Tell them to quit ... that there is a time and a place for everything ... it's called college

I have an 18 yr old son who will be 19 on March 26 and he has openly admitted to smoking pot. I didn't raise him but his father raised him with very high standards so obviously he is just being down right REBELLIOUS. I tell him that pot is the open door to other drugs and he just laughs it off.... all I know is that he is going to have to be accountable for the outcome of what he is sowing...

In the same respect cough medicine is the gateway drug...they always start with cough medicine.

The whole "gateway drug" thing is just some bull**** terminology for common intoxicants that almost everybody tries when they're younger. If it isn't pot then it's alcohol...if not that then cough syrup. What if yr dentist gave you nitrous when you were younger? Would he be responsible for turning you on to getting high. What about the person who offered you yr first cigarrette. Is he to blame if you later become a heroin addict. I've been drinking coffee since age 8...I'm a recovering alcoholic now. Was coffee my "gateway drug". Please...people that want to get high will always get high regardless of what drug is available.

The late great jazz sax player Charlie Parker was given morphine regularly as a child after he broke his leg. He became a life-long heroin addict. So turns out his gateway drug to heroin addiction was heroin.

People just assume and generalize. Sure...I've tried harder drugs than pot...but I never got hooked on any of them, and I always go back to weed. I also know a lot of people that JUST smoke weed, and dont use any harder drugs.

I never understood the whole fascination with cocaine or meth. I LIKE to sleep and eat.

Speaking from experience, POT was the gateway to MY DRUG ADDICTIONS ... I have been sober and drug free for almost 8 years now...

Congratulations. I'm not trying to cause any arguements or anything...I just feel that instead of focusing on what starts out people on the road to addiction or trying to make addicts criminals or criminalize certain drugs we should be focusing on recovery. Addicts will always be addicts. Locking them up won't change that. I've never met an addict who wouldn't use a drug just because it was illegal...but I know addicts who quit when they were better educated about the nature of their illness/addiction.

Congratulations.

Yea...that's wonderful Ghostwhispers. Hopefully others can learn by your example.

We'd have a talk about why, what need the pot seems to fill, and then discuss that there are other alternatives that are not unhealthy for your body. We will also make sure it is known that there is to be no drugs in my home, or our vehicles EVER. I don't want my other children, or myself put in jail because my sixteen year old has a stash of marijuana on her and and tosses it when we get pulled over for a tail light out while we are riding in it.

Even if you go for the argument that it should be legalized, the thin is that it isn't at this time, and can have some consequences if you are caught with it. Is it really worth having a criminal record?

I don't know what else I could do. You can't really control everything your kid does as a teenager, all you can do is equip them with an education, make sure they are aware of possible consequences including health ones............and possibly deal out consequences when they, say smoke it in their bedroom and you catch them.

i'd tell my child that if he was to smoke pot..not to inhale ..and he too could one day be president...

OMGoodness! rofl

Good one!

she is?


i did?



i`m going to ring that little girls neck


see you guys when i`m done

Find out if they have better connections and make them introduce me if they do!!!!

I went thru this exact scenario this past yr with my 16 yr old son. First, I was just happy that he actually told me. Too few kids now days will go to their parents for precisely the reasons I see in some of the previous posts. The last thing they need is to be made to feel like a piece of crap by being threatened or screamed at, especially by the people that are by far the most important influences in their life.

I would prefer he didn't use and I made that clear, however I allow it with conditions. I can't be mad at him because he's grown up around it and he's mature enough to make his own decisions. He's also old enough to face the consequences of those decisions which I made very clear to him as far as getting caught wih it goes, and what it could cost him. What I also did was put down rules like I would for any other privelege he gets. If the grades drop, if his other responsibilities aren't being met, if his attitude becomes disrespectful, then he won't get to smoke.

I personally believe honesty and trust go farther in parenting than anything else. Disapproval just pushes them farther away in the exact direction you don't want them to go in the first place. Smoking marijuana is illegal, but I know plenty of people that smoke daily and lead responsible, normal lives. They pay their bills, are good parents, go to work everyday in professional jobs. I personally believe alcohol and prescription drugs are more detrimental to people than pot, and we glamorize those in the media. Prime example: But pot smokers are bad, bad, bad. That's a load of crap. My kid is a great kid who happens to smoke pot now. But he does NOT like to smoke cigs, drink, degrade or abuse girls, disrespect adults, or get into fights. With society the way it is today for teenagers, if you find out your kid is smoking pot, I say pick your battles, and this scenario doesn't really warrant one. Arse kicking should be saved for serious stuff.

since i've no children, i would have to say that by the time my future childrew would be old enuf to do such things, it would probably already be legal. so as long as they were old enuf for it to be legal for them, then it's their lives to do with as they please.

I don't have any children yet, but I've smoked pot and it isn't that bad for you. I'd just tell them about pot. I'd tell them don't drive afterward, make sure to have plenty of snack food around when they do. Don't drink while smoking pot, because it's just going to make you want more alcohol and then you won't be able to feel the affects of the booze. I'd say that pots fine if you want to use it, as long as it's just every once in a while, and you're not doing hard drugs. Not to do any other hard drugs because I won't put up with that. A child has to make their own mistakes, and i'd rather have my kid smoking pot than injecting heroine or smoking crack. So if the kid likes pot let them smoke pot, just monitor it.

Yeah, but if they try pot...they are guaranteed to be addicted to harder drugs.