Why is it when I see profiles of women seeking 'successful' men does my Gold Digger Alarm go off?

It isn't just me is it? I mean doesn't that just smack of a woman looking for an easy way out? Hunt down a rich husband who will take care of them so they don't have to work?

Hell, it took me 45 years to achieve what my father could not. I am now starting to taste success and I am supposed to share all my years of hard work with someone who just walks into the picture? Well, how about me meeting a successful woman? Now am I a Gold Digger?

Please tell me in am not just being an opinionated jerk here!

To me at least seeing, "I am looking for a successful man" or anything to that effect is saying to me, "I am a worthless lazy person who is not successful seeking someone to take care of me since I don't have a job or life and just want your money. If you don't have a lot of money you are worthless mister."

So what constitutes "Success?" Mommy and daddy die and leave you a fortune you didn't to have to earn? Or does us guys have to have the look to be successful? Hell, isn't having a job and a life enough?

/climbs soapbox/

Yes and no. I am definately leary of anyone who says that, particularly if they start out thier profile that way.

But I imagine for most women by "sucess" they probqbly DO mean "Have a job and a life"

(I'm going to generalize here, sorry)
Women don't want to be with a man who is an unemployed, unambitious, lump, any more that we want a womsn with those same qualities. Gold digging men DO exist,and I think a lot of women are worried about being taken advantage of as well. (True, some females will date pondscum in the hopes that hey can change him, but typically, hese are GIRLS not real WOMEN IMO)


But if these women are gold diggers then I have only this to say:
I have a great job. I'm one of the lucky few who actually achieved their childhood dream. I had to bust my *** to get there, and I continue to bust my *** to keep it, but I have no large sums of money stashed away. I do Okay, but I'm not making "Fat dollars". I love what I do, I pay the bills by doing it, I set it as a goal, and by Crom i battled to achieve it.
I call that sucessful regardless of my lack of net worth.

any woman who thinks otherwise can go to hell.

/gets off soapbox/

It's like I've always said if ya ain't got movie starnlooks and bank account seems just about all the people on here don't want nothing to do with ya. Let alone have any kind of common curiosity to even return a message even to just say F$$$ Off don't bother me. But this is just my opinion from what I've seen on here......

To me:

A man who isn't an alcoholic is a success

Really...cause I'll never do it again!

Just have a good ole job. Don't care what it is

Live a clean life
Be a man...........


Your a success to me!!

J...

Have you tried JammerGrl....she is a hot country lady and probably more impatient than you bro. You two would be perfect....the trick is gonna be catching her online...cause if you dont reply to her in less than 10 seconds she gets ticked off and disappears. (I have actually been trying to steer you two towards each other but ya'll both shoot in and out like hummingbirds on crack)

Well "successful" can mean all sorts of things. Instead of assuming, I'd actually ask the person what that word meant to them. I guess that's just the courteous and respectful thing to do.

I've had guys get offended by my asking what they do for a living. I don't ask because I want your money....I ask because I like knowing about what another person does (it can tell you a lot about them sometimes) and hey, yeah, I'm sorry I'd like it if you were employed! Even unemployed because of the economy but looking for a job is fine...shows they DO want to work! It's not all about money for most women geez....

OP, sounds like you're a little paranoid about gold diggers.

To me, successful can mean a lot. It means they have goals and can support themselves. This is much more attractive than someone who settles for some minimum wage job that will go nowhere and relies on someone else for financial support.

So true!

I so agree...

I can see why it might be construed as "gold digger" but hopefully they just mean it as you explained it..

I'm with Sing.. I I can't respect a man that would expect me to support him...


Krupa as always you slay me...

Ohhhh hell line up guys I want one that will support me while I sit at home and play on the computer. I will cook but ya must high a maid to clean house and wash the dishes... For I want have time with my busy schedule!!!

Guess that would depend on your definition of successful now woudlnt it.....a person can be successful with famlial......yes profession.....faithfully......postive attitude wise........in lovemaking......what things can you think of where a person could be successful......successful at avoiding marriage successful with their marriage but they are widowed.....successful at giving multiple orgasms

successful is in the eye of the beholder

I have this thing about successful men.... they really aren't much good for much if they aren't....

































...successful at being men!

I live in Los Angeles, the land of the superficial. Where I work half the women will not even say hi to me when I say hi to them. They just look at me and walk past me like I am some leper. All they see is a construction worker but what thy don't know is I am a Frikken Engineer and Biologist and the guy bringing their company greater imaging! At least the people who count know and appreciate my efforts! Now if they can just see their way to tossing me a bone (bonus) especially if I am done a week ahead of everyone else I will know I am really appreciated!!! This job was like running a marathon pulling a red wagon filled with children!

What I will think is funny is when they want to see what is going on in MY lab there and I tell them to get the hell out of MY lab! That should lift an eyebrow or two! Outside of immediate employees there are only about four or five people I would not toss out of my lab unless they had an appointment! What is even funnier is that I am not a Sketchers employee. I am a contract employee. Even if they do make more than me I still am tossing unwanted visitors out of my lab no matter how good looking they are or think they are! I know who has been curtious to me and who hasn't. Stuck up people piss me off! I so want to show them what the pimp hand is for. And I do keep it strong!

So, because of these women, you think any women who prefers successful men are actually gold diggers? Other than that, I can't really see what all this has to do with your topic. Several women here have said what they mean by successful, so as you can see, we don't all think the way you seem to expect us to think.

No, I am citing personal observations. I get out of Los Angeles and the women are so different. Some of the women where I work actually a friendly enough to say Hi back at least. It isn't like I am trying to talk to them becasue I got a lot of work to do. I don't like to "piss where I eat," but a little common courtesy goes a long way.

Now for another observation, I see many women looking for successful men but when I read their profiles on this site for what little they have to say and then look at the pics they post I can make some observations about how they carry themselves. For one is if they dress like one of the Beautiful people AKA celebrities and are not they are fakers living a lifestyle that is a shallow lie anyways. These folks love to spend money and in most instances don't have enough of their own money to spend.

Frankly in life one person makes more money than another. Women looking down on a man because he makes less than her is shallow. If he is a jobless looser (cough cough House Husband) that watches TV all day or god forbid just gets fuqued up all day and does not take care of the house and the kids he is a DEADBEAT LOOSER just for the record! Women like this are likewise WORTHLESS! I hate double standards. I also don't care for worthless people. I will admit my views and opinions may be warped or skewed but hey, life does play favorites. It is an uphill battle for the rest of us. I work for affluent people and thankfully I work for those who came from humble roots themselves. How is it a billionaire will talk to me like any other person but some high dollar designer can't even just say hi?

Please, is my perspective fuqued up or am I in an environment that is filled with too many shallow people and I am building a generalization of my immediate environment that seems to include everywhere else??? Like I said, I get out of LA and things seem so different for me. At least us "Construction workers" (COUGH COUGH! Yeah, I'm just a construction worker ) have common courtesy among all of us.

Frankly there are a lot of male behaviors that I find embarrassing and I find that most of us knuckle draggers want to be the Alpha male and hold sway on all the available females. I know of many men who live off of their wives and I find that appalling. Women talk about having to give things up for their kids but I notice a lot that men who give up work to take care of kids while their wives work and they keep the house (and I don't mean just picking things up but actually taking care of the house!) can fall into bad standing because he s not bringing home the bacon too. Frankly there is a tremendous difference between a deadbeat and a man taking care of business at home. When you have young kids they must have a lot of attention for their own protection or am I wrong? So when a man fills a position of role reversal suddenly he is less of a man? I see a hypocritical double standard going on here. I would like to know if I am wrong on this observation as well.

Don't get me wrong. I am trying to sort out a lot here. I guess one good question I could ask is what the hell happened to common courtesy? I feel like so many people have forgotten that one day I might be the person saving their lives? I really do try to think like that about other people (that one day they might save my life) but the more I learn about humans the more confused I get as to how we have survived as a species for so long? Hell, money gets to so many people's heads. There is indeed more to life than money!

Heck, I now feel like I am wasting my time being here with so many (cough cough) well to do women looking for a successful "guys."

I am just one of those poor bastards who struggles for success. Finally I can taste it. Like the hunting lion, that Impalla I am chasing, I am so close to it I am swatting at its feet and when I knock it down GOBBLE GOBBLE! I am not letting this one get away!!!



And should I manage to not fuque that up for myself how should that make me feel any different about a woman looking for a successful guy? I would be happy with a decent looking woman with a good heart and real talent. I am not looking for a "Successful" woman to loach off of. When at work I am not trying to go Glen Quagmire! Usually I am buried in some god forsaken armpit of the building or behind a curtain wall. And then I log on to this site and see all these womens' profiles and so many of them and I mean a disproportionate number of them are women seeking "successful" guys. Now what does that say? God I know I am long winded but I see a depth to this that speaks volumes about human nature and my analytical nature is just going bonkers! Just the raw observation value alone! A social Psychologist should be finding this valuable data.

Back in cave man days a successful man was one who brought home dead animals. Now a days he gots' to have the house on the hill, the Bently, Geeves, and the bling.

Now at the end of all of this all I can say is I am an opinionated bastard. I will freely admit that. BUT I also am a work horse and I am not paid enough for what I do but I at least have done what many in my field have failed to do! That is stay employed. I struggle but it is my struggle. If I had a GF's economy to back mine I would be doing GREAT but the fact is I am pulling my weight barely in tough times. If that is not success then frankly everyone who feels otherwise can lick the sweat from the back of my hairy nut sack!

GOD HOW GOOD IT FELT SAYING THAT!

For those women who like us "(COUGH COUGH) Old Work Horses..."

This old horse has a mane to be tossing around New Year's eve!

So who's got their riding boots on?


HELL YES!

Although I would never ask for a successful man,
After having two husbands who would rather me look after them than get off their own bums, I would really appreciate a man who will work.
I dont care if he owns anything, but i do care about his principles.

So for me I would want a worker, someone who knows how to sweatand work his butt off, Not so much an office boy, someone who doesnt drink or smoke and someone who will love me.. So easy

That is my criteria

That is the most honest thing I have seen written yet! It is women like you that give me just a tiny bit of hope for mankind!

Now don't get happy people, I said a TINY bit of hope!

One thing that killed the whole relationship concept as I knew it was having a GF with kids and swallowing a lot of responsibility that was not mine. Just taxiing kids to and from school wreaked havoc with my work schedule. Then there was the loss of income when I had to take time off of work to run kids somewhere or pick them up. Worst was being the poor bastard who was improving the house and not getting paid taking me away from more work that did pay. Now don't get me wrong. In that situation I had weight to pull and some of it was not mine. It also came with a financial burden to me and cost me income. I did it for love but it wasn't enough. There is always the ever present need for more.

I think one serious problem I would have is being involved with someone who was able to live the higher lifestyle and then there would be the expectation that I would have to "fit the image" when I would loose my income to it. Or even worst is the animosity when I would have some huge job like the one I got now and I am working all the time. It would be one thing to knowingly become involved with me and her telling me to quit my job because she will take care of me so WE can have fun together rather than her deciding she is going to say Hawaii and I can't go becasue I have a job I have to work and suddenly I am a fuqued up bastard and she hates me because I put work in front of her! I am so SICK and tired of having my responsibility treated like an inconvenience!

Believe me, I would LOVE to be able to live a life where I didn't have to work and could devote my time to being an artist again. I live to create. But the bills do not pay themselves and I want to make something respectable of myself. I cannot do that as a dog on a leash and there are men who will live like that so long as they don't have to work (toil). As long as they can be pampered and preened and wear the finest cloths and drive a BMW what do they care? Likewise being beholdant to another person is WEAK! Men who live pampered lived under women who are wealthy are so disrespectable to me. These men typically prey on the loneliness of wealthy but dysfunctional women anyways. These are women who can't handle a real man because a real man CAN walk away from money!



But in the same breath pampered women are weak and to me essentially worthless. Very few have any talent and they let it waste away since they have no need to further themselves. In the world of Wolves even the females have to kill to eat.






Everyone wants to sit on the top of the mountain but the problem is there isn't much room at the top.

losers need love to

Hell yeah! Damn that makes a song come to mind.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z5KWI71s3DY



Little River Band rocks!