Do you all think it's right for a woman or anyone for that matter to play with someones feelings by saying your interested in them,talk to them a couple times and for no reason,stop replying back to you.

No , I think its always easier just to say you are only looking for friends, not to leave someone hanging. thats yuck

this is true

if I am talking someone locally in private messaging and they don't ask me out - I will usually move on and not say much more about it - after all I am not going to TELL him to ask me out



it's touch and go tho
some people get offended if u ask to meet too soon, while others diss u if you don't ask after a few messages

I look at it like compatability IRL - if it's meant to be it'll happen

if someone can play with your feelings after just chatting a few times you might want to consider taking a good look at your personal boundaries.

I was having back and forth e-mails with someone and we were even going to take that next step to meet and do something together. Not sure what happened, haven't heard from her in well over a month. No bigee, this is a dating site and there are a lot of people to sort through.

THATS the Internet man...MANY DO THIS,,,as for what your saying..A couple of times??,,,HELL,,it takes about twenty emails just to have an idea if YOU want them to be a FRIEND of yours,,,IF they never talk in the forums...
I can't tell you how many I have had do me that way,,BUT ALSO,,I have done THIS,sort-of(never mis-lead, just stopped talking),after only two or three times talking...SEE,,,THATS how one LEARNS IF,,,there is ANY FRIENDLY FEELINGS AS TO THEM AND YOU HAVING ANY OF THE SAME IDEAS OR THOUGHTS,,,To make you both know your kind-of cool in their eyes and them in your own..and YOU WANT to TRY a Friendship and learn more as you joke and talk to each other...
NOW,,,if you want to REALLY FEEL an ISSUE with being strung-on..
Then allow you BOTH to share a month in talking or like fifty emails or three hours of phone calls,,,,THEN,,,have ONE say THEY REALLY,,LIKE YOU,
and LEAD you to REALLY THINK and FEEL,,,THEY DO...because THEY have told YOU THAT,,,MANY.MANY TIMES....
Then have THEM,,,just walk away,,,THATS' WRONG,,,and their cowards if THEY DO THAT TO YOU,,,Male or Female,,,because ANYONES TIME SPENT AND SHARED TOGETHER,,,,,SHOULD MEAN A SMALL AMOUNT OF TRUST,,NOT TO DO "THAT"
because WE HAVE ALL,,,been done wrong and through that we learn NOT TO DO THAT!

I could write a book on BAD experineces,,on the Net,,as well as ALL THE GOOD ONES....its a give and take,,and when you just KNOW,,their straight up and honest,,or their MAYBE just playing with ya,,and hold no REAL promises as someone who WOULD BE MORE,,with you in life...?
I once had a lady COME ON HERE,,,meaning,,SHE BECOME A MEMBER HERE,,,
ONLY FOR ONE REASON,,,To PLAY WITH MY MIND AND HEART,,AND MAKE ME SEE HER.
And then to GIVE ME ALL HER INTERESTS,,,JUST TO TRY AND HURT ME!
She made a false profile,,,from her pics,(five of them) t6o her State and town, to ALL she wrote in her profile and to ALL OF THE OVER A HUNDRED EMAILS WE SHARED ON HERE....
She did ALL THIS BECAUSE she and a few friends came on here one night and was TRYING to find this dude who DUMPED her friend,,,well while THEY were looking for him,,,they seen my pic through a post I was in,,
they viewed my profile and read it,,,well,,as it REFERED to my likes and dis-likes in a woman,,,who I might want to date...
I had said I prefered slim to average ladies,,not real BIG ladies.
As one of her friends was HEAVY,,,she got angry at me saying THAT..
And they ALL rolled with THE IDEA TO SET ME UP AND FK WITH ME..
It was two years ago,,and it was started in Nov, and went all the way to Christmas Eve,,,,,,and when I would not tell her what SHE was wanting me to say,,(me feeling I loved her)as SHE was all about hinting THAT to me,,
Well,,when I said I could NEVER know that through emails or phones,,THAT was an IN PERSON ONLY knowing and SAYING to another person,,,THEN
and I mean,,RIGHT THEN,,,she Sent me one last email telling me THE WHOLE STORY,,and her last sentence in it read,,,
By this time I have already deactivated my profile and your never hear from me again,,all of me was made-up,,,and I'm sorry they made me do this..
I was like WTF???????????????
And just thought,,OMG,,,all of our times typing to one another,,and many hours spent,,learning lies,,,wow,,,for WHAT?
Her friend got p-issed at something I wrote in my profile...
ONLY ON THIS INTERNET MAN!!!!!
You never know anymore,,at least,,I don't....Good Luck..

Why cant someone be interested at first, and as the get to know you or how you communicate decide they arnt interested anymore? To me its better than stringing someone along for money or sex, then when they got enough, or all, they drop you like a glass bottle.

I believe, when time has been taken to communicate, time should be taken to resolve the communication...

People are on Mingle2 for a variety of
different reasons. You should never make
the assumption that what they want is
exactly what you want.
Ask.
Early on.

I tell everyone that I am open to ONLY
friendship.
Some listen.
Some don't. Then they get booty hurt.

I might suggest you take it less
personally.
And be upfront, yourself.

I think that for someone to stop replying to other's mail is completely insane.For example: i have contacted many ladies on this site with a proposal for a relationship or dating.Most of them are willing to go further in knowing me and they just stop replying me along the way without any reason.I have also contacted two ladies with a prosal and they reply me back saying that i'm asking for what is they are not looking for.I told them that i'm happy they replied me and i prayed that they find what they do look for.Ladies i know that most guys may reply you saying all sorts of abusive words to you just because you told him the truth,but some may not.Please don't just stop replying to emails without giving any reason,you can tell/her your reason of stoping to reply to the email,i think that would be fine.

Had the same experience this very weekend.
Not sure what happened...his IM profile deleted..no answer to email...oh well
NEXT

Okay..so as I was typing this..no $hit...
he IM's me....

gotta love the fates

I hate that when women leaving men hanging. The least they could do is cut him down after a few hours. I know some people like trophies but I think that is going too far. But each to their own I guess. I have enough trouble cleaning up my own messes.

NO!!!...that is inconsiderate and just rude...if someone is not interested they should be mature/adult enough to say so...this is not only a problem for guys but for women as well...so it's not a gender thing it's a character issue...if you say you're going to do something then do it...if you feel that things aren't going to work out then just tell the other person...i think we have all dealt with this type of person at least one time or another where they just leave you hanging...i know i have and it sucks too

Booty hurt? So you make their azzes hurt when they don't listen? Sounds proactive.

Wow! Sorry you went through that with the false profile and all Iam4U

I have had something similar also with a too good to be true profile. After time of messages, emails and Skype by voice come to find out the person was of different age, name and color. The fact he lied about all these important little things was a deal breaker for me and I have told him so. I could not trust him after that and he couldn't understand why I just didn't give him another chance.

Now I have chatted with a person recently, that he just stopped messaging. I had a feeling he was interested in someone else, and I did ask him right out if he had another interest to just let me know so he and I wouldn't waste our time. He said he didn't but after a few weeks he just stopped.

One of these days all will work out

Exactly.

Curiosity satisfied. Take the hint and move on.

Is it alright/ok, no. Is it what is accepted/done, yes. I have had this happen to me and will admit I have done the same thing. Its simply a way of letting someone know your not interested without actually saying anything. Who really wants to hear rejection? I don't. I can take a hint. If i get no response I just move on.

I have actually gone the other way and told someone I was not interested and the guy proceeded to rip me a new one for being honest.

I agree with this. It's "human" of us to do this. Sometimes, when we have the desire, and the will power to be honest, we go that route. And a lot of times when we do this, we still get hurt. Which is what leads to us going the other way...just not responding, or disappearing, or whatever you want to call it. It is human of us to do. We all suck. LOL!

Yup, what she said.