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Life was so much easier without texting! Anybody agree or am I just an old fart! |
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well i hate to repeat myself (ok, not really) but this is what happens when people enter relationships under the false pretences of a friends with benefits arrangement. you clearly want more and it is clear he may have as well....ie, the i love you. the problem here is that the two of you became comfortable "not" talking about your feelings. and when he did your reaction was akin to hitting him on the head with a hammer. you hurt him and now he is in self-protect mode. this game of text and seek is completely destructive, someone here has to grow some balls and put it out there, again. you may not get the answer you want or even the one you might have gotten that night, but knowing is much better than not. 
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Edited by
kc0003
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Thu 09/16/10 11:54 PM
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well i hate to repeat myself (ok, not really) but this is what happens when people enter relationships under the false pretences of a friends with benefits arrangement. you clearly want more and it is clear he may have as well....ie, the i love you. the problem here is that the two of you became comfortable "not" talking about your feelings. and when he did your reaction was akin to hitting him on the head with a hammer. you hurt him and now he is in self-protect mode. this game of text and seek is completely destructive, someone here has to grow some balls and put it out there, again. you may not get the answer you want or even the one you might have gotten that night, but knowing is much better than not.
i agree, however, in this case she is responsible for her actions and he, his. yes communication goes both ways and there is a very clear communication breakdown here, but she cannot control his lack of, only her own. sometimes we have to open doors for others to walk through and when he tried, she kind of slammed it on him. this is why i believe she has to be the one to reopen it. no matter the outcome... this is how he felt at that moment... Awkward Pause Oh, god Why did I say that Why When will I ever learn to just keep my mouth shut This awkward feeling between hush and possible rejection Between breathing and suffocation Anticipation Desperation Expectation Hopefulness It all comes to a head… Here and now in the shadow of my exposure In the midst of this stifling quiet The little specs of yellow in your eyes are burning me Like the magnified sun of a seemingly innocent childhood experiment with an ant hill and a piece of glass, but the thought was launched its sink or swim do or die somebody please kill me… Before these knots in my stomach turn me inside out This, this, This, transference of power… This, leap from the safety of my self contained hid-a-way whose walls only yesterday were thought to be impenetrable Now to be standing here engulfed by this uncomfortable loss of poise At the mercy of another soul searching for the end of loneliness Is it my sanctuary you seek my heart where you will find comfort or does it cease today because i spoke out of turn Put my body naked in the middle of a most desolate tract Stand unprotected in the sandstorm of your silence Say something, anything… kc'08 |
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well i hate to repeat myself (ok, not really) but this is what happens when people enter relationships under the false pretences of a friends with benefits arrangement. you clearly want more and it is clear he may have as well....ie, the i love you. the problem here is that the two of you became comfortable "not" talking about your feelings. and when he did your reaction was akin to hitting him on the head with a hammer. you hurt him and now he is in self-protect mode. this game of text and seek is completely destructive, someone here has to grow some balls and put it out there, again. you may not get the answer you want or even the one you might have gotten that night, but knowing is much better than not.
i agree, however, in this case she is responsible for her actions and he, his. yes communication goes both ways and there is a very clear communication breakdown here, but she cannot control his lack of, only her own. sometimes we have to open doors for others to walk through and when he tried, she kind of slammed it on him. this is why i believe she has to be the one to reopen it. no matter the outcome... this is how he felt at that moment... Awkward Pause Oh, god Why did I say that Why When will I ever learn to just keep my mouth shut This awkward feeling between hush and possible rejection Between breathing and suffocation Anticipation Desperation Expectation Hopefulness It all comes to a head… Here and now in the shadow of my exposure In the midst of this stifling quiet The little specs of yellow in your eyes are burning me Like the magnified sun of a seemingly innocent childhood experiment with an ant hill and a piece of glass, but the thought was launched its sink or swim do or die somebody please kill me… Before these knots in my stomach turn me inside out This, this, This, transference of power… This, leap from the safety of my self contained hid-a-way whose walls only yesterday were thought to be impenetrable Now to be standing here engulfed by this uncomfortable loss of poise At the mercy of another soul searching for the end of loneliness Is it my sanctuary you seek my heart where you will find comfort or does it cease today because i spoke out of turn Put my body naked in the middle of a most desolate tract Stand unprotected in the sandstorm of your silence Say something, anything… kc'08 |
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lmao so kick me in the *** again!
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oh sorry.....
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Edited by
buttons
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Fri 09/17/10 12:04 AM
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oh sorry..... lol dont be!! hugs
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Wow KC, that was awesome. Thank you for that, I've never had anyone write anything like that for me to help me. I appreciate it. :) I never thought a man could feel that way about me. <3
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Sunday night, this guy who I have been hanging out with, comes over to watch tv with me, we were talking about the VMA's and stuff. Well he starts talking, and he seems nervous, not able to finish sentences, and messing up his words, then out of nowhere he says, "I Love you." I looked at him and said, "What?" He just said he didn't mean to say that, he meant to say he loves Eminem. (The rapper) Do men say that by accident? I wouldn't think so. What is going on? Also he said that he'd be there for me, and kept asking if I was committed to the relationship we have. Please help. first i'd say that not all men have getting laid as a motive!.lol Since you say you've been friends for awhile, my guess would be that he's feeling like he's having stronger feelings for you now. It may not be love but he probably thinks about being in something more with you alot, he was probably thinking about this for awhile and was very nervous when he made the decision to address the issue with you that night. Being nervous is probably what caused him to use the word love or maybe he does? His nervousness along with your reaction to his "presentation" of the idea caused him to give the excuse of loving the rapper as i'm sure he doesn't want to put a damper on your friendship or loose it, too much thinking went into this on his part..lol Here's what you should do! Whether you feel you want to persue something more or not with him, you should bring up the topic to him again yourself. Let him know that there was nothing wrong with the thought and that it's ok to have them, once you've helped him feel more comfortable with everything again it would be a good time to discuss your true feelings and what ever views you have towards him and the friendship. |
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Wow KC, that was awesome. Thank you for that, I've never had anyone write anything like that for me to help me. I appreciate it. :) I never thought a man could feel that way about me. <3 if he doesn't, find one that does! accept nothing less! |
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Edited by
red_lace
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Fri 09/17/10 09:50 AM
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this is how he felt at that moment... Awkward Pause Oh, god Why did I say that Why When will I ever learn to just keep my mouth shut This awkward feeling between hush and possible rejection Between breathing and suffocation Anticipation Desperation Expectation Hopefulness It all comes to a head… Here and now in the shadow of my exposure In the midst of this stifling quiet The little specs of yellow in your eyes are burning me Like the magnified sun of a seemingly innocent childhood experiment with an ant hill and a piece of glass, but the thought was launched its sink or swim do or die somebody please kill me… Before these knots in my stomach turn me inside out This, this, This, transference of power… This, leap from the safety of my self contained hid-a-way whose walls only yesterday were thought to be impenetrable Now to be standing here engulfed by this uncomfortable loss of poise At the mercy of another soul searching for the end of loneliness Is it my sanctuary you seek my heart where you will find comfort or does it cease today because i spoke out of turn Put my body naked in the middle of a most desolate tract Stand unprotected in the sandstorm of your silence Say something, anything… kc'08 maybe she will be able to see on hindsight, the train of sunsets caught against the backdrop of that distant mountaintop of craven, wordless, longings, pieces of insight nestled between spontaneous lines like embers of moon burning their last into the palms of his hands. there, he treasures her words… there, his soul, cherishes her with a sadness as eternal as all he knows of beauty, knowing how his regard was as fleeting as life’s hold at time… saying goodbye for the night, and, for all he knows, for once and for all, when an eternity ago, another soul seemed, so in tune with his own, when all of understanding lay before two, when all of possibility was only another word away. |
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maybe she will be able to see on hindsight, the train of sunsets caught against the backdrop of that distant mountaintop of craven, wordless, longings, pieces of insight nestled between spontaneous lines like embers of moon burning their last into the palms of his hands. there, he treasures her words… there, his soul, cherishes her with a sadness as eternal as all he knows of beauty, knowing how his regard was as fleeting as life’s hold at time… saying goodbye for the night, and, for all he knows, for once and for all, when an eternity ago, another soul seemed, so in tune with his own, when all of understanding lay before two, when all of possibility was only another word away. 
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Wow, red_lace, that was pretty cool. Thank you.
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So, for his birthday, I'm gonna bake a cake, and I got him a movie that will finish his collection, and I'm taking him to a museum I know he wants to go to. Does that sound good? Is it not personal enough?
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well, havent heard from him since last night...
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he just texted me, saying he fell asleep last night.
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Ok... We texted each other a lil bit tonight, and I was chatting with my cuz on facebook, well, I have friends who are friends with him, (I recently asked him if I could add him as a friend on facebook and he said yes) well, he hasn't added me yet, but I know he was on tonight cuz I got an update saying "so and so is friends with so and so" I never got accepted by him! I even wrote him, and got nothing back! The only thing he did was make his profile less private, still cant look at pictures, but that is it. What a ****ing dick wad! WTF! Why did he do that?
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Edited by
kc0003
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Fri 09/17/10 10:52 PM
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Ok... We texted each other a lil bit tonight, and I was chatting with my cuz on facebook, well, I have friends who are friends with him, (I recently asked him if I could add him as a friend on facebook and he said yes) well, he hasn't added me yet, but I know he was on tonight cuz I got an update saying "so and so is friends with so and so" I never got accepted by him! I even wrote him, and got nothing back! The only thing he did was make his profile less private, still cant look at pictures, but that is it. What a ****ing dick wad! WTF! Why did he do that? why don't you try actually "talking"...."texting" and "facebook" are just social networking and they each have their limitations where communication it concerned.... |
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Ok... We texted each other a lil bit tonight, and I was chatting with my cuz on facebook, well, I have friends who are friends with him, (I recently asked him if I could add him as a friend on facebook and he said yes) well, he hasn't added me yet, but I know he was on tonight cuz I got an update saying "so and so is friends with so and so" I never got accepted by him! I even wrote him, and got nothing back! The only thing he did was make his profile less private, still cant look at pictures, but that is it. What a ****ing dick wad! WTF! Why did he do that? It's hard to give advice on this one..not sure about the timing of the events, don't jump to conclusions yet. |
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Ok... We texted each other a lil bit tonight, and I was chatting with my cuz on facebook, well, I have friends who are friends with him, (I recently asked him if I could add him as a friend on facebook and he said yes) well, he hasn't added me yet, but I know he was on tonight cuz I got an update saying "so and so is friends with so and so" I never got accepted by him! I even wrote him, and got nothing back! The only thing he did was make his profile less private, still cant look at pictures, but that is it. What a ****ing dick wad! WTF! Why did he do that? 
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