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Topic: Being Upfront
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Mon 06/15/09 06:57 PM

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Mon 06/15/09 07:01 PM


You know what I'd like to see more of? Men being upfront and honest about things. Now, I'm not saying all men are like this, but from what I've seen and what other women have told me, many men avoid confrontation like the plague. It isn't that difficult to just be upfront about what you're thinking. If something isn't working out, let us know. It can't be that hard.


What kind of confrontation do you mean? Is it difference of opinions, disagreements, or having to compromise?


Confrontation was the wrong word to start with. I meant avoiding conversation because they thought it might cause confrontation. Talking about differences of opinions, disagreements or compromise would be a good thing.

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Mon 06/15/09 07:01 PM
laugh waving OC


Sorry I will refrase that to 95% of men... ok?

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Mon 06/15/09 07:02 PM
I have only been with one person,and that i wish I could take back,I aint one to sleep with just any one,dont sleep around,dont do one night stands dont do any of that crap.


I have more importent things to think about in my life.

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Mon 06/15/09 07:05 PM



You know what I'd like to see more of? Men being upfront and honest about things. Now, I'm not saying all men are like this, but from what I've seen and what other women have told me, many men avoid confrontation like the plague. It isn't that difficult to just be upfront about what you're thinking. If something isn't working out, let us know. It can't be that hard.


What kind of confrontation do you mean? Is it difference of opinions, disagreements, or having to compromise?


Confrontation was the wrong word to start with. I meant avoiding conversation because they thought it might cause confrontation. Talking about differences of opinions, disagreements or compromise would be a good thing.


Some people are uncomfortable doing any of those things. Compromising is important in relationships.

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Mon 06/15/09 08:21 PM


im up front. doesnt help tho.
what up fife, got those peepers checked yet


yup, cataracts grumble and me a mere youngster too!

That's what you ended up having? You're lucky that's all it was.flowerforyou

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Mon 06/15/09 08:29 PM




What is that? :tongue:

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Mon 06/15/09 08:31 PM





What is that? :tongue:
that's a pick of me in the morning...oh wait i think that is a monkey of a sort..

sorry my bad

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Mon 06/15/09 08:41 PM
some kinda monkey lol

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Mon 06/15/09 08:44 PM
It's called a "Proboscis monkey" (proboscis is a technical term for "nose"), and they're known for their overtly-large schnozes. :laughing:

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Mon 06/15/09 08:45 PM

It's called a "Proboscis monkey" (proboscis is a technical term for "nose"), and they're known for their overtly-large schnozes. :laughing:
well you know what they say about schnozes

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Mon 06/15/09 08:48 PM
He's kind of cute with that big nose. laugh

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Mon 06/15/09 08:57 PM
Yeah. They're the only monkey species out there that can do an accurate Jimmy Durante impression- "Ha-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha-cha!"

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Mon 06/15/09 09:37 PM
Edited by Atlantis75 on Mon 06/15/09 09:39 PM

You know what I'd like to see more of? Men being upfront and honest about things. Now, I'm not saying all men are like this, but from what I've seen and what other women have told me, many men avoid confrontation like the plague. It isn't that difficult to just be upfront about what you're thinking. If something isn't working out, let us know. It can't be that hard.


I try to be the least sexist as possible, but if you look back 3-4 decades ago, this "liberating movement" and "equal rights" and so on started and it changed a whole lot of things.

Also the lifestyle. Go see a typical family from the 70s or earlier before, the women role was to stay home , cook and raise the kids.
The guy would work and his paycheck was enough to cover all the bills.

Now you look at today, most women work, and even if they are married, both work just to make enough to pay the bills and still end up in debt.

There is also other effects come from this + add the equal rights movement and so on...basically women are filling in a different role now, and just look...from the 60-70s..all the way back to the cavemen, women has filled in a different sort of role, whether you think it was good or bad.
It has negative effects, such as people are raised differently and think differently.
Essentially, it brings a sort of inferiority or let's say less 'superiority' to the way the men think..whether you think it's good or bad, at the end of the day it's not the men that will suffer, but the women. I'm not saying all men be like that, but it does have a pu$$yfing effect on a large selected group of men.
I know, many is gonna say, what a a$$hole, I might be thinking this way, but just see it yourself or even myself....as men loose their jobs and there are women who work, they don't wanna date a women like that, it hurts their ego, and it has nothing to do with the guy has an ego problem, but it's more like basic instinct...
It makes them feel insecure and so does all the new liberal crap way of thinking, that has done nothing but destruction for relationships.

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Mon 06/15/09 09:46 PM


You know what I'd like to see more of? Men being upfront and honest about things. Now, I'm not saying all men are like this, but from what I've seen and what other women have told me, many men avoid confrontation like the plague. It isn't that difficult to just be upfront about what you're thinking. If something isn't working out, let us know. It can't be that hard.


I try to be the least sexist as possible, but if you look back 3-4 decades ago, this "liberating movement" and "equal rights" and so on started and it changed a whole lot of things.

Also the lifestyle. Go see a typical family from the 70s or earlier before, the women role was to stay home , cook and raise the kids.
The guy would work and his paycheck was enough to cover all the bills.

Now you look at today, most women work, and even if they are married, both work just to make enough to pay the bills and still end up in debt.

There is also other effects come from this + add the equal rights movement and so on...basically women are filling in a different role now, and just look...from the 60-70s..all the way back to the cavemen, women has filled in a different sort of role, whether you think it was good or bad.
It has negative effects, such as people are raised differently and think differently.
Essentially, it brings a sort of inferiority or let's say less 'superiority' to the way the men think..whether you think it's good or bad, at the end of the day it's not the men that will suffer, but the women. I'm not saying all men be like that, but it does have a pu$$yfing effect on a large selected group of men.
I know, many is gonna say, what a a$$hole, I might be thinking this way, but just see it yourself or even myself....as men loose their jobs and there are women who work, they don't wanna date a women like that, it hurts their ego, and it has nothing to do with the guy has an ego problem, but it's more like basic instinct...
It makes them feel insecure and so does all the new liberal crap way of thinking, that has done nothing but destruction for relationships.


Though I do understand the point you're getting at and I do think that society has in some respects gone too far to the other side (meaning feminist side) in terms of values, like empathy being more important than honesty, caring about feelings instead of results. I don't think this has destroyed relationships but rather it's destroyed bad relationships (the woman isn't at the mercy of the man) and allowed better ones to flourish (where both are equal partners).

I came from the typical nuclear family, dad worked mom stayed at home. My dad passed away when he was 50 (I was 20, my sis 23). I was finishing college as was my sis. Good thing we weren't 3yrs old and 6 yrs old and good thing my dad was a doctor who made plenty but we lived frugally. What happens if the father dies young? The wife who has never held a job and has no job experience is just left unable to fend for herself.

I don't think a relationship should be based on ,I have to stay with this person to survive. They should stay with one another because they want to, not because they need to.

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Tue 06/16/09 04:18 AM
Edited by adj4u on Tue 06/16/09 04:18 AM


You know what I'd like to see more of? Men being upfront and honest about things. Now, I'm not saying all men are like this, but from what I've seen and what other women have told me, many men avoid confrontation like the plague. It isn't that difficult to just be upfront about what you're thinking. If something isn't working out, let us know. It can't be that hard.




I swear the only thing men think about is SEX... noway


the only thing women think about is men thinking about sex frustrated

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Tue 06/16/09 05:05 AM
:banana:

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Tue 06/16/09 05:22 AM
I love a woman with a head on her shoulders...because I hate necks!

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Tue 06/16/09 05:32 AM


not only am I upfront but I like to keep things short and sweet flowers


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tongue2 what do you know tongue2 laugh

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Tue 06/16/09 05:33 AM


You know what I'd like to see more of? Men being upfront and honest about things. Now, I'm not saying all men are like this, but from what I've seen and what other women have told me, many men avoid confrontation like the plague. It isn't that difficult to just be upfront about what you're thinking. If something isn't working out, let us know. It can't be that hard.




I swear the only thing men think about is SEX... noway


(whispering)shhhh MsTeddy it's not only the men :wink:

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