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We shall all have to wear the kleenex boxes, then, as expected. On the other hand (or foot), if I'm going to be alone either way, I might just as well hold onto the comfy shoes. The boxes make a more dramatic statement. Enhanced shuffling etc. They also make the statement "My feet are wet and frozen. It's January." Were you gonna go outside? WTH? Eventually, you kind of have to.... |
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Did you ever consider putting kleenex boxes on your feet and trying again but this time being a little bit more "flexible"? 
flexible with which deal breaker? they all represent what would drive him crazy in a relationship. ie...children-not his thing, so why do that to the kids. intelligent-nothing to say to each other so whats the point. creative in some way-so he will find something interesting to appreciate and learn from, as he offers the same. ok, theres the 8 block radius issue...I would be flexible here. The rest actually seem very reasonable, and yet, chupacabra. I categorically deny that they ALL would drive him crazy. no-kids, fine. smart that's alright too. maybe everything else could be negotiable to a degree on a case-by-case basis. I truly believe that part of the problem may be a perception (or possibly even a reality) of inflexibility and as everyone knows it is very important to be somewhat or even extremely accommodating in various ways to have a great relationship. Maybe Lex is painting himself in a corner unnecessarily. 
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I categorically deny that they ALL would drive him crazy. no-kids, fine. smart that's alright too. maybe everything else could be negotiable to a degree on a case-by-case basis. Thank you, s1ow! That's pretty much it. I suppose, on some level, I have a tendency to hone in on the things that have ruined all of my past relationships, and so I try (as much as is possible) to circumvent those things from creeping into any future entanglements I might end up with. I truly believe that part of the problem may be a perception (or possibly even a reality) of inflexibility and as everyone knows it is very important to be somewhat or even extremely accommodating in various ways to have a great relationship. Maybe Lex is painting himself in a corner unnecessarily.
Well, if that's part of it, that was never my intention. The idea was to ensure that those who were unequivocally incompatible would understand the realities of the situation. The upshot has been (from many many many comments re: my profile and forum posts) that I'm frequently perceived as "intimidating and complicated," which is absolute nonsense to anyone who has taken a few minutes to get to know me at all. I really have no desire to paint myself into a corner, but, at the same time, I have no desire to paint myself into a barn, either....! |
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Well you seem like a great guy and I think you deserve to find
what you seek - well at least almost everything you seek! 
I do think that the "complicated and intimidating" thing has a lot to do with the perception of all or your requirements as forged in steel and non-negotiable and thus "intimidating" and "complex". But I never found you personally intimidating or complex so maybe I should recuse myself now.
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Well you seem like a great guy and I think you deserve to find what you seek - well at least almost everything you seek!
I do think that the "complicated and intimidating" thing has a lot to do with the perception of all or your requirements as forged in steel and non-negotiable and thus "intimidating" and "complex". But I never found you personally intimidating or complex so maybe I should recuse myself now.
I think people see what they want to see, or what they think they're expected to see. But, in reality, I'm about as intimidating as lime Jello on a paper plate. |
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I got a proposal yesterday from Nigeria.. Said he would marry me if I would let him..
   
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I got a proposal yesterday from Nigeria.. Said he would marry me if I would let him..
Well, if it's from Nigeria, it's usually from a relative of their Minister of Agriculture, and if you send him $14,000, he guarantees you will get back $2.9 million as soon as Uncle's ATM is working again. |
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My scammer is someone who knows me in real life and has followed me to the forums here from another site. He has multiple profiles with pictures of random objects or fake pictures.
 But it doesn't keep me from meeting new people.  I have amazing gut radars I can count on.
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My scammer is someone who knows me in real life and has followed me to the forums here from another site. He has multiple profiles with pictures of random objects or fake pictures. But it doesn't keep me from meeting new people. I have amazing gut radars I can count on.
if he is a scammer then he can easily be expunged! |
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My scammer is someone who knows me in real life and has followed me to the forums here from another site. He has multiple profiles with pictures of random objects or fake pictures. But it doesn't keep me from meeting new people. I have amazing gut radars I can count on.
Not me, I'm a complete moron. I'll meet someone, I'll think she's cute, she says "Oh, good, I don't want kids either!" and I'll think, "Wow, let's see where this goes." Three months later, like clockwork (is this what they mean when they're talking about their "biological clock"?), they suddenly start screaming "I NEED A BAY-BEE!!" every six seconds. I should have learned by now, right? After this happened like 90 times in a row? But no. |
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My scammer is someone who knows me in real life and has followed me to the forums here from another site. He has multiple profiles with pictures of random objects or fake pictures. But it doesn't keep me from meeting new people. I have amazing gut radars I can count on.
Not me, I'm a complete moron. I'll meet someone, I'll think she's cute, she says "Oh, good, I don't want kids either!" and I'll think, "Wow, let's see where this goes." Three months later, like clockwork (is this what they mean when they're talking about their "biological clock"?), they suddenly start screaming "I NEED A BAY-BEE!!" every six seconds. I should have learned by now, right? After this happened like 90 times in a row? But no. hmm, that's because women can be extremely manipulative. the ones you're talking about know exactly what you want to hear. she thinks that when you fall in love with her you'll make an exception for her. 
i figure it's safer if i contact people even though that's not really me. except there is no one there to contact.  
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My scammer is someone who knows me in real life and has followed me to the forums here from another site. He has multiple profiles with pictures of random objects or fake pictures. But it doesn't keep me from meeting new people. I have amazing gut radars I can count on.
if he is a scammer then he can easily be expunged! we'll see how far he'll go. can't prove anything as of right now. |
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My scammer is someone who knows me in real life and has followed me to the forums here from another site. He has multiple profiles with pictures of random objects or fake pictures. But it doesn't keep me from meeting new people. I have amazing gut radars I can count on.
Not me, I'm a complete moron. I'll meet someone, I'll think she's cute, she says "Oh, good, I don't want kids either!" and I'll think, "Wow, let's see where this goes." Three months later, like clockwork (is this what they mean when they're talking about their "biological clock"?), they suddenly start screaming "I NEED A BAY-BEE!!" every six seconds. I should have learned by now, right? After this happened like 90 times in a row? But no. Have you tried telling them you are STERILE, and add, 'luckily because I do not want kids.' Or have you tried that and they suggest adoption? No, actually I've tried that, and they refuse to believe me. Even though it's true. |
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My scammer is someone who knows me in real life and has followed me to the forums here from another site. He has multiple profiles with pictures of random objects or fake pictures. But it doesn't keep me from meeting new people. I have amazing gut radars I can count on.
You mean ex bf, stalker type. I had one for a bit. I think they are finished. Part of the letting go I spose. no, not ex bf. just someone from school who i met online and who couldn't handle that I didn't want his friendship. |
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My scammer is someone who knows me in real life and has followed me to the forums here from another site. He has multiple profiles with pictures of random objects or fake pictures. But it doesn't keep me from meeting new people. I have amazing gut radars I can count on.
Not me, I'm a complete moron. I'll meet someone, I'll think she's cute, she says "Oh, good, I don't want kids either!" and I'll think, "Wow, let's see where this goes." Three months later, like clockwork (is this what they mean when they're talking about their "biological clock"?), they suddenly start screaming "I NEED A BAY-BEE!!" every six seconds. I should have learned by now, right? After this happened like 90 times in a row? But no. hmm, that's because women can be extremely manipulative. the ones you're talking about know exactly what you want to hear. she thinks that when you fall in love with her you'll make an exception for her.
i figure it's safer if i contact people even though that's not really me. except there is no one there to contact.
Well, see, that's my whole problem. It appears there are only two types of women in the world: 1.) those who want kids and are honest and up-front about it, and 2.) those who want kids but won't admit it if/when it interferes withe their immediate agenda. They'll only admit it once they think it's safe to do so. I understand about the "no one to contact" thing, too. When I look at the profiles of the locals, everybody either has kids or wants kids, or the profiles are simply incomprehensible. |
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or 3.) Taken Right, but the taken ones all have kids anyway, so that's not really a problem. There was a time in my life when I actually believed there were women in the world who didn't have kids and didn't want kids. I have no idea where that idea came from, because it's obviously completely wrong, and no one in their right mind should ever walk around in public fostering such a horrid delusion. But I did have a brief drug experimentation phase from ages 19-22, so it's likely there was some damage done somewhere along the way. If anything, the whole "I MUST REPRODUCE!!" mindset seems to be gaining in popularity, especially on dating sites. When I read through profiles, it's become commonplace to see the 19-year-old with three kids "....AND THEY ARE MY WORLD!!!" |
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I dont know why you dont try someplace warm. Even if its just a vacation. Oranges, and kleenex boxes on your feet whenever you wish. I don't think geography is the problem. I think it's more about hormones, brain chemistry, lack of imagination, and the desire to do what you're "supposed" to do because everybody is telling you you're "supposed" to do it. |
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My scammer is someone who knows me in real life and has followed me to the forums here from another site. He has multiple profiles with pictures of random objects or fake pictures. But it doesn't keep me from meeting new people. I have amazing gut radars I can count on.
Not me, I'm a complete moron. I'll meet someone, I'll think she's cute, she says "Oh, good, I don't want kids either!" and I'll think, "Wow, let's see where this goes." Three months later, like clockwork (is this what they mean when they're talking about their "biological clock"?), they suddenly start screaming "I NEED A BAY-BEE!!" every six seconds. I should have learned by now, right? After this happened like 90 times in a row? But no. hmm, that's because women can be extremely manipulative. the ones you're talking about know exactly what you want to hear. she thinks that when you fall in love with her you'll make an exception for her.
i figure it's safer if i contact people even though that's not really me. except there is no one there to contact.
Well, see, that's my whole problem. It appears there are only two types of women in the world: 1.) those who want kids and are honest and up-front about it, and 2.) those who want kids but won't admit it if/when it interferes withe their immediate agenda. They'll only admit it once they think it's safe to do so. I understand about the "no one to contact" thing, too. When I look at the profiles of the locals, everybody either has kids or wants kids, or the profiles are simply incomprehensible. I always knew I didn't want kids but no one believed me and treated me like I've got issues for choosing not to be a parent. So there are women who really don't, but they're probably far far away. |
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My scammer is someone who knows me in real life and has followed me to the forums here from another site. He has multiple profiles with pictures of random objects or fake pictures. But it doesn't keep me from meeting new people. I have amazing gut radars I can count on.
Not me, I'm a complete moron. I'll meet someone, I'll think she's cute, she says "Oh, good, I don't want kids either!" and I'll think, "Wow, let's see where this goes." Three months later, like clockwork (is this what they mean when they're talking about their "biological clock"?), they suddenly start screaming "I NEED A BAY-BEE!!" every six seconds. I should have learned by now, right? After this happened like 90 times in a row? But no. hmm, that's because women can be extremely manipulative. the ones you're talking about know exactly what you want to hear. she thinks that when you fall in love with her you'll make an exception for her.
i figure it's safer if i contact people even though that's not really me. except there is no one there to contact.
Well, see, that's my whole problem. It appears there are only two types of women in the world: 1.) those who want kids and are honest and up-front about it, and 2.) those who want kids but won't admit it if/when it interferes withe their immediate agenda. They'll only admit it once they think it's safe to do so. I understand about the "no one to contact" thing, too. When I look at the profiles of the locals, everybody either has kids or wants kids, or the profiles are simply incomprehensible. I always knew I didn't want kids but no one believed me and treated me like I've got issues for choosing not to be a parent. So there are women who really don't, but they're probably far far away. Or they miraculously change their minds 90 days after meeting me. |
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If you stick with postmenupausal women then it will be a "non-issue".
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