Topic: Wow, I can't believe he said that...
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Sat 09/18/10 09:10 PM
Why are you so insistent on driving yourself crazy with this?

He told you how he felt, you balked, now you are sitting back waiting for him to spill it again? Waiting for him to open up to you again. All the while, you have not explained to him in an open and concise manner your own feelings?

I just don’t get this at all. You can sleep with him, but you can’t tell him how you feel! What is that? Stop with the games…the texting and the facebook…pick up the phone and call him! Have a conversation with him. Let him know how you feel…if he tells you he has changed his mind or that he doesn’t want the same thing, at least you will know where you stand and can move on to someone more worthy of your attention. On the other hand, if he is happy about it then the two of you can begin to figure it out together. Either way you get resolution.

Or you can keep making yourself sexually available to him, not get your other needs met and hope that one day he will wake up and realize he needs you. That seems to have work out pretty well for thus far.

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Sat 09/18/10 09:58 PM

Why are you so insistent on driving yourself crazy with this?

He told you how he felt, you balked, now you are sitting back waiting for him to spill it again? Waiting for him to open up to you again. All the while, you have not explained to him in an open and concise manner your own feelings?

I just don’t get this at all. You can sleep with him, but you can’t tell him how you feel! What is that? Stop with the games…the texting and the facebook…pick up the phone and call him! Have a conversation with him. Let him know how you feel…if he tells you he has changed his mind or that he doesn’t want the same thing, at least you will know where you stand and can move on to someone more worthy of your attention. On the other hand, if he is happy about it then the two of you can begin to figure it out together. Either way you get resolution.

Or you can keep making yourself sexually available to him, not get your other needs met and hope that one day he will wake up and realize he needs you. That seems to have work out pretty well for thus far.



Thank you, I know, I'm just so scared of rejection. I get it too much

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Sat 09/18/10 10:48 PM


Why are you so insistent on driving yourself crazy with this?

He told you how he felt, you balked, now you are sitting back waiting for him to spill it again? Waiting for him to open up to you again. All the while, you have not explained to him in an open and concise manner your own feelings?

I just don’t get this at all. You can sleep with him, but you can’t tell him how you feel! What is that? Stop with the games…the texting and the facebook…pick up the phone and call him! Have a conversation with him. Let him know how you feel…if he tells you he has changed his mind or that he doesn’t want the same thing, at least you will know where you stand and can move on to someone more worthy of your attention. On the other hand, if he is happy about it then the two of you can begin to figure it out together. Either way you get resolution.

Or you can keep making yourself sexually available to him, not get your other needs met and hope that one day he will wake up and realize he needs you. That seems to have work out pretty well for thus far.



Thank you, I know, I'm just so scared of rejection. I get it too much





i get it...it does suck, but at least with rejection you know where you stand. that has to be better than what you are going through now.

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Sat 09/18/10 10:54 PM
Jessica, we all get it hun, and we usually don't know why it happens or keeps happening but just know it is most likely because something better is in store for you. . . it just hasn't arrived yet. Like a pre-ordered copy of your favorite series, in the meantime you just have to deal with the re-runs.

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Sun 09/19/10 08:08 AM

Jessica, we all get it hun, and we usually don't know why it happens or keeps happening but just know it is most likely because something better is in store for you. . . it just hasn't arrived yet. Like a pre-ordered copy of your favorite series, in the meantime you just have to deal with the re-runs.
:laughing: as usual you have a great attitude about these things

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Sun 09/19/10 04:27 PM
FB probe? um Federal Bureau of nutz? we all get there sometimes.pitchfork

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Sun 09/19/10 04:57 PM

FB probe? um Federal Bureau of nutz? we all get there sometimes.pitchfork


LOL, Facebook

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Sun 09/19/10 06:23 PM
Can't tell who is the bigger player. The guy for dropping the "L" word then being a flake about it or the OP for playing like she is all into him passing out the booty and yet can't decide if she cares enough to get serious and risk rejection. It is all superficial BS in my book so nobody gets to complain about getting short sheeted.

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Sun 09/19/10 06:27 PM

So no one can help me with the FB prob?



I think your problem goes waaaaaay beyond FB sweety...

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Sun 09/19/10 06:37 PM

Ok, quick question, he didn't add me as a friend, but I can now see more on his profile, it used to be I couldn't see anything, too private. I thought he just changed it for everyone to see it like that, but a friend said she was looking at his profile, and she couldn't see anything at all. I'm confused, how can I see more but she can't, ????


He lowered the privacy settings just for you. For some reason not adding you (maybe he isn't FB savvy either) he figured he just sets the privacy controls down a few notches just for you.
If he is good at FB, there might be a reason he didn't add you..not sure what..doesn't want his friends know that he is dating you or something...I can't tell..I can only guess. Good luck!

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Sun 09/19/10 08:41 PM
Ok, so we were chatting for a little bit today, just about his hockey game and such, then out of nowhere he texts me saying:
"So dont get all crazy! Just want to be friends."
I say:
"What are you talking about? Where did that come from?"
He says:
"Sorry, forget about it. it's cool."
I say:
"ok... I thought we were friends. lol."

Then we start talking bout hockey and such again.

What was that all about?

My friend says that he might have said that because:
A. He feels rejected and wants to be the first to reject
B. He doesn't want me ne more

???

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Sun 09/19/10 08:49 PM
you should start your own blog....

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Sun 09/19/10 08:50 PM
I think I called this one last week. I felt he was not into you like you wanted. And, pretty much, this is what he is telling you.

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Sun 09/19/10 08:54 PM
Then what was that whole, "I love you" thing?

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Sun 09/19/10 08:56 PM

Then what was that whole, "I love you" thing?




it was a missed opportunity...also known as a "lesson"
now it is up to you decide what you will learn from it...

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Sun 09/19/10 08:58 PM
What KC said. But to add to it, I mentioned it was his way of wanting to not see you with another dude, so he said it. Once he figured he had you, well......he figured out that he really didn't want to be with you. I know....it's messed up. But it is a game that men and women do play.

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Sun 09/19/10 09:01 PM
Ok, he's being a dick now, I'm ****ing done with this ****. How dare he ****ing text me and make me cry!!!!!!

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Sun 09/19/10 09:06 PM
Is this convo supposed to make sense?:
Me: "do you still wanna hang out sometime?"

Mike:"who"

Me: ? You

Mike: of course not

me: its hard to convey sarcasm thru txt, so I dont know if your serious or not

Mike: Find out what a jimmey cagney love scene means

me: Where he lets the other guy live?

mike: k

me: is that it? I'm confused
Was that supposed to answer my question?

Mike: He might survive if your cool.

mike: ok if

Me: wow, I didn't think I could get ne more confused, but I just did. Ok if what?

Mike: chill. please!!!

me: ok...?

Mike: Not Drunk


???????????

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Sun 09/19/10 09:09 PM
Oh, and earlier I asked him if he was drunk, that's where that last part came from

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Sun 09/19/10 09:18 PM
ah drunk texting. if only cellular telephones came with one of those devices they put on cars where you have to pass a breathalizer test in order to operate it.