her. that has nothing to do with it. She doesnt have to feel the same way as you. Its her prerogative. No need to tell me who I should or should not agree with . I know I don't need to agree with everyone. If you don't agree with her, that's your choice. I didn't really see any name calling, unless you were talking about childish. I read it as calling the behavior childish. But, who knows. Great then you can recognise her choice not to agree with you too, and no need to call her names for disagreeing with you either then, yes? I have not called anyone names. Well, girl what the heck are you waiting for? Call me a name so I can disagree with you unless the name you call me fits? 
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The amount of times I have been asked. l reject all offers.
Only time I accepted was when I was asked if I would date her friend. And that went no where I must have broken many hearts :) |
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The amount of times I have been asked. l reject all offers. Only time I accepted was when I was asked if I would date her friend. And that went no where I must have broken many hearts :) Oh, you nasty heart breaker. When I asked guys out; they were shocked but flattered.
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I asked Stephen this question,in response to these threads....
'Would you have preferred to have asked me out, or for a walk, or whatever, than me having done the asking?' 'Was it emasculating to have me ask you, and to let you know how I was feeling about you?' To the first question, his response was...' No, it was refreshing, to have a confident, comfortable in her own skin woman, share her feelings, without any attachment to the answer. I felt quite relieved to know how you felt, as I could then share with you how I was feeling, for you.' he went on to say...'At our age Lee, (him,53 and me, 47)...we have out grown all the games attached to courting, and don't need a heap of confusing contradictory signals, to express what it is we want. Imagine taking the whole game playing behaviours of courting into the intimacy part of a relationship, how quickly it would unravel.' he laughed at my second question, and responded with...'Emasculating? Remember I am a Leo, with a Scorpio moon...my masculinity does not evolve around a woman playing fair maiden, if anything, I was flattered, and pleased with your confidence, I felt MORE male.' I wonder if other men, feel a similar thing to Stephen....? |
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Edited by
navygirl
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Mon 11/07/11 02:01 PM
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I asked Stephen this question,in response to these threads.... 'Would you have preferred to have asked me out, or for a walk, or whatever, than me having done the asking?' 'Was it emasculating to have me ask you, and to let you know how I was feeling about you?' To the first question, his response was...' No, it was refreshing, to have a confident, comfortable in her own skin woman, share her feelings, without any attachment to the answer. I felt quite relieved to know how you felt, as I could then share with you how I was feeling, for you.' he went on to say...'At our age Lee, (him,53 and me, 47)...we have out grown all the games attached to courting, and don't need a heap of confusing contradictory signals, to express what it is we want. Imagine taking the whole game playing behaviours of courting into the intimacy part of a relationship, how quickly it would unravel.' he laughed at my second question, and responded with...'Emasculating? Remember I am a Leo, with a Scorpio moon...my masculinity does not evolve around a woman playing fair maiden, if anything, I was flattered, and pleased with your confidence, I felt MORE male.' I wonder if other men, feel a similar thing to Stephen....? Very well said and totally agree. Your Stephen is quite an awesome man; wish I could have met someone like that years ago. I especially loved Stephen's comment; "'At our age Lee, (him,53 and me, 47)...we have out grown all the games attached to courting, and don't need a heap of confusing contradictory signals, to express what it is we want. Imagine taking the whole game playing behaviours of courting into the intimacy part of a relationship, how quickly it would unravel." This is so true. I wish you both all the happiness in the world. |
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I asked Stephen this question,in response to these threads.... 'Would you have preferred to have asked me out, or for a walk, or whatever, than me having done the asking?' 'Was it emasculating to have me ask you, and to let you know how I was feeling about you?' To the first question, his response was...' No, it was refreshing, to have a confident, comfortable in her own skin woman, share her feelings, without any attachment to the answer. I felt quite relieved to know how you felt, as I could then share with you how I was feeling, for you.' he went on to say...'At our age Lee, (him,53 and me, 47)...we have out grown all the games attached to courting, and don't need a heap of confusing contradictory signals, to express what it is we want. Imagine taking the whole game playing behaviours of courting into the intimacy part of a relationship, how quickly it would unravel.' he laughed at my second question, and responded with...'Emasculating? Remember I am a Leo, with a Scorpio moon...my masculinity does not evolve around a woman playing fair maiden, if anything, I was flattered, and pleased with your confidence, I felt MORE male.' I wonder if other men, feel a similar thing to Stephen....? Thanks for asking him! I like hearing mens' opinions on this subject. There are no wrong answers on this subject. But for myself, it's nice to hear that people are getting away from the way things used to be and not playing so many games anymore. Being straight forward, whether man or woman, is usually appreciated. Congrats on the new grandbaby .
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