You got that from the little info I gave you? Do you have mind reading powers? Powers to see into past relationships?

That's cool, though. You're free to think what you'd like. It does say a lot about you, though, if you're making those kind of assumptions based on very little information. But hey, we all assume at times, I guess.

No Sing. i got that from the last 4 days of you. I got that from your "Non attacking ways" Yet as you stated you were going after me to prove who you want to portray me as "But thank you for being honest that you don't care about who you're dating. Good for women to know! Sometimes it takes a while for that to show. With you, it was pretty quick. " Remember sing you are the one who twisted words to fit your desire.

All i did was emphasize your own words that you put out there. You "use sex with guys you are dating to get to know them better".

You went after me tonight post after post, because you didn't agree with what I said about sex. And now you're telling me I'm twisting words, when it has been you making assumptions the whole time. You've shown that it doesn't matter what I say, that you're just going to continue to make assumptions.

But, I know that you don't know me or anything about me, so I can't take what you say seriously. It has been an interesting conversation, though.

Enough with the personal attacks back and forth. If it continues, warnings will be sent. Please stay on topic and away from commenting personally against each other.

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Interesting thread. I like the part where if the tables were turned would the woman be willing to wait. The reason I bring this up is because lets say both were shy people. And to compound the plot lets say both had made mistakes in the past by rushing into relationships. Exclusivity can enter into the picture real fast for the wall flower type people. Sometimes one can encounter the unmistakable signals of chemistry because she has went through a go between of a match maker's help. Let say the match maker is being a communicator for the two to take out of the risks that normally go between two checking each other out. I can remember being interested in this woman who spoke a different language and my uncle was the go between since he spoke fluent Spanish. I had always trusted my uncle before and thought he had my best interests at heart. The next thing I know I am getting slapped. After that I became leery of match makers. They could be telling them one thing and you another. Sometimes I think the match maker's credentials should be checked out like we check out the credentials of a potential date. Some match makers I have found out think it is funny to watch the victims squirm. Not all match makers are this way. And not all daters need the assistance of match makers. I would have to say that risk is an element of dating. Sometimes one person in a potential date is more interested than the other. Sometimes a draw can be made where both conclude that both are good people. One lady just recently asked me if because of the match maker did I want to date her or not. She asked me whether I felt pushed into it or not.

Wait a minute you two, this is getting good, can you wait a few minutes so I can go make popcorn?

Wait a minute you two, this is getting good, can you wait a few minutes so I can go make popcorn?

I DONT BELIEVE IT!!!

I thought I would NEVER EVER EVER hear a man express this thought. ITs so important to me to make the goal friendship with romance only a possible benefit. So many people make the romance the goal and totally skip any real friendship,, until the romance starts getting old and there is nothing else there to hold it together.

I Never want that again, thats for sure.

MAKING FRIENDS AND STAYING HOPEFUL...

I don't think that's odd at all. I've experienced the same thing.

If you are attracted to someone and it happens right away, then obviously the attraction is mutual. If a friendship blossoms first that is even better. But if one person has a goal of remaining friends only when the other party is searching for a love relationship and not willing to settle for just a friendship then their friendship is in vein. Some people are not looking for friends.

I have plenty of friends. Sometimes people want to find a great lover who is emotionally compatible as well. i dont really look for guys who are just my friend...if it starts that way and doesnt progress it will probably end sooner or later. I am loyal and tend to not hang out with guys out of respect to my partner anyways.

Great post Dragoness. I love your view on it .

I have several guy friends that I would not give up just because I'm dating someone. I wouldn't expect them to give up their friends for me, either. There just has to be enough trust there to realize that just friends means just friends.

I have had plenty of guys friends in my life, most with hidden motives. some true friends. But My time with them would probably be at a house party where my significant other is present. I would not appreciate my boyfriend out to lunch with another women alone, unless it was work related and forced. But if my partner has free time outside of work i would love some time with him.. If he wants time with his guy friends Im cool with that too...but giving up time with me for another female...i will not agree to that. I dont care if she is a lez, Men are looking at boobs, period.

My man, my boobs. And I give them the very same respect. I go out with my girls and if other guys around i assume its a double date...my man will be there with me. (excludin clubs and stuff) but i meant scheduling time with a "guy friend" would be with him and his "girlfriend" me and my boyfriend...

I've never had an issue with seeing someone and still hanging out with friends. What works for me may not work for someone else. Everyone has a different way of doing things.

I guess it depends on who you are with at the time...i have had relationships like that in the past where there were no problems, but as I aged and learned that more often than not people in general can not be trusted on both sexes...every relationship is different.

In the immortal words of MC REN..

"it don't matter just don't bite it".