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Topic: Teacher Facing Assault Charge for Alleged Spanking
msharmony's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:08 PM
or the happy supporting the happy,,,,

Dragoness's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:09 PM
Violence should never be perpetrated on children in any name be that discipline or whatever.

msharmony's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:11 PM

Violence should never be perpetrated on children in any name be that discipline or whatever.



I steer clear of NEVER and ALWAYS statements. Everyone is not the same nor is every environment, circumstance or situation. If it works as discipline in combination with love guidance and support,,,it should be used. If its not working or causing issues for the child,, it shouldnt. I dont believe in a one size fits all mode of discipline when it comes to children.

Dragoness's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:15 PM
There is no excuse to perpetrate violence against a child.

If a person uses it as a form of discipline it is because they do not know any better. And there is better.

There is just no excuse for it.

mightymoe's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:17 PM

Violence should never be perpetrated on children in any name be that discipline or whatever.


you do understand what a free country is, right? we are not told how to live our lives, how to raise our children, our what beliefs that we can have. everyone is different, and what seems right to you is not always the right way. you have every right to believe that, but not to tell anyone else that they are wrong for not agreeing with you.

no photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:23 PM


Delusional Happy Spanked Children Anonymous

I think there is a need for a new group like AA.

First comes stop being in denial
Then comes holding all responsible parties responsible
Then comes forgiveness of self and all others.
Then comes healing from the possible PTSD
Then comes denouncing violence against those who are too little to defend themselves publicly.


:thumbsup:
Hello everyone,
I am a post delusional happy spanked child in recovery.

waving

Welcome and have a seat.




I would have to assume (although I hate to) that you were actually not happy for lots of reasons when you were a child, and perhaps for you the discipline was one reason.

I dont think that experience for you is the same experience for all spanked children though or that noone else was or is capable of being a happy child and being spanked just because you werent.

I also dont condone trying to CONVINCE otherwise happy people that they should really be unhappy with their circumstance because we were. For instance, I LOVED sitting alone as a child with my imagination to keep me company and because there were no interruptions. I have heard people say they HATED having to sit still as a child, or sit in their room. They shouldnt be convinced that I really was miserable about it and am in denial because I didnt feel the same way they did. Its like saying one persons emotion is more valid than anothers.

I dont condone abuse and people have very different circumstances in their childhood. To credit their happiness or blame their unhappiness on any one element in their childhood is something only that CHILD can attest to and noone can assume to attest to it for them. I was a very happy child. because I had VERY supportive parents. I was encouraged to believe in myself, I was pushed to do my best, I was loved at every step of the way. I was also given the rules of the home and the consequences ahead of time so that I could make the CHOICE about how to act. IT is when children have balance, whether being spanked or not, that they will be healthy and happy. WHen they get TOO much of anything(spanking, attention, unearned gifts, unhealthy foods) or TOO little of others(love, hugs, assurance, support, balanced meals, responsibility),,that problems occur in their adulthood.


"Balance is key". Always.

Guess what? I was spanked! I am not scarred forever! I survived! But we learn thru life the "pains" of our choices. There are always extremes unfortunately.

Should a teacher hit a child? Its not really right in anyway. There are so many other options without violating policy. Yet, I will say. When I, have had first knowledge of a child getting extremely physical with an adult at SCHOOL and all the adult could do was lie on him taking the hits till the police came. That is wrong. And insult to injury..the parents when spoken too said giggling "oh thats just how he is". Wake up people, we are doing something very wrong!

msharmony's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:24 PM
Edited by msharmony on Sun 08/01/10 03:25 PM


Violence should never be perpetrated on children in any name be that discipline or whatever.


you do understand what a free country is, right? we are not told how to live our lives, how to raise our children, our what beliefs that we can have. everyone is different, and what seems right to you is not always the right way. you have every right to believe that, but not to tell anyone else that they are wrong for not agreeing with you.



NEVER and ALWAYS statements can rarely be debated with any type of reason,,,,

I am healthy and happy, I didnt have violent parents and have never been a violent person, but I was spanked as a child. It worked to teach me boundaries and consequences and I know that as an adult if I commit a crime, noone is going to just sit down with me and politely ask me why I did it and not to do it again, or to go somewhere for forty minutes (they recommend one minute in time out for each year of age) to think about it.

It taught me about the REALISTIC seriousness of lifes consequences when we dont make good choices. I am glad my parents cared enough to teach me those things along with all the other realities of life like love and hard work and perseverence and respect and consideration....

kayak69's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:26 PM

There is no excuse to perpetrate violence against a child.

If a person uses it as a form of discipline it is because they do not know any better. And there is better.

There is just no excuse for it.



OK, now I got itslaphead Silly me.

It's OK for a CHILD to ABUSE an ADULT.slaphead

And the ADULT can't do anything about it.slaphead

And you wonder why so many kids are out of control.

mightymoe's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:26 PM



Violence should never be perpetrated on children in any name be that discipline or whatever.


you do understand what a free country is, right? we are not told how to live our lives, how to raise our children, our what beliefs that we can have. everyone is different, and what seems right to you is not always the right way. you have every right to believe that, but not to tell anyone else that they are wrong for not agreeing with you.



NEVER and ALWAYS statements can rarely be debated with any type of reason,,,,

I am healthy and happy, I didnt have violent parents and have never been a violent person, but I was spanked as a child. It worked to teach me boundaries and consequences and I know that as an adult if I commit a crime, noone is going to just sit down with me and politely ask me why I did it and not to do it again, or to go somewhere for forty minutes to think about it.

It taught me about the REALISTIC seriousness of lifes consequences when we dont make good choices. I am glad my parents cared enough to teach me those things along with all the other realities of life like love and hard work and perseverence and respect and consideration....


i'm just glad i'm not dead or in prison... i can thank my parents for that, i needed the spankings. in school to, they had a big paddle with my name notched the most.

no photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:26 PM



Violence should never be perpetrated on children in any name be that discipline or whatever.


you do understand what a free country is, right? we are not told how to live our lives, how to raise our children, our what beliefs that we can have. everyone is different, and what seems right to you is not always the right way. you have every right to believe that, but not to tell anyone else that they are wrong for not agreeing with you.



NEVER and ALWAYS statements can rarely be debated with any type of reason,,,,

I am healthy and happy, I didnt have violent parents and have never been a violent person, but I was spanked as a child. It worked to teach me boundaries and consequences and I know that as an adult if I commit a crime, noone is going to just sit down with me and politely ask me why I did it and not to do it again, or to go somewhere for forty minutes (they recommend one minute in time out for each year of age) to think about it.

It taught me about the REALISTIC seriousness of lifes consequences when we dont make good choices. I am glad my parents cared enough to teach me those things along with all the other realities of life like love and hard work and perseverence and respect and consideration....



Hope I am allowed to say this...

AMEN girl! :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

Dragoness's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:27 PM
Lets look at the logic.

I have to teach my child about life so what would be the most positive teaching tool?

Oh lets strike them multiple times whenever we judge it necessary.

slaphead


Delusional Happy Spanked Children Anonymous

I think there is a need for a new group like AA.

First comes stop being in denial
Then comes holding all responsible parties responsible
Then comes forgiveness of self and all others.
Then comes healing from the possible PTSD
Then comes denouncing violence against those who are too little to defend themselves publicly.


thumbsup
Hello everyone,
I am a post delusional happy spanked child in recovery.

waving

Welcome and have a seat.

Dragoness's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:29 PM
We beat the children until they are grown when they can finally do the same and then they go to jail for beating others to get them to learnslaphead

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Sun 08/01/10 03:30 PM

We beat the children until they are grown when they can finally do the same and then they go to jail for beating others to get them to learnslaphead


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Dragoness's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:30 PM

This thread has been great fun.


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Sun 08/01/10 03:32 PM


This thread has been great fun.




rofl rofl rofl rofl Yeah your responses CRACK ME UP! smokin smokin drinker drinker rofl rofl rofl

Dragoness's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:33 PM
When did it become good parenting to strike a child and tell them it is because you love them? Just wondering?

kayak69's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:35 PM


This thread has been great fun.






rofl rofl rofl rofl rofl

I love it when you have no answer and you post useless dribble.

It's very entertainingrofl rofl rofl rofl

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kayak69's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:37 PM

When did it become good parenting to strike a child and tell them it is because you love them? Just wondering?



When did it become ok for a CHILD to strike an ADULT?

Dragoness's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:37 PM
What are talking about it is my thread, has been all along.

I had fun with it.

I would really like to know though how long ago it was when striking a child in love became the norm for parenting?

Dragoness's photo
Sun 08/01/10 03:38 PM
I am going to hit you and it shows love.what

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